Why am I always the bad guy?

My wife and I don't fight often, but whenever we do, no matter who was wrong or right, I always end up being the one to apologize. Usually not a problem, as I just want the fight to end and for both of us to move on. But I'm starting to get tired of it. Neither of us are perfect, but it seems difficult for her to accept that sometimes she is the problem and it's not always me. I can't have this conversation without her getting upset; finally just tried to and she's locked herself in our room. How would you recommend I approach this with her? I can't just keep taking the blame all the time anymore.

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SteelCityViking · 31-35, M

Lots of different opinions here! I certainly don't want to do anything out of anger, as I want this resolved too, but in a way that benefits us both and can build a lasting solution. Neither of us believe in divorce, so fixing things is really the only option.

Update: I can hear her singing, and that's part of her process of calming down. Although not entirely calm yet, because she's disconnected the security camera (we have one in every room of the house to keep watch on our dogs when we're away).