Should I get to know a man who lives an hour away?

The man I want to get to know more lives about an hour away. I am currently employed 5 minutes away from my house so I really don't want to move. He mentioned that he doesn't picture himself moving away from the area he lives in now. If I were to get serious with this man, would that be a problem down the road. Would neither one of us be flexible in moving? Is this something I should get deeper in conversation with him first, go on more dates? How can I address this concern. I don't want to waste my time if neither one of us want to move, but then I

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plungesponge · 41-45, M

I did long distance dating a while back and it's shit because each time you meet there's even more pressure to make something happen. Long distance relationships maybe, but during the dating phase it's pretty shit

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@plungesponge what made it feel that way for you

plungesponge · 41-45, M

@Fifidog because it takes time to meet up, so one or both of you has to put in serious preparation and travel time, a few dates later and someone will raise the prospect of staying over. it's like fast tracking to a full blown relationship before either are really ready

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@plungesponge at what point of a relationship so you think people should start staying over? How does staying over early affect a relationship?

plungesponge · 41-45, M

@Fifidog ended up being on the third date, which led to fvcking, which led to expectations of ongoing longdistance dating and more pressure to keep ramping things up. Any normal sign of consideration or hesitancy, normal at this stage of dating, called into question the effort being put in to see each other, just awkward af. And because you aren't meeting every day, theres a pressure to keep posting/ responding to each other on all the other days like you're madly in love when you're not