I need some advice 🥺

I showed my therapist the conversation I had with the guy that groomed me and my friends. And the conversation my friend sent me.. I also told her about what he did..

Now, she asked if I’ve ever reported him, I said no, she then said that we’ll talk more about it next week, but that reporting him is an option, and specially since I have evidence..

I’ve never seen it as an option, cause it’s so long ago, and the thought of talking to the police literally gives me anxiety..

Also.. He has a kid now. What if I report and that ruins her life? And what if he’s changed, and actually is a good person now and then I ruin that. Aaaaand he’s tried to kill himself 7 times, one of them he blamed me for, what if he does it and it’s my fault..

My head is spinning..

And what can they even do?

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SW-User

They may be able to prosecute him but it's obviously not guaranteed. That aside, he made his bed and whatever is visited upon his life is his doing. You should not feel at all responsible for his downfall by holding him to account for his actions. If I go out and kill someone and I have a child then it's my fault if I go to prison and leave my child without a father. It's not the victim's fault.

What you could do is to seek legal advice from a lawyer. They might be able to advise you on the realistic chance of a successful prosecution, were you to take this to the police.

SW-User

@SW-User Yes, but this happened so long ago, and I was 2yrs when my dad was arrested, can't imagine doing that to her. But then I'm also thinking what if he's not changed.. 😣 I'll talk about it with my therapist next week, see what she says🥺