AIO? I told my boyfriend that he doesn’t compliment me enough nor makes me feel desired

And he tells me that his perception of himself does not depend on me. Unlike myself, because according to him I depend on others to tell me who I am.

All I asked from him was to compliment me more. To make me feel wanted, like he’s actually into me. I don’t doubt he loves me but it’s not exactly in the “manly desire for a woman” kinda of way.

I told him I don’t depend on others validations but I do want to hear things from him.

I also questioned how it works that he gives other “hot girls” views online but as someone who doesn’t post sexy photos for views, when I ask for those attentions from him, I’m being needy and insecure.

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PinkMoon · 26-30, F

You're not compatible and need to break up because he will never give you the kind of love you desire. My ex was the same way and when I asked if I looked nice he'd say "You always look nice." My current boyfriend calls me beautiful everyday. Sometimes he just stares at me and tells me he can't believe how beautiful I am. Your desire isn't wrong,you're just with the wrong person. I wasted my time trying to turn my ex into my current partner and by that I mean my current partner has the qualities I desire as opposed to my ex who I tried to get to develop those traits. It was unfair of me to try and "change him". He was who he was and I am who I am. We were never compatible. The more time you spend with him the less time you have to find someone who loves you in the manner you desire. It's not wrong or toxic to desire the validation of your partner. It's not wrong to want to feel desired by your partner. It's also not wrong of him to feel how he feels. You just both have to find people compatible with your needs.