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sahi81 1. If something bad happens to me, I'm sad, I want to have my sad feelings validated. That's the human connection. I want to be sad, cry it out with a friend then let my emotions settle. That's how you get rid of stress, you let your emotions out.
2. Fact is, I'm smarter then most people. If someone has an "Easy solution" then I already know about it and am either putting it into action or have dismissed it as a nonviable solution.
3. If their advice fails, they don't suffer any consequences but I do. The person I'm talking to has no tangible loss if I lose, therefore has no reason to put any effort into a solution.
4. That person telling me how to fix something can never understand my situation as well unless they were a therapist, which they aren't.
5. That person telling me how to fix something, for me to put it into action, I would need to set aside my own ego. That's more effort as well. If I'm emotional, I'm already out of energy to even do that.
6. That person telling me how to fix something, if they were in that position, probably would not follow their advice. If I ask "What did you do in that situation?" the answer is often not the advice they gave me. Therefore, it's an untested theory they didn't even do themselves.
My emotions are not mirrors of reality. I cannot control them. I need validation like every other person on this planet. I don't need some half-baked advice thought up in 5-10 seconds. That's the reality of the situation.