Why is everyone here seemingly disappointed in marriage? I will not have it.
Marriage is a beautiful thing. Please comment if you are/were happily married.
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Many possible reasons for complaining.
- to let off steam in an anonymous environment;
- to seek advice;
- to hint at readiness for an affair;
- to express disillusionment;
- fear of saying what's necessary to the spouse to resolve issues;
- lack of communication &/or relationship skills;
- to engage with others in centuries-old jokes...
I'm reasonably content with my marriage of 40 years.
We've had some major problems and have managed to resolve them.
We share deep friendship and amicable love. Aging does change things.
Sharing regular time doing enjoyable things is important; we share at leas t one or two days a week together.
My ways of dealing with most things...
Expecting any kind of "perfection" (or even "excellence") guarantees failure.
Not expecting the other to be capable of fulfilling all ones needs is essential;
instead one must learn to meet one's own needs so one's S.O. is never obliged and always has choice.
Respecting one's partner's right to their values and choices is essential.
Not rescuing them from their errors (letting them learn from their consequences), is just as important.
But being there to support each other in work, illness, emotions etc - that is vital.
- to let off steam in an anonymous environment;
- to seek advice;
- to hint at readiness for an affair;
- to express disillusionment;
- fear of saying what's necessary to the spouse to resolve issues;
- lack of communication &/or relationship skills;
- to engage with others in centuries-old jokes...
I'm reasonably content with my marriage of 40 years.
We've had some major problems and have managed to resolve them.
We share deep friendship and amicable love. Aging does change things.
Sharing regular time doing enjoyable things is important; we share at leas t one or two days a week together.
My ways of dealing with most things...
Expecting any kind of "perfection" (or even "excellence") guarantees failure.
Not expecting the other to be capable of fulfilling all ones needs is essential;
instead one must learn to meet one's own needs so one's S.O. is never obliged and always has choice.
Respecting one's partner's right to their values and choices is essential.
Not rescuing them from their errors (letting them learn from their consequences), is just as important.
But being there to support each other in work, illness, emotions etc - that is vital.