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No, I can't be disgusted by it, because I have experience in this area and know what it's like from the inside. I do feel angry when I see anyone return to an abusive relationship, but not at the abused person. It's more a feeling of frustration that you can't get them to see that there may be another option.
OogieBoogie · F
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@OogieBoogie Not only that, but some are living in situations where they have been threatened with serious *consequences* if they leave the relationship.
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@bijouxbroussard You realize BDSM is a bedroom thing and usually done in private or with others that are OKAY with it and understand, right?
Anyhow what if the father is a cop or someone who works in law, who has buddies backing him? What choice does a mum have? They gonna side with her?
Anyhow what if the father is a cop or someone who works in law, who has buddies backing him? What choice does a mum have? They gonna side with her?
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@bijouxbroussard Fortunately I have NOT come across those. I enjoy BDSM but in private. That is sad.
But if there were no children in that case she would not hesitate to leave. 🤔
But if there were no children in that case she would not hesitate to leave. 🤔
Fauxmyope2 · 26-30, F
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Nah. I think that going back is stupid, obviously. But it's understandable to go back to someone that has abused you. They manipulate your ass, gaslight you, and make you feel like you're the one that fucked up, that they'll change. But they never change. That's just something that a lot of people have to learn the hard way. No matter how much you pressure them, no matter how many times you try to get them to see that the relationship they're in isn't healthy, they won't listen. They'll always learn the hard way. Les gusta la mala vida deadass.
Edit: But I do have resentment for people that stay in abusive relationships with children. My mother is a survivor of domestic abuse, and she got out of it for my siblings and I. At some point, it doesn't matter how much you're willing to forgive, or how many times you're willing to try, or how much you believe they'll change. You have to do what's best for your children, not what you want to do because you believe things will be different. Staying can be fatal. You can make choices for yourself and go back, but you can't make that choice for your children. That's my opinion.
Edit: But I do have resentment for people that stay in abusive relationships with children. My mother is a survivor of domestic abuse, and she got out of it for my siblings and I. At some point, it doesn't matter how much you're willing to forgive, or how many times you're willing to try, or how much you believe they'll change. You have to do what's best for your children, not what you want to do because you believe things will be different. Staying can be fatal. You can make choices for yourself and go back, but you can't make that choice for your children. That's my opinion.
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Zonuss · 41-45, M
@assemblingaknob You have to love yourself first.
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OogieBoogie · F
@Allelse it was a choice: You or the dishes... I flipped a coin.... Shoulda gone best outta three dammit! 😏
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th3r0n · 41-45, M
@OogieBoogie yes I'm aware, more than you know, I've had loved ones who went through it, thus the reason that I said I'm disgusted with the abusers and the fact that the victims go back, not the victims themselves
th3r0n · 41-45, M
@OogieBoogie you're cool, it's hard to know intent sometimes
OogieBoogie · F
@Zonuss and what if the perpetrator and victim are parents?
These people hide their abuse - in fact... they are usually overly generous and helpful to others, including their children.
Would you turn your children against their mother when they love her?
These people hide their abuse - in fact... they are usually overly generous and helpful to others, including their children.
Would you turn your children against their mother when they love her?
Zonuss · 41-45, M
@OogieBoogie I've seen children come to a breaking point. And then break free from the bondage they have with their parents. It happens.
OogieBoogie · F
@Zonuss and what happens when they dont?
Or they are special needs children and don't understand?
And are yoy fully aware of what type of things have to transpire for them to reach breaking point?.... It's usually violence..
Wpuld you push someone to breaking point and violence,?
Would you want your children to go through that?
Or would you try to avoid it?
Or they are special needs children and don't understand?
And are yoy fully aware of what type of things have to transpire for them to reach breaking point?.... It's usually violence..
Wpuld you push someone to breaking point and violence,?
Would you want your children to go through that?
Or would you try to avoid it?
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OogieBoogie · F
@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout deserve each other?!?!
FUCK OFF THEY DO!
You don't get that they get roped in, seduced by an act, and slowly over time, their support and connections are wittled away - till they are alone and but vulnerable - And THAT'S when the abuse really kicks in. But by then - there's no one to listen, nowhere to go - and no way to get there.
In fact - sometimes the perpetrator even pre-emts this - and has already told people that they're unstable, crazy or suffering from issue.... So when help is desperately sought - they are patted on the cheek and taken back to their abuser!
FUCK OFF THEY DO!
You don't get that they get roped in, seduced by an act, and slowly over time, their support and connections are wittled away - till they are alone and but vulnerable - And THAT'S when the abuse really kicks in. But by then - there's no one to listen, nowhere to go - and no way to get there.
In fact - sometimes the perpetrator even pre-emts this - and has already told people that they're unstable, crazy or suffering from issue.... So when help is desperately sought - they are patted on the cheek and taken back to their abuser!
Thanos · 31-35, M
@AnonymouslyYours yeah like stop going back or stop complaining lol
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OogieBoogie · F
No... I really pity the trap they are in. When one understands the methodology of decimation their sense of self has been exposed to and the degree of manipulation beyond ethics that they endure... The fact that they are surviving is a wonder!
It's just so sad to see they don't know how strong they are.
It's just so sad to see they don't know how strong they are.
bijouxbroussard · F