I'm Proposing To My Girlfriend. Need Your Opinion, Especially Ladies.

I've been with my girlfriend for an absurdly long time--14 years. So, it's time to put a ring on it. My mom has given me her mother's ring, a family heirloom, to give to my girlfriend.

It's perfect...except that it's not the cut she prefers. It's a gorgeous ring and beautiful setting, etc. Now, we're not starving but not made of money, either, and it seems silly to get another diamond to put in this ring. I just want to give it to her as is.

Do you think it's a mistake to do that? Spending big bucks on another ring seems wasteful. That money could be spent on the reception, home improvements, etc.

No wrong answers, new ring or is the old one ok?

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robertsnj · 56-60, M

Could you please elaborate on "not the cut she prefers"?

this part way more sensative you can skip with no judgement from me --but 14 years is a long time--to date with the intent of one day being married. It might help to understand that context--why 14 years and what your (both) relationship is like? did you plan to marry after about a year and life happened or something else that made the courtship stage last over a decade?

Lastly question (and I apologize for peppering your question with quesiton but context will help us all) what value does the family heirloom have to you and what percieved value do you feel it will have to her?

It feels like this question is more of a tradition and values questions vs a money question, but I could be wrong.