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midnightrose · F
My marriage could and has survived cheating. Staying married was a choice. Forgiveness is more difficult but it is necessary to move forward. Trust is another factor. It has to be rebuilt. I wouldn't have stayed if he had continued cheating. So the last question really depends on the person who cheated and their remorse. Not all cheaters are alike. Regardless of what you do, the relationship is forever changed. You can't go back and have what was broken. You have to make something new.
Baremine · 70-79, C
@midnightrose I so agree with you. As I said in my comments.
SeaGlass · F
I think people split up when the love is no longer mutual.. and that's probably why they cheated in the first place. Either they didn't love or didn't feel loved. People can take care of urges on their own. People seek out people for the way they make them feel. And of course there are those sociopath types that just cheat at everything in life. They don't love anyone but themselves, so it was doomed before it began with them.
Baremine · 70-79, C
Yes. A marriage can survive. We survived. My wife had a miscarriage a little over a year into our marriage. We were overseas and I was in the military. More details in my post "The Beginning of an Affair."
It took 30 years to rebuild the trust and been well worth it. We have been married almost 57 years. Sometimes circumstances get the best of good people. But good people can work through things.
How many times have you cheated on God?
It took 30 years to rebuild the trust and been well worth it. We have been married almost 57 years. Sometimes circumstances get the best of good people. But good people can work through things.
How many times have you cheated on God?
exexec · 61-69, C
Yes. There is no need to cheat since she is free to do whatever she wants as long as she is honest with me. If she should do things secretly, it would be a problem, but I would probably forgive her.
Ducky · 31-35, F
Cheating has a loose definition in my marriage, since it’s an open one. I’m not even sure what it would constitute as. I guess whatever isn’t agreed upon by my spouse and I.
Aysel · F
No, cheating is like the utmost form of disrespect to me. Like they don’t give af about your life or health. I could never stay with a cheater.
IIDavid87II · 36-40, M
@Aysel hopefully you've never experienced it.
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MarineBob · 56-60, M
Hell no
I'm not married and I think if someone is cheating they probably need to split because something isn't working
Nunki · 31-35, F
No, cheating is never forgiven. It is one of the eternal "sins" in a relationship. Some things can never be fixed once broken 🤷🏽♀
Probably. Would depend on the circumstances but I would not give up on my marriage easily.
Iwillwait · M
I'm not sure that's survivable by any standards of delusion.
BeJeweled · F
No
It'd be over in a minute
I dont settle for second best
It'd be over in a minute
I dont settle for second best
AbbeyRhode · F
No. Trust would be gone, and there is no relationship without trust.
smiler2012 · 56-60
[@lldavid8711] i suppose it depends on individual thought some are not forgiving too the betrayl some will try and work through it because that is what they want and they stay together but there is always suspicion and mistrust in the heart and mind of the wronged party
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Baremine · 70-79, C
It takes a long time to rebuild trust. Took thirty years for us.
smiler2012 · 56-60
@nedkelly 🤔unless they where either desperate or mental ned nobody lol
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
I don’t think I could forgive that. It’s such a huge betrayal
Blondily · F
No not interested in sloppy seconds.
Yuk
Yuk
TexChik · F
I don't know how he would have the strength...but no.
Ynotisay · M
I don't think there's anything much more important than trust in a relationship. The reasons behind cheating are one thing. But breaking trust is another. You might be able to fix the cause for the cheating but you can't fix a line that's been crossed. It speaks to someone's character. Some are ok with that. I'm not.
Gumbodidlo · C
I only cheat at cards 🤔
Iwillwait · M
@Gumbodidlo You cannot come to Bridge night. 🙄
Gumbodidlo · C
@Iwillwait damn! I shouldn't have said anything 🧐
Jeephikelove · 46-50, F
Nope, absolutely not.
Elessar · 26-30, M
404 / Spouse not found
RebeccaSJ · 46-50, F
I think so.
MasterLee · 56-60, M
Why cheat?
Well if you were hoping to have an excuse to play on the side, then sure. If you view marriage as monogamous, then many would find it very challenging to forgive and trust again - but forget, never.
mindstruggle · 31-35, F
Nah. No way.
DownTheStreet · 56-60, M
If it means enough to both partners, and the matter is addressed with an open mind, without ego, and the courage to discuss the broader picture of what lead to the infidelity.
Ramon67 · 61-69, M
Both my marriages ended because they cheated . I tried to forgive but , they both kept bragging about it .
@Ramon67 they kept bragging about it? Did they want to have an open marriage?
Ramon67 · 61-69, M
@VeronicaJane I asked them if that’s what they wanted and they said no .
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Katie01 · F
Cheating really isn't the big deal that everyone seems to think it is. It's barely worth mentioning let alone breaking up over
BigBulge · 41-45, M
It's human nature for men to spread their seed. You need to learn that and celebrate it.
Adrift · 61-69, F
Nope, once somebody looses my trust and respect, my feelings change.
Court69 · M
Yes but the sex would have to be unprotected risky there on out
PoetAndersen · 36-40, M
Maybe, I think it would be situational
I can forgive but i gotta go
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F
I can't it won't just no
SkeetSkeet · 100+, F
Eww
Bang5luts · M
Yes only because I'm not married
pancakeslam · 41-45, M
yes it's written into the contract
Forgive. Never forget.
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