I Live In a Sexless Marriage

Today I was turned 34. the only person who did NOT acknowledge my birthday was my husband.

Not surprised at all, and yet I'm still thinking about birthday sex. I have never had birthday sex. My spouse has never done anything nice for me for my birthday. He doesn't believe in celebrating birthdays, unless its someone with a spiritual importance.

Other than that, not happening.

Do others refusers do anything for them at all? acknowledge it at all?

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english · 56-60, M

dam if you my wife you would be sitting on my face 😊

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@english my husband hates stuff like that.

braveheart21 · 61-69, M

@darktippedrose but do you like that sort of thing..a man eating your pussy or you sucking cock

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@braveheart21 I've never really had a man give me oral. My husband tried it, it kind of hurt and he felt degraded by it. I do like going down on a man, but only if he's clean, and if I feel safe with him. Physically, emotionally and sexually.

braveheart21 · 61-69, M

@darktippedrose i dont know what your husband was doing but oral sex for you should never hurt ...but should be extremely pleasurable

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@braveheart21 I know what he did wrong. With his tongue or his fingers, he wanted to hurry up the foreplay and get straight to sex. But rushing through foreplay makes my private parts hurt, so it actually ends up taking me longer. The more he rushes, the more he complains that I take too long, and the more he complains, the more depressed I get about it.

braveheart21 · 61-69, M

@darktippedrose mmmm i take a long time eating pussy ...i always make sure my lady cums many times before making love to her ...

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@braveheart21 yeah, my husband hates that stuff. He thinks thats some white people shit. He thinks only black people know how to have sex. And to him, that means going straight to sex. No kissing, no foreplay.

braveheart21 · 61-69, M

@darktippedrose he knows nothing of giving pleasure ...only taking his own...that is not the way to be ...

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@braveheart21 yeah telling him that didn't really work out for me.

braveheart21 · 61-69, M

@darktippedrose that kind of man does not think of his partner only himself...

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@braveheart21 yes, I know now.

Master1A · 70-79, M

@darktippedrose Yep. Thought so . He was/is a selfish selfcentered dumbass.. The real man brings his partner to climax first then takes his pleasure.. Master1A

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

I've tried telling him that before. I'm wetter for sex if I cum first. And also more relaxed for thrusting. But during foreplay years ago, he'd tire himself out but going straight for me clit. And it hurt. I tried telling him that the farther you are from my Princess Parts, the more aroused i'll get. But some men don't listen. so ......

Master1A · 70-79, M

@darktippedrose LOL. He is SOOOOOO wrong. Obviously.. Master1A

braveheart21 · 61-69, M

@Master1A i have very similar conversations with this wonderful lady and her predicament has been ongoing for a long time....the man is obviously short on many brain cells lol