Why am I always the bad guy?

My wife and I don't fight often, but whenever we do, no matter who was wrong or right, I always end up being the one to apologize. Usually not a problem, as I just want the fight to end and for both of us to move on. But I'm starting to get tired of it. Neither of us are perfect, but it seems difficult for her to accept that sometimes she is the problem and it's not always me. I can't have this conversation without her getting upset; finally just tried to and she's locked herself in our room. How would you recommend I approach this with her? I can't just keep taking the blame all the time anymore.

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ScarletWitch · 31-35, F

I have this issue as well except he thinks the same way as you. As a woman its not about blame. We dont see that. We just want the issue fixed. You both have to respect each other. Blaming does nothing. It doesnt even exist to me because i dont think that way. He told me he is tired of always taking the blame. Then there shouldnt have been an issue to begin with. All that matters is to have the matter settled.

OogieBoogie · F

@ScarletWitch so how do you settle something if you never find the cause of it?

Problems are caused by something
Finding that cause is essential to learning better resolutuons in the future .

And often both are to blame in some way to something growing into a problem in the first place.

Cause and affect 🤷