It depends on the woman I guess. If she is traditional and doesnt have all the femenist hang ups about having to change for a man or implied ownership then absolutely. If not she needs to discuss it with him before accepting his proposal. He may be traditional and be offended by his fiance's unwillingness to take his name after they are married.

If it's really important to them to keep their name, (for example, there were only girls born in their family and it's a cool or famous name), then women can begin to use their maiden name as their middle name.

Hispanic women AND men do this already, hence all the hyphenated last names.

I work on family trees ALL the time, and I certainly do wish that in early American records women's maiden names had been considered important enough...BY ANYONE AT ALL...to include in their marriage records, on their gravestones, or by their own families.

It’s very much a personal choice - my sister took her husbands name but retained her maiden name for her work as a lawyer 🙂

Women need to be careful my old school friend Annette Price, married David Curtain.

She is now Annette Curtain!!

Feminism has destroyed western culture.

It’s up to them really. My wife didn’t.

Not our decision. Another thing I think women should have the choice on. It certainly simplifies some things, particularly when it comes to children later, as far as clear delineation of family units. But aside from the nuisance of changing all the legal identification documentation, I can't imagine the personal cost of essentially changing your identity and self-image at an age, in most cases, where you are just begin finding comfort in who you are. Or were, before it became nee.

Hmmmm. Depends! Keep the better surname, I say. For example, my ex hubby was a Duponte, which was much better than Butter, mine...So, after we split, I kept that! Same with Pat Benatar, so I am led to believe!

So...fast forward to the present, and I am married to a woman and she's kept her surname but added mine!

So...a Duponte-Durose for her....and it sounds cool too!

☺️

SJD x

Yes unless it's an extremely silly one :)

We don't do it here anyways. It's pointless in my book.

I've learned that in order to be married even legally you do not have to take on the man's last name at all. The man can even take on the woman's last name.

If I got married I wouldn’t mind changing my surname to mark a new phase of my life, and adding new people to my family. So long as it’s nothing funny 🙂

It's up to the woman but more and more women are choosing not to. I only changed my name for immigration purposes. If I didn't have to do it because of that, I would not have changed it

Not if it ends in Z. I hate being last when they go in alphabetical order.

Naming something in this regards tend to imply ownership of that thing... Maybe this could be a good place to start with evening things up

No, it’ll make the eventual divorce easier

Yes. It's in the Bible

Not it they don't want to, 🤷 it wouldn't matter to me either way.

Sure. That's the way it's always been. No reason to change it

They don't legally change their name they just use their partner's. Essentially using an alias. They sign the marriage certificate in their maiden name.

Only way to legally change it is by deed poll.

After the divorce they just go back and use their maiden name...no legal stuff required.

Because of the hastle with changing Social Security and various stocks my wife didn't officially. We arranged with the bank so they would accept both. The only trouble was from time to time friends gad trouble finding her in the hospital. She would answer to either.

in the state in the US where I live either party may
1) keep their name
2) hyphenate it to include both names
3) take the other person's name or (I think)
4) take a completely different name

It seems to me that some countries don't require it.

As The Bard once said "a rose by any other name"

Only if they want

@nedkelly yes they should it is an old fashioned tradition to take your husbands name .except stacey cooke ned who will of changed her back after divorcing a wife beating ex united player 😆

It's her call.

I would

I think women should do what they want 🙂

I, personally, cannot imagine having a different last name from my children.

It's just tradition to show you're married and spoken for, my wife didn't change hers just added mine behind hers.

I've known several couples who double-barrelled both surnames, so neither lost their name

Feminists would say, "man should take her last name
And woman should take his first name."

My sister didn't change hers when she got Married she kept the Olinger Name

It's their choice...they may if they wish, but aren't required to do so

I wouldn't give up my family name, so why should anyone else do it ?

is it hard to change her instagram? she should decide..

I would love to have Kelly as my last name 🤫

No, it should be optional.

Guess it's up to the couple.

They should do as they wish

I did but it's up to them

I think it's upon them.

If they want to 🤷‍♀️

It is up to them

I never

I would expect it. They both did though.im so happy they dont have my name anymore. I'm sure they feel the same way. Lol

Its up to the woman really

It’s all about their choice.

It's up to them.

it’s up to her ig. she doesn’t have to

I think it’s up to the individual if the name they carry is important to them then they should choose what matters for them.

I got my name hyphenated.
Not because of feminist hang ups but a combination of liking my own last name quite a lot & I didn’t want my fathers name to die. My sons name is also hyphenated. It hasn’t been an issue for my husband. 😊