Should I get to know a man who lives an hour away?

As long as you are enjoying life and getting along well, is it truly a waste of time. An hour isn't much of a commute. Even if sleepovers are involved. You may be putting the cart before the horse. You don't apparently know each other well enough to even consider moving yet.

Go on more dates and see if you think he is the right man for you. If you do, then ask him if he would be willing to move to be nearer you.
Consider your position carefully and if you think you may be able to get a job near him.
Do not jump before you have looked at all the angles.

A lot of people live in metro areas that take ~ hour to get from one side to the other to visit friends/family.

@Fifidog
That is the million dollar question..... and a lot of those dollars have to do with your definition of "serious".

You could:
-Compromise and you both move halfway towards each other...
-Continue to live where you live and he continues to live where he lives and you both commute an hour (and trade off perhaps) when you want to get together. (BTW: I think this is the best suggestion while you are in the "get to know each other" phase.... simply because I also believe in the "it takes 12-24 months to really get to know each other" adage). Another advantage is that with the cost of gas being what it is..... the 5 minute commute sure beats a 30 min-2 hour commute until you are SURE you have met "the one."


And there are many other choices as well so it is kind of mute until "it gets serious"......

I know a couple who spend part of their time at his place together, part of their time at her place together, and part of their time in their own places separately so each can "have their space." It works for them.

Meeting the love of your life is very important so I don't think that you should necessarily relegate yourself to only a tiny square mile radius.
Having such strict restrictions would put you at a disadvantage in finding a partner.

I would get to know him more. You may find that you don't like him or you are craving to move in with him because you are falling in love.

While you are dating, you should split the difference and meet at restaurants and parks and theaters in between your two homes. If the chemistry is right, you will know it after you've seen each other a few times, and you can do overnights later.

If you want to get to know this man, you are already interested, so why not explore?

This BS about "wasting your time" is just that. If you meet a man you actually grow to care for, you will feel a lot differently, and if he returns your feelings, so will he!

First of all have you met in person? Second why are you making plans on you or him moving if you haven't gotten to know each other.

If neither one of you dont want to move that will be a problem down the road, no doubt

I would give him a chance, and if you still don't feel like he's worth it, he's not the one.

I did long distance dating a while back and it's shit because each time you meet there's even more pressure to make something happen. Long distance relationships maybe, but during the dating phase it's pretty shit

Seems like setting yourself up for disappointment when out the gate you both already know neither of you would want to move. It’s doable, but unless your both fiercely independent, indifferent to seeing each other regu,stay, with no desire to ever start a family or cohabitate with somebody.. ehhhh it’s a waste of both your time.

I think you are jumping too far into the future. You haven’t started dating yet, and you are concerned about commitment and moving. Just have a few dates first, and see if you like each other. One hour is not too far away. See how it plays out one date at a time. Just enjoy each other without worrying about things that may never happen.

1 hour is fine if you like each other

An hour isn't far to travel to see a loved one if you both have a car

My best friend lived in the same apartment complex with me when we met and lives about an hour away from where I've stayed lately and I see her nearly every day, usually several hours a day if not most of the day

I would move to anywhere but the pit of Hell to be with her, but an hour is nothing

And if you wind up getting married you can live on the edge of the area you live in now and commute until you find a better job (take your time to find better) in that area

I've also driven 45+ minutes to work daily before, gas is expensive now but other than that it's not that big of a deal if the pay is right on the job

Some people live in big cities where it can take 1-2 hours to commute to work and home and sometimes longer every day, get to know the guy and see where it goes...

Go on more dates. Get to know each other.

Deal with the issue of distance if/when it gets serious.

i think you already know the answer you are looking for. go with your gut.

I think you’re putting the cart before the horse. Meet him first and see how things go.

No body can advise u...completely up to u!

You won't have any idea about him until you get to know him better.

The question now is whether you want to go through the bother of getting to know him better.

honestly, you can make long distance work. but idk why you are already thinking of moving in with someone you are just starting to get to know? that’s kinda weird.

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