Why am I always the bad guy?

It sounds like you're experiencing a challenging dynamic in your relationship, and it's important to address it in a constructive way. Here are some steps you could consider taking to approach this issue with your wife:

Choose the Right Time and Place: Wait for a calm moment when you both have time to talk without distractions. It's important that both of you are in a relatively good emotional state before discussing sensitive issues.

Express Your Feelings: Use "I" statements to express how you feel without blaming or accusing your wife. For example, you could say, "I've noticed that in our arguments, I often end up apologizing, and it's starting to make me feel frustrated and unappreciated."

Provide Specific Examples: Share specific instances where you felt unfairly blamed or where your wife may have been at fault. Be careful to avoid coming across as accusatory or confrontational. Instead, focus on describing your own perspective and experiences.

Listen to Her Perspective: Give your wife the opportunity to share her thoughts and feelings about the situation. Practice active listening by paraphrasing what she says and showing empathy for her point of view. This can help foster mutual understanding and prevent the conversation from becoming adversarial.

Work Towards a Solution Together: Instead of placing blame or trying to prove who's right or wrong, focus on finding ways to improve your communication and resolve conflicts more effectively in the future. You could brainstorm together and come up with strategies for addressing disagreements in a fair and respectful manner.

Seek Couples Counseling: If you find it difficult to have this conversation on your own or if you're struggling to make progress, consider seeking the help of a couples therapist. A neutral third party can provide guidance, facilitate communication, and help you both develop healthier ways of relating to each other.

Remember that resolving relationship issues often takes time and effort from both partners. It's important to approach the conversation with empathy, patience, and a willingness to work together towards a mutually satisfying resolution.

Couple's counseling.

Of course, you are correct. Women insist on having their way, no matter what. The first thing I would do is refuse to argue with her. Then, I would remove the lock from the bedroom door.

I have this issue as well except he thinks the same way as you. As a woman its not about blame. We dont see that. We just want the issue fixed. You both have to respect each other. Blaming does nothing. It doesnt even exist to me because i dont think that way. He told me he is tired of always taking the blame. Then there shouldnt have been an issue to begin with. All that matters is to have the matter settled.

Hi My friend I'll tell you something very important .
It's ok for women to hold onto things but for men it eats them alive .
Why is it easy for women (not trying to frighten you) cause the door is always open for another man .
That's it in a nutshell .
Women can afford the attention .
Men can't and that's not being biased.
I'm not trying frighten you but why do I think women get more praise than men and all the lovely comments cause they know they can get away with it .
There not as insecure . That's why they can move on straight away . That's why you apologize all the time .
I nearly had to say sorry for my existence.
That's how bad I went .
Do you know where it left me ?
In a pysche ward wanted to die .
I'd catch that in the bud my friend or else it could bring you down a road of desperation and pain .
I know your married and like things going good for you which I wish they do ,but my friend watch the insecurities around her or else you be wiped out

Sounds like she needs a sound spanking to me. She is acting childish and immature. Her daddy didn't straighten her out so now you have to🤷‍♀️

Lots of different opinions here! I certainly don't want to do anything out of anger, as I want this resolved too, but in a way that benefits us both and can build a lasting solution. Neither of us believe in divorce, so fixing things is really the only option.

Update: I can hear her singing, and that's part of her process of calming down. Although not entirely calm yet, because she's disconnected the security camera (we have one in every room of the house to keep watch on our dogs when we're away).

If in an argument, someone says something that is personal or dredges up old skeletons, I never let them forget it. I take note and end an argument if I'm insulted "So that's how you think of me? Thank you for being so clear." I take notes on it.

My now ex gf used to dredge up old issues and I brought up that issue, often said in the heat of the moment every day until I got a proper apology. This went on until that well went dry and there was no more stuff to dredge. Sure, some would come back but I had an apology I kept for it.

Now this is just a stab in the dark here. But let me guess....... You married a woman....😷

You have to realize, even if you're right, you're wrong.

She locked herself in a room? Uh.
When you're training a dog, say one that barks incessantly which they do for attention, you don't change the behavior by punishing it when it barks. You ignore the behavior and praise it for not barking.
Now people aren't dogs. But...

Without an unbiased third person to referee, I don't know if you can sort it... As someone else suggested, counselling may work... In truth, some people have a problem ever believing they are in the wrong... It may be insecurity based... Fear of being wrong maybe

Try arguing naked!

Locking the door is childish. Adults can have different opinions. Accepting that allows you to grow as a person. If both aren’t growing, the relationship won’t work. A lack of maturity will get in the way.

You'll never win...even if you're right.

there's just one way; tell her straight.

Counselling .

This seems a cycle.

Shutting someone out till they cave is psycholgically an abuse manoeuvre. (Well its neglect, which is a type of abuse. In fact neglect and "denying" someone their right to be heard and seen is one of the worst types of psychological abuse - it negates you and your right to have any equal value as a human being).

You need help . Exterior help .

Otherwise this cycle will get worse .😔

Oh dear!! Its a hard one.