AIO? I told my boyfriend that he doesn’t compliment me enough nor makes me feel desired And he...

PinkMoon · 26-30, F

You're not compatible and need to break up because he will never give you the kind of love you desire. My ex was the same way and when I asked if I looked nice he'd say "You always look nice." My current boyfriend calls me beautiful everyday. Sometimes he just stares at me and tells me he can't believe how beautiful I am. Your desire isn't wrong,you're just with the wrong person. I wasted my time trying to turn my ex into my current partner and by that I mean my current partner has the qualities I desire as opposed to my ex who I tried to get to develop those traits. It was unfair of me to try and "change him". He was who he was and I am who I am. We were never compatible. The more time you spend with him the less time you have to find someone who loves you in the manner you desire. It's not wrong or toxic to desire the validation of your partner. It's not wrong to want to feel desired by your partner. It's also not wrong of him to feel how he feels. You just both have to find people compatible with your needs.

in10RjFox · M

Does he tell you that your battery is low ?

Anyway your situation happens once couple start living together and the element of surprise is gone, as you become part of usual and casual. You were once in front of him but now you're at the back of his mind.

So try this.. by living away from him and make yourself available on appointments only.. which is going out to a restaurant or outing or event etc.

This way there is something to catchup with each time and there is also the time limit. You will be back to his consciousness and you too can appear as a hot babe on video call.😀

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He's basically told you that he's not going to compliment you more, he's just said it in other words. Either he is in a comfort zone and just can't be bothered or he's just not that into you anymore, or maybe a bit of both. He feels like he doesn't need to make what he sees as extra effort. That's not a good sign.

FoxyQueen · 51-55, F

And he tells me that his perception of himself does not depend on me

Well good for him, I guess. Way to project himself onto you so he doesn't have to fulfill a need you have.

I'm sorry, but a partner who isn't willing to understand and work with your needs is a bare minimum partner who needs to be kicked to the curb. You deserve someone who fulfills your needs so you can be a better partner for them.

Lizzie42 · 41-45, F

But that's not going to work.

A compliment only has value if it's unsolicited. If you tell him to compliment more he could do so - but the compliments would be fake.

Is fake compliments really what you want?