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How long does it take you to forgive someone that

hurt you deeply? For me it might take years and that depends if they apologize and mean it.
Jeremi · 41-45, M
it honestly really depends. it depends on the situation, how much investment was involved and how it happened. I can be forgiving if it's somethind simple. we as humans make mistakes that we didn't realize would actually hurt the other person. as humans, we can be ignorant and stupid and not know it. yet, apology accepted. but if it comes to the light as something seems "pre-meditated"? apology not accepted.
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@Jeremi I agree because I have been unkind without thinking first but it wasn’t done with pre-meditation in mind. I had one person actually brag about pretending to be my friend before they lashed out on me without mercy. I can’t forgive that person because I’m trying to forget I ever knew them in the first place.
Jeremi · 41-45, M
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*deep, deep sigh* i wish i could say I haven't been mean to people that didn't deserve it. but I have. forgiveness for me. but instead of dwelling on that, and tearing myself a part, I just take a new new situation handed to me and do better. it's not easy to move on. but eventually, life is going to say: you just have to. and just don't do what you did in the past
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@Jeremi I guess most of us are guilty of being mean but some people take it to the highest level. We all carry some regrets but we still need to move on. 🥺
MoonlightLullaby · 41-45, F
I reached out to tell the last person who hurt me, I forgave him. I apologized for some things on my part that were wrong, but nowhere as bad as his deception. I wanted to be the bigger person to keep it fair on both ends. I didn't neccesarily expect a response, but not getting one made me resent I ever did. I should've kept it in my heart. Otherwise, I've found a sense of peace that doesn't allow me to allow others to get to me & I'm also very mindful of who I allow in my life.
Carissimi · 70-79, F
Relatively speaking, I tend to forgive sooner rather than later. I can forgive quite quickly, but that doesn’t mean I forget, or want to continue any sort of relationship with that person. It depends on the person, and what they did.
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Pain that deep may never heal because pieces of your heart and soul are destroyed, you just have to move on and never look back
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@SW-User my condolences
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Your profile pic is too green eyed 😅@SW-User
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@SW-User I drank too much elixir I think
Roadsterrider · 56-60, M
Forgiving someone isn't for them, it is for me. When I forgive someone who has wronged me, it is I who sleeps better, doesn't keep gnawing at the injustice done to me. I forgive because as long as I don't that rot is getting rent free space in my head. How long it takes me to realize it depends, once I realize and know that it is bothering me way more than the other person, I let it go. Sometimes, it is days, sometimes it is weeks or months, or years.
You can't just snap your fingers and forgive. Some times it takes time. @Roadsterrider
Roadsterrider · 56-60, M
@Spoiledbrat I agree 100%.
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@Roadsterrider youre right, we only give those people power over us when we don’t forget what they did. Leave it to karma to deal with them.
MiserableAtBest · 18-21, F
A really fun fact about me is that I’ve never forgiven anyone for anything 😍💅
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I've forgiven people without an apology. I had just began to understand them and why they did what they did. If I feel wronged I can't forgive.
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I don’t know. It might work with some but not others because they will just hurt you again. @Spoiledbrat
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[c=4C0073]if they are sorry and mean it .. then i will hold no further ill action toward them ..
but i will probably not forget it either.[/c]
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@SW-User Yes, they can and will do it again.
JestAJester · 31-35, M
Almost nothing can heal those scars. I've never had a single individual make amends to me. That being said I still do miss some of those people and wish I could have them back. Any person who has ever done me wrong in such a devastating manner felt any sense of guilt, atleast none that I was made aware of. Sure there is the slim possibility I might forgive them, but unless I see true remorse and guilt in their eyes, I choose to shun them from here on out.
That is entirely up to them and what they say or do about it
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Could be @ElGwapo
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i pretend it never happened but stay away
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It’s good to keep your distance from those people because you don’t want to fall into their trap again. @SW-User
scorpiolovedeep · 46-50, M
Context , person and relationship with them all play a part in the ‘duration’

Example :

If someone hurt person X with hurtful comments in public (as in a wedding or a big party) , chances are X will never forgive that person.

One to one hurts … take multiple years or decades even … ..

Not a pleasant experience at all.

Hope you are ok and no one has offended me deeply.
ExtremeNext · 31-35
12 to 20 years
ExtremeNext · 31-35
@SW-User and that's if I'm in a good mood
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I guess you might forgive someone that only hurt you slightly? @ExtremeNext
ExtremeNext · 31-35
@SW-User 👀
TheRascallyOne · 31-35, M
LemonWorld · 36-40, F
I dont 🤷🏽‍♀
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@LemonWorld Most people dont but some claim it’s better for them. It might be good for the soul. Forgive but don’t forget.
smiler2012 · 56-60
personally it could be a while as i can take things personally and i hold grudges ,as if my dad was still around could tell you [destinycalling]
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Depends if they want to be forgiven and care or not.
As for time it varies.
And if they don't care I just stay away from them and then from me.
caccoon · 36-40
I don't forgive people that hurt me deeply. I let them drift out of my life or I force them out
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@caccoon I get lectured for not forgiving people that hurt me. It’s as if I should thank them instead.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
So far, all the people who have committed major treason have been excised.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
I can forgive but I will not forget

 
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