I need some advice 🥺

Stop worrying about him. Stop worrying about his kid. Stop worrying about anyone else. What is it that you need to be able to move on from this? Do you need to report him? Will that help you find resolution and inner peace? Then do that. Will forgiving him in your heart give you comfort? Then do that.

Your only concern — indeed, your only responsibility in this situation — is to yourself. You were the one hurt. What do you think will help you find relief from that pain?

They may be able to prosecute him but it's obviously not guaranteed. That aside, he made his bed and whatever is visited upon his life is his doing. You should not feel at all responsible for his downfall by holding him to account for his actions. If I go out and kill someone and I have a child then it's my fault if I go to prison and leave my child without a father. It's not the victim's fault.

What you could do is to seek legal advice from a lawyer. They might be able to advise you on the realistic chance of a successful prosecution, were you to take this to the police.

First off, I would advise you to completely discount everything he tells you about himself. He's had success manipulating you in the past, and manipulation is one of his favorite methods, so mistrust what he tells you. Problem is recidivism rates are pretty high among child molesters. So he may just be trying to buy more time to molest more girls. Based on recidivism stats it's not unlikely.

Your concerns are valid concerns. But I think they each have balancing concerns.

What if reporting him wrecks his life? How many lives has he wrecked already? How many more might he wreck?

What about his child? Could go either way - he could turn into a good dad, or he could molest his own daughter.

What if he commits suicide? That's his choice. If he's like Epstein and can't live in a world where he can't molest, then suicide may be best all around.

Ultimately, you are not responsible for either his behavior OR how society deals with it. Ultimately, he's already chosen his path in life - repeated molestation of multiple victims. If he's cleaned up his life, if he's become a good dad, a judge will take that into account in sentencing if he gets convicted. If he's continuing his pattern, then you are doing your community a GIANT favor by reporting and putting a stop to his monstrous behavior.

Remember, whatever he does is NOT your fault!!!
Reporting him will bring some uncomfortable moments, but all in all it’s the right thing to do.

You could report him and even though he’s not charged and convicted he could be on the radar for the local police if something came up such as someone matching his description was hanging around a school or trying to pick up a student waiting at a bus stop. My nephew was abused by a neighbor who had adopted twins and was using them for bait. My sister didn’t know this until the boy grew up and ended up in prison on drug charges. I asked her if he had ever reported this guy. And she said no. I asked her if she reported him to police, she said no her son didn’t want to file charges. I told her pedophiles are predators and living right around the corner from her on the same street with a school down the road he was probably going to continue and she needed to think about that if she let him slide. Last I heard he was living way out in the country because it’s illegal for sex offenders to be living close to schools, daycare centers, or parks. I believe she did report him & they had something on him.

That’s retribution and doesn’t help anything. Now if he’s an active sexual predator then sure, but no prosecutor is going to touch that case

Remember, if you decided to report him, it's his own actions coming back to haunt him. They have certainly haunted you. Whatever the result, it's his behavior that is in question.

The guilty party is him not you, in this.
There is a saying a leopard doesn't change his spots, by not acting you could actually be enabling him to do the same to another young girl time and time again.
Inform the authories about what you know about him let them decide what course of action they need to follow, you said he has a child she could be his next victim. I know a young woman whose own father raped her almost daily from the age of 16 and fiddled on her for several years before that.

Best to talk it over with your therapist, I think. I think it's unlikely that such people change, but your therapist may know a lot more about that. My guess would be that society is safer with him in prison.

He tried to kill himself 7 times years back and still is alive on this day? Any permanent injury from those attempts? Are you sure those were real attempts? It may be part of a manipulation scheme. I'm no expert on this, but it feels fishy.

Maybe he will ruin his kids life all I will say is go with your head not your heart

You can always look at like, will the next victum, or the next

It would be his fault. You deserve closure.

I agree with others. You need to do whstever it is that lets you move on with inner peace. How it affects him is secondary, at best. You need to only condider each option and hiw it will affect your mental state. How it affects him and his family is not the primary concern. You are.

What ruined her life was being cursed with a pedophile father youre saving her and her little girls friends cuz one day they will be young teens like he likes them i hope you see him burn and then he gets his day behind bars

All that aside, he gotta pay for what he did anyways

Dear,can we talk about dis in pm

move on

I understand what you’re saying

I’m sorry you had to experience that - please remember you’re not the criminals here, it’s not yours to carry on your conscience it’s on his and Karma is ready when he least expects it.

It’s not for you to worry about his girlfriend or kid Cassie.

He’s the one that did all the bad things here. He’s the one that would do it all over again.

If it will help you to charge him then do it but if it’s going to cause more grief then don’t.

Either way, you need to work through this so it doesn’t consume your life. You deserve to be happy.

So what if it ruin his disgusting lie of a life. He did something that is very inappropriate and has hurt u and likely others. U should def report his dumb ass. He need to pay a lesson. Dont let him get off free and do it to others