I Live In a Sexless Marriage

Today I was turned 34. the only person who did NOT acknowledge my birthday was my husband.

Not surprised at all, and yet I'm still thinking about birthday sex. I have never had birthday sex. My spouse has never done anything nice for me for my birthday. He doesn't believe in celebrating birthdays, unless its someone with a spiritual importance.

Other than that, not happening.

Do others refusers do anything for them at all? acknowledge it at all?

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Mktonght · 61-69, M

Well I don't want to be just another me to poster, however it seems to me after reading not only this post but others from you, that you were married just to become a in house free babysitter. Step kids, your kids? well there was at least breeding in the marriage.
I don't know if you are a religious person at all, but the only true marriage is a caring nurturing partnership between a man and a woman. Each giving up their selfish desires for the good of the other. Your a victim not a wife if even 50% of what you post is true.
What kind of message are you sending the kids? Be a doormat for your husband and if they are boys, be a cruel self centered man? I believe you at the very least need to get counseling alone. Perhaps there is also physical abuse besides the emotional and mental abuse going on.

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@Mktonght I'm not a liar. I would not lie about these things. My kids are autistic. they are aware, but still can't grasp complicated social things like what you are talking about.

Yes, its dysfunctional.

I am not always a doormat. I choose wisely when to say something.

Mktonght · 61-69, M

Me making assumptions before talking with you and just reading posts is not fair. I appolgize.

Master1A · 70-79, M

@darktippedrose I'm sure with your background male dominance is considered the norm for your social group. not that it is in anyway right.

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

I don't mind male dominance, when its sexy lol. But other than that, agreement must be mutual. NOt just one person making up all the rules.