I need some advice 🥺

I showed my therapist the conversation I had with the guy that groomed me and my friends. And the conversation my friend sent me.. I also told her about what he did..

Now, she asked if I’ve ever reported him, I said no, she then said that we’ll talk more about it next week, but that reporting him is an option, and specially since I have evidence..

I’ve never seen it as an option, cause it’s so long ago, and the thought of talking to the police literally gives me anxiety..

Also.. He has a kid now. What if I report and that ruins her life? And what if he’s changed, and actually is a good person now and then I ruin that. Aaaaand he’s tried to kill himself 7 times, one of them he blamed me for, what if he does it and it’s my fault..

My head is spinning..

And what can they even do?

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iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

It’s not for you to worry about his girlfriend or kid Cassie.

He’s the one that did all the bad things here. He’s the one that would do it all over again.

If it will help you to charge him then do it but if it’s going to cause more grief then don’t.

Either way, you need to work through this so it doesn’t consume your life. You deserve to be happy.

SW-User

@iamonfire696 I will talk to my therapist about it, but the look on her face when she was reading the messages kinda hurt^^ I think I struggle to believe in my own judgment..

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@SW-User I understand stand this so well. When I have told people about things in my childhood or just my health struggles now and I think oh it’s no big deal and they look at me like “WTF, how are you coping”.

You just don’t realize yourself how bad things were and are because you have been surviving in it for so long that it’s normal to you.