People are usually asked to give a eulogy by the immediate family. You should send it as a note to the family and address it as what you'd like to say about your friend if you could be there. Then they have the choice to include it. At the very least, the grieving family will appreciate the note.

I personally haven't seen it done, but I think it would be perfectly acceptable. The only planning consideration would be whether the person that you ask to deliver it may also intend to deliver his/her own eulogy. And that may be awkward if both eulogies are long and similar.

One work-around for multiple long eulogies that I've seen was to deliver them in different sessions, where there are multiple opportunities. Like some funerals have a day prior wake, then a funeral service the next day, then a burial at the grave site after the funeral, and where all three events have opportunities for eulogies.

It is best to send your "eulogy" or comments to the family, not requesting that it be read, but giving permission to use any of it that they might want to use. If there is a particular item they want to use, their speaker can work it into his/her message. I have been involved in over 75 funerals and have seen this done several times.

It's a good thought but I'm not sure that's appropriate. I think there's some solid comment already on what might be a better option.

funerals have gotten so individual these days.

sometimes it is a celebration of life and many people get up to pay their respects.

that being said - you could send it to the family and say "I can't be there but if I could I would love to add my voice. if this can't be read please know this is how I felt about them. I feel your loss."

Well I could be wrong but people are asked to write one by the family I do not think you can just write it yourself because it has to be arranged in the service and it it is written in the menue . Or what ever the call the pamphlet that is given out as you walk in. Maybe send a card to the family.

Funerals are often very personally arranged.
If you know the deceased's family probably best to ask if that's the right place for it.

Or maybe take out a section of the BDM column in the local paper and place it there

it can be done, you may better off to record yourself reading it and maybe they can play it in the funeral home, OR make a donation gift in the friends name to a charity they would have supported

Thats unusual.. And peronally I wouldnt consider it unless I had a particular story regarding the deceased I wanted to tell. Maybe sending flower. But a lot of the time requests go for "No flowers".😷

Yes or have a private rememberance review your memories of them write some tjoughts burn an ephagy or namesake you could videochat someine that is able to attend while they attend or talk with frjends about them.

I'd write a letter to the family. They will appreciate it and there may be things you say they then want to include in the eulogy.

@emily67 yes that seems a nice gesture and a good compromise speak too the family too about your idea

@emily67 Send some money, a couple hundred or even a couple thousand.

Yes. If you have a friend who is willing to help you, YES, absolutely.

Here people normally just send a wreath or flowers in their name.

Talk to the person family about this

thanks for all your replies. :)

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