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Does he like me just for my looks?

I’ve been on 5 dates with this guy. He recently texted me and said he can’t wait to see me in a sundress. My past bf was all about looks and it turned me off because he was so obsessed with looks. How do I know if this new guy I’m dating will be all about looks too. He doesn’t seem that way but I don’t know him well enough to know what he’s thinking. How do I respond to his comment “I can’t wait to see you in a sundress.” What should I text back and say?
losthorizons · 51-55, M
We’ll show us a pic and let us be the judge
That singular question won’t be the answer you’re looking for. Most men love seeing a woman in a sundress. Those who wear them are comfortable in how they look, and that confidence is attractive.

But your larger question should be built up by the evidence over your five or so dates. If he’s always commented on the visual and not as much on your personality or interests, then that could be the sign.

I’m sure you’ve already responded, so I hope it went well.
Fifidog · 22-25, F
@southerngent I just kind of ignored his comment about that and later on in conversation about clothes I just said I like to dress what I find comfortable and he said he does too. He does also comment on my personality and tells me how thoughtful I am.
BeJeweled · F
You should wear what you want to wear and not be pressurred to wear a sun dress. I just think its too forward of him to ask this early while dating.
Fifidog · 22-25, F
@BeJeweled I kind of thought that too but he’s also told me he’s never had a girlfriend before so I wonder if maybe he just doesn’t know what to say
Teirdalin · 26-30
Best thing is to just date online and catfish them into thinking you're more ugly to find someone who isn't as concerned with looks.
Fifidog · 22-25, F
Haha good idea @Teirdalin
Teirdalin · 26-30
@Fifidog It's the opposite of catfishing, I guess it'd be called dogfishing,
pdqsailor1 · 61-69, M
Where are we going out to dinner tonight? What about a concert this weekend? My parents are doing dinner on Saturday night and I think you should meet them.... How about a shopping trip to the mall on Saturday morning? Can you pick up some things for me at the grocery store? You know .. .TEST the crap out of him... You need to determine the size of the envelope.. This is a TEST drive to see if this guy is suitable or just wants to get into your pants..
JPWhoo · 31-35, MVIP
I can’t wait to see you in a tie!
losthorizons · 51-55, M
Om2014 · 31-35, M
If that's what u wish then the basis of your relationship shud be a conversation not the display pictures.. just the way u have no display pic here.. first talk to people without showing urself and talk abt things that matters to u.. and also don't dress to attract attention so i think the start matters here.
Rpfun78 · 56-60, M
Men are visual creatures. So I would guess you’re an attractive woman who wants to be known for more than just being attractive. If you like this gentleman enough to go on five dates so far, forgive him for being a visual creature and enjoy.
Fifidog · 22-25, F
@Rpfun78 yes that’s a great way to put it, I do want to be known for more than my looks. I want my partner to love me because of who I am as a person.
AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M
Ask him his favorite color .
Bang5luts · M
You look amazing, beautiful, breath taking, stunning, these are all words for longevity, hot, sexy, bangin, etc are all statements of lust, infatuation, or indicating short term interest.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
Text back, “At least I know you’re not gay.” 😂

Don’t take the comment so seriously. He obviously likes you and is being honest. That’s a good start, not bad.
SinlessOnslaught · 26-30, M
Well if you never mentioned sundresses before then he had no reason to say that and I just wouldn't respond or change the subject.
What does he know about you? .-.

What do you know about him? ._.

Did you pick him for his looks? (If you did, then don't be surprised he has as well 😅)
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
I can't wait to see you in a tailored suit!
losthorizons · 51-55, M
Is that a yes? I like sundresses too😁
tell him he will see if he gets it for you. if he wants to focus on your looks, he may as well contribute
Fifidog · 22-25, F
@deathfairy haha that’s for sure. why would he be focusing on my looks though? As we get old looks change I want someone who will love me as a person.
uncalled4 · 51-55, M
Well guys ARE visually oriented, so you can't hang us for that. Wear what you want, and say "maybe someday". If he's not a dick, he'll respect that.
Lilnonames · F
Sounds like he's telling u what to wear on next date.. To me not good
Fifidog · 22-25, F
@Lilnonames that crossed my mind too but I didn’t know how he meant it. My last bf always wanted me to dress sexy and wear red lipstick and wanted me to dres alike other girls who he liked which we eventually broke up. That’s why I don’t want to deal with another person like him again. I don’t even like wearing dresses. How can I tell if he wants to change what I wear?
NinaTina · 26-30, F
@Fifidog sounds like he wants to show u off to every one.. His trophy girl on his arm
LordShadowfire · 46-50, MVIP
Has he ever said anything prior to that that would indicate that it's just about looks for him?
Fifidog · 22-25, F
@LordShadowfire no other comments like this but this is the 2nd time he said this dress comment.
LordShadowfire · 46-50, MVIP
@Fifidog So, what I'm hearing you say is that you're judging him by a superficial resemblance to your ex-boyfriend.
swirlie · 31-35, F
Why don't you just put on a damn sundress and go and have a good time, ffs?!

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