I need some advice 🥺

I showed my therapist the conversation I had with the guy that groomed me and my friends. And the conversation my friend sent me.. I also told her about what he did..

Now, she asked if I’ve ever reported him, I said no, she then said that we’ll talk more about it next week, but that reporting him is an option, and specially since I have evidence..

I’ve never seen it as an option, cause it’s so long ago, and the thought of talking to the police literally gives me anxiety..

Also.. He has a kid now. What if I report and that ruins her life? And what if he’s changed, and actually is a good person now and then I ruin that. Aaaaand he’s tried to kill himself 7 times, one of them he blamed me for, what if he does it and it’s my fault..

My head is spinning..

And what can they even do?

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cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

You could report him and even though he’s not charged and convicted he could be on the radar for the local police if something came up such as someone matching his description was hanging around a school or trying to pick up a student waiting at a bus stop. My nephew was abused by a neighbor who had adopted twins and was using them for bait. My sister didn’t know this until the boy grew up and ended up in prison on drug charges. I asked her if he had ever reported this guy. And she said no. I asked her if she reported him to police, she said no her son didn’t want to file charges. I told her pedophiles are predators and living right around the corner from her on the same street with a school down the road he was probably going to continue and she needed to think about that if she let him slide. Last I heard he was living way out in the country because it’s illegal for sex offenders to be living close to schools, daycare centers, or parks. I believe she did report him & they had something on him.