AIO? I told my boyfriend that he doesn’t compliment me enough nor makes me feel desired

And he tells me that his perception of himself does not depend on me. Unlike myself, because according to him I depend on others to tell me who I am.

All I asked from him was to compliment me more. To make me feel wanted, like he’s actually into me. I don’t doubt he loves me but it’s not exactly in the “manly desire for a woman” kinda of way.

I told him I don’t depend on others validations but I do want to hear things from him.

I also questioned how it works that he gives other “hot girls” views online but as someone who doesn’t post sexy photos for views, when I ask for those attentions from him, I’m being needy and insecure.

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riseofthemachine · 41-45, M

He sounds like a solid man by the way you explain the post about .
You think he makes you feel unwanted or not desired cause he's not saying it too you .
That's what happens after awhile especially not get compliments and it's your thinking not his cause after awhile of not getting re assurance you end up in the height of self pity , psychologists like too call it these depression over not get compliments but it's your thinking and insecurities coming in after not being complimented for so long . That's your thinking not his . He said nothing . It's your thinking creating it .
Well I must say you have a solid partner .
You should watch your thinking my friend that could drive him away if its constant looking for compliments.
I'd prefer if some said to me they'd love me a few times of the year . I said it before too someone all of that time and do you know why cause I was afraid the relationship was fading away .
That's how I know my friend 😊😊😊

PicturesOfABetterTomorrow · 41-45, M

@riseofthemachine Blaming her for not doing the bare minimum when it comes to show affection is not a "solid partner".

And claiming complacency and taking someone for granted is "normal" is a great way to end up single.

Nobody wants a low effort SO.