Do good men exists , how to identify them....

Most men i come across seem to not treat women/animals/inferiors good . They think they r only important and all others r there to serve and sacrifice for them.

Some men seem nice but idk how to identify if they r pretending or not. Many men pretend to be good and support women even when they don't have good intentions.

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Miram · 31-35, F

Also, and this must be emphasized, being a good person and being a good partner can be two different things, though related.

Good people can still be horrible partners. Horrible people can be good partners(sometimes). It depends on your own goals and conceptualization of the relationship and you yourself. It would be too ideal and naive to think bad people don't have good relationships.

But generally good people( those capable of guilt and growth and selflessness) are less likely to hurt you beyond repair, statistically speaking. So find good people first and then experience will show the rest. And accept that we cannot truly control the future.

Sometimes things just don't work out. But every experience has some value to be harvested and sharpened for wisdom.

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

Some men will tell you what they can do for you. Some men will want to know what you can do for them.. You want to seek the kind of man who wants to talk over with you what you can both do with your lives together..😷

IronHamster · 56-60, M

Here is something most people won't tell you, and you may believe otherwise until it is too late.

We all have roles to play in life, and all relationships are negotiations of a sort.

Men are expendable. We always have been. We do the dangerous jobs. We fight the wars. We survive and build our wealth. The better we do the more market value we have in dating. A forty year old man who has been successful can marry a younger woman and have a stable family.

Women have their most value when young. Most women waste their youth pursuing things that don't increase their value. A forty year old woman is done having kids or if possible she may have one high risk pregnancy. She will watch her coworker forty year old men date younger women, because they can. Her time might have been better spent securing a relationship in her younger years, because at this point her dating life will consist of getting run through by younger guys that don't really want a relationship.

mindless · M

Check how they deal with others, like waiters and waitresses)

WintaTheAngle · 41-45, M

Ofcourse they do. Just because the men in your group are bad it doesn’t mean they all are.

That would be as foolish as me saying are all women bad if the ones I knew were. You can’t make those assumptions based on such a small group.

sahi81 · 22-25, FNew

@WintaTheAngle i observed and met over 500+ men... maybe i was in wrong places or didn't meet/socialize with good one in good places. I think the problem is bad ones tend to look for victims more or in higher positions, tend to be louder, occupy the spotlight or places where people r more vulnerable, they play with vulnerabilities ( in name of love or friendships). So they tend to come across in life more in my opinion....

Miram · 31-35, F

If you wish to know a man, don't date him or show interest in dating him.

They are biologically driven to mirror your preferences. A man who cares for what you care about simply to fulfill his romantic goals is not his true self.

Know what they prioritize.

I generally think, regardless of gender, people whose life purpose is modern romance are often of weak characters and minds. We are all both good and bad, but we will be swayed easier to match greedy interests when we too are guided by selfishness above all else. And so we serve more evil.

SomeMichGuy · M

You have to look at their tag or the serial number on their foot; refer to manufacturer's instructions regarding "good" and other men.

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sahi81 · 22-25, FNew

Sadly there is no mark 😆

Maybe check by their actions not just words or gestures

SomeMichGuy · M

@sahi81 Yes. But we can't see their heart!

sahi81 · 22-25, FNew

@SomeMichGuy true. It's hard that's why

NebulasHandsomeHusband · 36-40, M

I exist but I'm taken by miss Lady Nebula

sahi81 · 22-25, FNew

@NebulasHandsomeHusband I'm not here to date. Just asking questions

NebulasHandsomeHusband · 36-40, M

@sahi81 Sad. I really like Indian women

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sahi81 · 22-25, FNew

@twistedrope what is wrong in fixing problems? ain't it good atleast try to fix instead of suffering

twistedrope · 26-30, M

@sahi81 1. If something bad happens to me, I'm sad, I want to have my sad feelings validated. That's the human connection. I want to be sad, cry it out with a friend then let my emotions settle. That's how you get rid of stress, you let your emotions out.

2. Fact is, I'm smarter then most people. If someone has an "Easy solution" then I already know about it and am either putting it into action or have dismissed it as a nonviable solution.

3. If their advice fails, they don't suffer any consequences but I do. The person I'm talking to has no tangible loss if I lose, therefore has no reason to put any effort into a solution.

4. That person telling me how to fix something can never understand my situation as well unless they were a therapist, which they aren't.

5. That person telling me how to fix something, for me to put it into action, I would need to set aside my own ego. That's more effort as well. If I'm emotional, I'm already out of energy to even do that.

6. That person telling me how to fix something, if they were in that position, probably would not follow their advice. If I ask "What did you do in that situation?" the answer is often not the advice they gave me. Therefore, it's an untested theory they didn't even do themselves.

My emotions are not mirrors of reality. I cannot control them. I need validation like every other person on this planet. I don't need some half-baked advice thought up in 5-10 seconds. That's the reality of the situation.

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