I'm Proposing To My Girlfriend. Need Your Opinion, Especially Ladies.

Could you please elaborate on "not the cut she prefers"?

this part way more sensative you can skip with no judgement from me --but 14 years is a long time--to date with the intent of one day being married. It might help to understand that context--why 14 years and what your (both) relationship is like? did you plan to marry after about a year and life happened or something else that made the courtship stage last over a decade?

Lastly question (and I apologize for peppering your question with quesiton but context will help us all) what value does the family heirloom have to you and what percieved value do you feel it will have to her?

It feels like this question is more of a tradition and values questions vs a money question, but I could be wrong.

It's perfect ☺

Accompany the ring with a letter and a gift.
What matters the most from my perspective is showing your intention. By spending some time to write to her and find a gift too, you are going to compensate, not for the money, but for the time-with-intention(different currency) spend in finding a ring. Strengthen those intentions, especially after that long.
Excuse me for overanalyzing, but it's an important case.
Congratulations!!!:))

Absolutely I would go for it as is, and if you wanted, give her the option to pick a new stone if she wants. Or even eventually get a second ring, that she prefers for daily wear. The sentimental side of it being as is should mean something. I'd be happy with that personally. Congrats 👏🏻

I think an heir loom ring that is truly near and dear to your heart speaks volumes.And honestly if she is truly in tune with you and in love with you the same way it sounds like you are her.She will see the sentimentality in the gesture and it will capture her affection

Old is fine!

Actually, if it was me....I'd be honoured.

A family heirloom, something that is important to you? It's a big win, win from Flic!

Explain as you offer it...

So excited!

Do tell how it all works out!

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Since your mother gave it to you to give to her and its a family heirloom she should understand the importance not the cut, tell her in few years you will get her a special diamond ring. Congrats

if its a ring you think shed like give it. if you think she wont like it keep it for yourself and get a new one to give her. is it worth making her feel like she got a hand me down as a ring ? could spoil her feelings for you honestly. i know that sounds shallow but people can be too. she might not care but she might too. you would have to be the judge of that. is it nice or is it like something ugly or too old fashioned that shed be embarassed to wear? you say its gorgeous so maybe itd be fine. i dont think cut is that important just overall look really. on one hand she should be happy to get a ring. on the other, she might not want it that bad if you get what i mean.

I agree with you. Your mother's ring would be perfect!! Maybe later on you could get her another ring of her choice.

I think most women would be thrilled to be given such a cherished family heirloom like that.

There’s nothing saying her ‘preferred’ ring can’t show up later, say, as an anniversary gift….? Maybe for the tenth year…? 😉

Whatever you think best shows your long time gf all the appreciation you have for her time with you and whatever you know will make her happiest seeing every day with all the thought and effort you put into it..

If she really loves you none of that matters. Don't be nervous sounds great.

Since it is a family heirloom, use it for the proposal or wedding. Is it a wedding or engagement ring? Both? Put it in secure storage to pass down in turn and get what she wants anyway.

My wife says go with the old ring. She will love it.

i say try the old one and see what happens. congratulations by the way :)

Old one just fine...my middle name is Practicality.

She is the one that has to wear it every day. What is the cut she prefers and what is the cut of the family ring?

When you say not the cut she prefers what does that mean? I know nothing about rings. I'm presuming you mean precious stones of some kind?

Excepted

Old ring is ok.

Heirloom

If she worries about the cut forget her.

Go for it.

Hell yeah. Congratulations.

I would have expected a ring pop

Old ring