Why is everyone here seemingly disappointed in marriage? I will not have it.

Will have been married 56 years come mid December. Hasn't always been smooth sailing but always secure. Met my lady when I was 15 and married her when I was 19. We did some dumb things and learned from our mistakes. But now as life is nearing the end I can say we have completed each other. Would not have wanted it another way.

Unfortunately that opinion about marriages is going to happen considering each one is different, many times the two involved in them changing over time and ending up wanting different things. He and I married young and we definitely changed over the course of the 20 years we’ve been together. But as we changed we kept each other in the loop the entire time. Communicated a ton, the D word being brought up a couple times in those serious conversations. We worked through each obstacle together though and became each other’s person more and more because of it.

Well as Lady Mary from Downton said: Marriage is a novel, not a short story. There will be ups and downs but hopefully with love , dedication and same family goals everything would be alright.

Will be married 20 years in January.

Best decision I made in my life.

Wouldn't have it any other way.

the whole unhappy marriage and divorce statistics is very sad :(

Aren’t you married to like half the women here?

I'm happily married.

I love my husband. I'd love him still if we werent tied together by a piece of paper too. We're not always happy. But we'd never consider anyone else.

I've never even been in a relationship so can't say but marriage is a lovely institution

I am very happily married.....I have been now for 17 years. 💖

Glad you're happy. Before marrying someone you MUST know EVERYTHING about that person's culture and their family. When I say everything I mean everything.

Otherwise you will have left where your life was for a wife who is a pushover to her family and who has zero friends and who, despite being a fully grown woman still lets her family's perception make her decisions.

Don't rush marriage and end up in a miserable one.

am here for marriage

I am not against marriage, but I'm pretty sure I will never be married. I'm already 43 and I turned down a proposal in my 20s, and accepted a proposal in my 30s but ended the engagement after a while.

I just haven't found anyone I trust enough to marry.

The the people who aren't here are happily married.. the rest come here to rant and complain 😄

Many possible reasons for complaining.
- to let off steam in an anonymous environment;
- to seek advice;
- to hint at readiness for an affair;
- to express disillusionment;
- fear of saying what's necessary to the spouse to resolve issues;
- lack of communication &/or relationship skills;
- to engage with others in centuries-old jokes...

I'm reasonably content with my marriage of 40 years.
We've had some major problems and have managed to resolve them.
We share deep friendship and amicable love. Aging does change things.
Sharing regular time doing enjoyable things is important; we share at leas t one or two days a week together.

My ways of dealing with most things...
Expecting any kind of "perfection" (or even "excellence") guarantees failure.
Not expecting the other to be capable of fulfilling all ones needs is essential;
instead one must learn to meet one's own needs so one's S.O. is never obliged and always has choice.
Respecting one's partner's right to their values and choices is essential.
Not rescuing them from their errors (letting them learn from their consequences), is just as important.
But being there to support each other in work, illness, emotions etc - that is vital.

Meh. It's an outdated concept that's nothing more than a financial arrangement nowadays. I say this as a married woman.

I’ve seen lots of happily married people. 💕💕

We weren't married but happily living together until we weren't

I've only been married for 3 years, but I am happily married and have no regrets. My wife and I were boyfriend and girlfriend for 8 years before we got married. There hasn't been any doubt since then of whom I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

I WAS happily married for about 15 years.

Unfortunately, if your partner takes drugs, personality changes are almost guaranteed, and you end up married to a psychotic person.

Oh, we’re doing to ceremony next summer or winter for family, but ‘we’re married’ in practice’ so to speak. We’re very happy. 😊

I'm not disappointed in marriage... I've never been married... I just don't see it in my future. 🤷‍♀️

It's a lot of work
But with time and lots of hard work on both sides it's very possible

I adore her. She’s my everything. We got married on Jan 1st of this year and I cannot imagine my life without her in it. This was our wedding song. 🖤

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Do you mean litterally married or does common law count?

I was happily married. I still believe in it .

Yeah, I want to get married eventually

I am happily married 🤗💝💝💝🤗