AIO? I told my boyfriend that he doesn’t compliment me enough nor makes me feel desired

And he tells me that his perception of himself does not depend on me. Unlike myself, because according to him I depend on others to tell me who I am.

All I asked from him was to compliment me more. To make me feel wanted, like he’s actually into me. I don’t doubt he loves me but it’s not exactly in the “manly desire for a woman” kinda of way.

I told him I don’t depend on others validations but I do want to hear things from him.

I also questioned how it works that he gives other “hot girls” views online but as someone who doesn’t post sexy photos for views, when I ask for those attentions from him, I’m being needy and insecure.

ViciDraco · 41-45, M

I don't know how you brought it up to him and if he felt the need to be defensive but his response feels bad. His reasoning is pure logic, but feelings and emotions aren't generally logical. If he cannot set aside his personal rationale about self acceptance to give you some heartfelt compliments then I would be worried about what he won't be willing to give deeper into the relationship.