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I Live In a Sexless Marriage

Today I was turned 34. the only person who did NOT acknowledge my birthday was my husband.

Not surprised at all, and yet I'm still thinking about birthday sex. I have never had birthday sex. My spouse has never done anything nice for me for my birthday. He doesn't believe in celebrating birthdays, unless its someone with a spiritual importance.

Other than that, not happening.

Do others refusers do anything for them at all? acknowledge it at all?

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Dsprthusband · 51-55, M

Nothing sexual or even physical. I used to get something on my birthday Christmas and Father’s Day Not anymore

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Dsprthusband · 51-55, M

Well, he can celebrate his own birthday or not but he should acknowledge yours in any way that you would like.@darktippedrose

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@Dsprthusband not happening but my kids do

Dsprthusband · 51-55, M

At least that is something for you. It’s not the same as having someone want you. IT is a great joy to have them to remind you that life can be good. It is better with a little sex but they don’t need to know about that. @darktippedrose

PoetryNEmotion · F

Get out. Divorce him before you become old and grey and realize you have wasted your entire life. Why should it surprise you in the slightest that he didn't celebrate your birthday with you? C'mon, girl, wise up. You are worth so much more than this.

indyjoe · 56-60, M

My wife does acknowledge my birthday and does get me a gift or two as do I for her. However, I have never in my life had birthday sex...never been offered or given. neither have I ever had sex for any holiday or special occasion (no Christmas, new year's, valentine's, anniversary, etc.). It's a little disappointing (especially if I'd really like it to be a part of the celebration), but I've pretty much gotten used to it and have accepted that not everyone's mindset is geared that way....it's just not something they think about and my wife just happens to be one of them. She's so good to me the rest of the times so I've learned to live with it. Special occasion sex would be nice, as would sex offered to comfort and/or relieve tension and stress....but we can't always have everything we'd like.☺

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Collegegirl23 · 26-30, F

@Mastermadman care to talk about it?

Collegegirl23 · 26-30, F

@Sens19 hmmmm

Sens19 · 41-45, M

@Collegegirl23 a good "hmmmm" or a bad "hmmmm" lol

IronHamster · 56-60, M

I do not have words to describe your husband, given all we know. Trash, shitbag, asshole, no, they are all far to mild.

You need to let go of any idea he is redeemable and figure out how to get out of there.

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@IronHamster I am trying to train myself to emotionally detach myself. But sometimes its hard. Sometimes he's the only adult voice I get all day.

IronHamster · 56-60, M

😢

english · 56-60, M

dam if you my wife you would be sitting on my face 😊

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darktippedrose · 36-40, F

I've tried telling him that before. I'm wetter for sex if I cum first. And also more relaxed for thrusting. But during foreplay years ago, he'd tire himself out but going straight for me clit. And it hurt. I tried telling him that the farther you are from my Princess Parts, the more aroused i'll get. But some men don't listen. so ......

Master1A · 70-79, M

@darktippedrose LOL. He is SOOOOOO wrong. Obviously.. Master1A

braveheart21 · 61-69, M

@Master1A i have very similar conversations with this wonderful lady and her predicament has been ongoing for a long time....the man is obviously short on many brain cells lol

Jimgeneration60 · 61-69, M

HAPPY BIRTHDAY DARKTIPPEDROSE..I am sorry you didnt get that fun loving attention your heart so desires,,I do understand that because I have a oldest son who is around but the same is not that caring loving type to make you simply just smile to have a good day,, so it seems popular that little love exist today,

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darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@Jimgeneration60 I study middle-eastern dancing, of all kinds. I mostly just do it at home for stress release

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darktippedrose · 36-40, F

oh wow. you weren't scared?

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darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@RemovedUsername832965 thank you. Unfortunately, my husband doesn't believe in stuff like that.

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indyjoe · 56-60, M

My wife and I are much alike in so many ways and we share quite a bit in common, but sex is one area where we do differ somewhat. I'm not a "sex hungry beast" by any means, but sex is a bit more important to me than it is to her...that's just how it is. I always try to make my wife feel special, loved, and desired (and she does that for me for the most part). There is much more to a good relationship/marriage than sex, and that's not the main reason I love her and married her. I'm very happy and content with what we have and share, but a more eventful and fulfilling sex life would be awesome...I can't complain though, not everything in life is 100% perfect.☺

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darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@indyjoe yeah I don't think that he will either. Sometimes I look at my kids and step-kids and shake it off when I see too much of him in them. I just hope they have enough positive influence to shake it off.

indyjoe · 56-60, M

Hopefully they will. I know that I am the way I am now, not because I had positive influences per se (though I observed and learned from others in good relationships), but because of the things I went through and I determined early on that I'd never want anyone to go through that because of me.

