Do good men exists , how to identify them....

Most men i come across seem to not treat women/animals/inferiors good . They think they r only important and all others r there to serve and sacrifice for them.

Some men seem nice but idk how to identify if they r pretending or not. Many men pretend to be good and support women even when they don't have good intentions.

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okaybut · 56-60, M

Good men might appear weak to you. Truly open with their feelings but not overly emotional, not complaining about his life or the world, not following the latest social virtue trends, maybe a boring stable job, not trying to change the world, drink boring coffee, have boring friends, not saving anyone.... look for them. All of it points to a man who is comfortable with who he is and not trying to prove he is something great or better than others. He will be real with you, because he does not necessarily care what you want him to be. He is comfortable being who he is.

IronHamster · 56-60, M

@okaybut A weak man cannot be good, because he has no options. Only a man capable of violence but in control of that capability can be good.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@okaybut i want a man who puts himself and his family first over this world. and love himself for who he is .

okaybut · 56-60, M

@IronHamster I just said "appear".

okaybut · 56-60, M

@sahi81 Sure...makes sense.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@okaybut I think such behaviour comes from need to fit-in into a group. People sometimes lose themselves whole focusing on external validation instead of internal validation.

I think saving someone is good if it comes from a genuine place for genuine care. I don't think good ones seek admiration or show off their good acts. Kindness is taken advantage in this world sadly so I think genuinely good ones hide their kindness.

okaybut · 56-60, M

@sahi81 I would agree. But would also add that he has to want to connect, thus the internal values will drive him towards a want of strong relationship with you.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@okaybut I too have a strong desire to have a good relationship with a partner