AIO? I told my boyfriend that he doesn’t compliment me enough nor makes me feel desired

And he tells me that his perception of himself does not depend on me. Unlike myself, because according to him I depend on others to tell me who I am.

All I asked from him was to compliment me more. To make me feel wanted, like he’s actually into me. I don’t doubt he loves me but it’s not exactly in the “manly desire for a woman” kinda of way.

I told him I don’t depend on others validations but I do want to hear things from him.

I also questioned how it works that he gives other “hot girls” views online but as someone who doesn’t post sexy photos for views, when I ask for those attentions from him, I’m being needy and insecure.

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LadyGrace

If he's not hearing you now he's not going to hear you in the future. I think it's time to move on, seriously! Listen to your gut. It's usually always right. It's not sounding emotionally available. That's a red flag. Don't linger. Find someone who will appreciate you for who you are. This guy's not too mature. He's also a terrible listener. Not for you, dear. The sooner you move on, the better. Don't waste your time on this guy. And certainly don't allow him to switch this around to being your fault. It's not and you didn't ask that much. I wouldn't waste another second on him. I hope you will move on and find someone who deserves you and will treat you with respect, not ignore your feelings and needs.