I'm Proposing To My Girlfriend. Need Your Opinion, Especially Ladies.

I've been with my girlfriend for an absurdly long time--14 years. So, it's time to put a ring on it. My mom has given me her mother's ring, a family heirloom, to give to my girlfriend.

It's perfect...except that it's not the cut she prefers. It's a gorgeous ring and beautiful setting, etc. Now, we're not starving but not made of money, either, and it seems silly to get another diamond to put in this ring. I just want to give it to her as is.

Do you think it's a mistake to do that? Spending big bucks on another ring seems wasteful. That money could be spent on the reception, home improvements, etc.

No wrong answers, new ring or is the old one ok?

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Penny · 46-50, F

if its a ring you think shed like give it. if you think she wont like it keep it for yourself and get a new one to give her. is it worth making her feel like she got a hand me down as a ring ? could spoil her feelings for you honestly. i know that sounds shallow but people can be too. she might not care but she might too. you would have to be the judge of that. is it nice or is it like something ugly or too old fashioned that shed be embarassed to wear? you say its gorgeous so maybe itd be fine. i dont think cut is that important just overall look really. on one hand she should be happy to get a ring. on the other, she might not want it that bad if you get what i mean.