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@indyjoe yes I understand. I think thats part of why I'm still in my bad marriage. I don't want my kids to have my childhood.

ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

Hi. I'm sorry that happened.:( (or didn't happen in this case)
Mine does acknowledge but certainly no sex or any sort of affection which...at this point I no longer want from him. Still, it's difficult to know that something that should be so normal is not. ((hug))

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@ravenwind43 hugz. Yeah I was prepared for the sex hungry ogre. Its like being little red riding hood and the big bad wolf was just a big wimp. grrrrrrr.

Mktonght · 61-69, M

Well I don't want to be just another me to poster, however it seems to me after reading not only this post but others from you, that you were married just to become a in house free babysitter. Step kids, your kids? well there was at least breeding in the marriage.
I don't know if you are a religious person at all, but the only true marriage is a caring nurturing partnership between a man and a woman. Each giving up their selfish desires for the good of the other. Your a victim not a wife if even 50% of what you post is true.
What kind of message are you sending the kids? Be a doormat for your husband and if they are boys, be a cruel self centered man? I believe you at the very least need to get counseling alone. Perhaps there is also physical abuse besides the emotional and mental abuse going on.

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Mktonght · 61-69, M

Me making assumptions before talking with you and just reading posts is not fair. I appolgize.

Master1A · 70-79, M

@darktippedrose I'm sure with your background male dominance is considered the norm for your social group. not that it is in anyway right.

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

I don't mind male dominance, when its sexy lol. But other than that, agreement must be mutual. NOt just one person making up all the rules.

account123 · 80-89, M

My wife fucked on my 74 th birthday
She was prepared properly with shaved pussy.

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indyjoe · 56-60, M

@account123 I remember when I was younger thinking the same thing...that old(er) people just didn't "do it" anymore, and I dreaded getting older because of that. I was relieved, shocked, intrigued, fascinated, and actually endeared to the thought when I found out otherwise...I was still fairly young at that time too. And unlike a lot of people my age, I never thought of it as "gross" and disgusting either (it actually made me look at older people in a new light wondering who was doing it and who wasn't).😏

Collegegirl23 · 26-30, F

@account123 hmmm then I guess my health won't be so great since am a virgin waiting for marriage

account123 · 80-89, M

@Collegegirl23

No harm in being virgin.
Once you in sex in your life
You will start to enjoy.

ticklerguy · M

Offers U a Birthday Spanking

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ticklerguy · M

@darktippedrose Then clearly a spanking is due

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@ticklerguy lol

ticklerguy · M

@darktippedrose Then after,I'd do as I pleased :)

Nobody28 · M

If I had a wife I'd remember her birthday happy birthday late id offer you a compliment but I'm in my late 20's and all

Nobody28 · M

I'm sorry you went through that I'd remember your birthday and sleep with you he isn't worthy of you

Master1A · 70-79, M

Sorry for your spouses lack of caring. Belated happy birthday.. Master1A

account123 · 80-89, M

Put a reminder on his mobile phone.
With an alert at one week and one day
Repeated yearly.
That is what I have done for my wife.
Phone Never forgets.

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darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@account123 oh I highly doubt that. He doesn't listen to me.

account123 · 80-89, M

@darktippedrose

The art of a good wife is to slowly train her husband into civilisation and gradually change his thinking ability.
People can change with planned manoeuvres like the politicians change opinions by repeating their views which eventually convinces many.

You can make him yours by learning some nice tongue work on his Cock when you give him the best penis in mouth time.

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@account123 like 6-7 years ago, my husband said something mean to me after I gave him oral. I'm never doing it again.

Johnny1 · 41-45, M

Refusers are selfish, so acknowledgement is a nod to acceptance of their own behavior. Therefore, even birthdays areally just another day. I suspect that a group of sexually shunned people would be the hottest place to meet!

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@Johnny1 yes, it is brutal. its no fun at all. Are you also in a sexless marriage?

Johnny1 · 41-45, M

Yes. Have to beg for 1x month

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@Johnny1 omg, I remember the days when I thought I was dying when my husband wouldn't touch me more than once a week. And now I haven't had sex in 5 years.

indyjoe · 56-60, M

A very happy birthday from me to you🤠

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@indyjoe thank you.

iagreed · 61-69, M

Happy Birthday🥂🎂

SW-User

I would give you birthday sex on anyone's birthday. Any excuse will do me. I would give you sex for any anniversary or occasion. Lets celebrate everything by wrestling naked together.