I'm Proposing To My Girlfriend. Need Your Opinion, Especially Ladies.

i say try the old one and see what happens. congratulations by the way :)

It's perfect ☺

Accompany the ring with a letter and a gift.
What matters the most from my perspective is showing your intention. By spending some time to write to her and find a gift too, you are going to compensate, not for the money, but for the time-with-intention(different currency) spend in finding a ring. Strengthen those intentions, especially after that long.
Excuse me for overanalyzing, but it's an important case.
Congratulations!!!:))

Hell yeah. Congratulations.

I think an heir loom ring that is truly near and dear to your heart speaks volumes.And honestly if she is truly in tune with you and in love with you the same way it sounds like you are her.She will see the sentimentality in the gesture and it will capture her affection

Could you please elaborate on "not the cut she prefers"?

this part way more sensative you can skip with no judgement from me --but 14 years is a long time--to date with the intent of one day being married. It might help to understand that context--why 14 years and what your (both) relationship is like? did you plan to marry after about a year and life happened or something else that made the courtship stage last over a decade?

Lastly question (and I apologize for peppering your question with quesiton but context will help us all) what value does the family heirloom have to you and what percieved value do you feel it will have to her?

It feels like this question is more of a tradition and values questions vs a money question, but I could be wrong.

Old ring is ok.

Whatever you think best shows your long time gf all the appreciation you have for her time with you and whatever you know will make her happiest seeing every day with all the thought and effort you put into it..

Since your mother gave it to you to give to her and its a family heirloom she should understand the importance not the cut, tell her in few years you will get her a special diamond ring. Congrats

My wife says go with the old ring. She will love it.

Old one just fine...my middle name is Practicality.

If she worries about the cut forget her.

I think most women would be thrilled to be given such a cherished family heirloom like that.

There’s nothing saying her ‘preferred’ ring can’t show up later, say, as an anniversary gift….? Maybe for the tenth year…? 😉

Old is fine!

Actually, if it was me....I'd be honoured.

A family heirloom, something that is important to you? It's a big win, win from Flic!

Explain as you offer it...

So excited!

Do tell how it all works out!

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Since it is a family heirloom, use it for the proposal or wedding. Is it a wedding or engagement ring? Both? Put it in secure storage to pass down in turn and get what she wants anyway.

When you say not the cut she prefers what does that mean? I know nothing about rings. I'm presuming you mean precious stones of some kind?

Heirloom

Go for it.

Old ring