I need some advice 🥺

I showed my therapist the conversation I had with the guy that groomed me and my friends. And the conversation my friend sent me.. I also told her about what he did..

Now, she asked if I’ve ever reported him, I said no, she then said that we’ll talk more about it next week, but that reporting him is an option, and specially since I have evidence..

I’ve never seen it as an option, cause it’s so long ago, and the thought of talking to the police literally gives me anxiety..

Also.. He has a kid now. What if I report and that ruins her life? And what if he’s changed, and actually is a good person now and then I ruin that. Aaaaand he’s tried to kill himself 7 times, one of them he blamed me for, what if he does it and it’s my fault..

My head is spinning..

And what can they even do?

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DunningKruger · 61-69, M

Stop worrying about him. Stop worrying about his kid. Stop worrying about anyone else. What is it that you need to be able to move on from this? Do you need to report him? Will that help you find resolution and inner peace? Then do that. Will forgiving him in your heart give you comfort? Then do that.

Your only concern — indeed, your only responsibility in this situation — is to yourself. You were the one hurt. What do you think will help you find relief from that pain?

SW-User

@DunningKruger I know I care way too much about other people, even if they hurt me.. 😣 I don't know what will help me, I thought confronting him would help, it didn't.. I'm also thinking that it could've been worse, so maybe it's not a big deal, or that the police won't find it to be a big deal or something..

DunningKruger · 61-69, M

@SW-User It's a sad reality that this sort of crime often doesn't get prosecuted, especially after this much time has passed. Caring for other people is not a bad thing, but even so, you have to prioritize yourself sometimes.

I hope that you are able to find whatever it is that you need in order to heal your wounds. Life is too short to spend it in pain.