AIO? I told my boyfriend that he doesn’t compliment me enough nor makes me feel desired

You're not compatible and need to break up because he will never give you the kind of love you desire. My ex was the same way and when I asked if I looked nice he'd say "You always look nice." My current boyfriend calls me beautiful everyday. Sometimes he just stares at me and tells me he can't believe how beautiful I am. Your desire isn't wrong,you're just with the wrong person. I wasted my time trying to turn my ex into my current partner and by that I mean my current partner has the qualities I desire as opposed to my ex who I tried to get to develop those traits. It was unfair of me to try and "change him". He was who he was and I am who I am. We were never compatible. The more time you spend with him the less time you have to find someone who loves you in the manner you desire. It's not wrong or toxic to desire the validation of your partner. It's not wrong to want to feel desired by your partner. It's also not wrong of him to feel how he feels. You just both have to find people compatible with your needs.

He sounds like a solid man by the way you explain the post about .
You think he makes you feel unwanted or not desired cause he's not saying it too you .
That's what happens after awhile especially not get compliments and it's your thinking not his cause after awhile of not getting re assurance you end up in the height of self pity , psychologists like too call it these depression over not get compliments but it's your thinking and insecurities coming in after not being complimented for so long . That's your thinking not his . He said nothing . It's your thinking creating it .
Well I must say you have a solid partner .
You should watch your thinking my friend that could drive him away if its constant looking for compliments.
I'd prefer if some said to me they'd love me a few times of the year . I said it before too someone all of that time and do you know why cause I was afraid the relationship was fading away .
That's how I know my friend 😊😊😊

I don't know how you brought it up to him and if he felt the need to be defensive but his response feels bad. His reasoning is pure logic, but feelings and emotions aren't generally logical. If he cannot set aside his personal rationale about self acceptance to give you some heartfelt compliments then I would be worried about what he won't be willing to give deeper into the relationship.

Does he tell you that your battery is low ?

Anyway your situation happens once couple start living together and the element of surprise is gone, as you become part of usual and casual. You were once in front of him but now you're at the back of his mind.

So try this.. by living away from him and make yourself available on appointments only.. which is going out to a restaurant or outing or event etc.

This way there is something to catchup with each time and there is also the time limit. You will be back to his consciousness and you too can appear as a hot babe on video call.😀

If he's not hearing you now he's not going to hear you in the future. I think it's time to move on, seriously! Listen to your gut. It's usually always right. It's not sounding emotionally available. That's a red flag. Don't linger. Find someone who will appreciate you for who you are. This guy's not too mature. He's also a terrible listener. Not for you, dear. The sooner you move on, the better. Don't waste your time on this guy. And certainly don't allow him to switch this around to being your fault. It's not and you didn't ask that much. I wouldn't waste another second on him. I hope you will move on and find someone who deserves you and will treat you with respect, not ignore your feelings and needs.

If that is you in your profile picture, very pretty.
From a personal perspective, I probably have not complimented any significant other in the past as much as I possibly should have. Just not my nature. Nor have I received them often.

Well good for him, I guess. Way to project himself onto you so he doesn't have to fulfill a need you have.

I'm sorry, but a partner who isn't willing to understand and work with your needs is a bare minimum partner who needs to be kicked to the curb. You deserve someone who fulfills your needs so you can be a better partner for them.

He's basically told you that he's not going to compliment you more, he's just said it in other words. Either he is in a comfort zone and just can't be bothered or he's just not that into you anymore, or maybe a bit of both. He feels like he doesn't need to make what he sees as extra effort. That's not a good sign.

But that's not going to work.

A compliment only has value if it's unsolicited. If you tell him to compliment more he could do so - but the compliments would be fake.

Is fake compliments really what you want?

You look pretty good to me maybe even a 10.... Maybe you need a new boyfriend as he really doesn’t appreciate you.... thanks for sharing 👍 👏

No, just honest
If he can’t complement you find a new bf

Time to move on!

How vain are you? Your crippling need for constant validation might well mean he walks away from you. Best of luck to him.

Did he give you that needed validation when you first started dating?

Move on

You sound kinda toxic, why do you ask for him to do something that wont come naturally to him? It wont be genuine if you tell him to compliment you. What you see is what you get.

Asking for compliments defeats the purpose of compliments.

Red flag-- you want him to change.

Hes round the bend. Your gorgeous 😍

📢 Warning: High maintenance alert. You sound needy.

Payback
Compliment other guys ignore him he will come begging back

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