Should I get to know a man who lives an hour away?

The man I want to get to know more lives about an hour away. I am currently employed 5 minutes away from my house so I really don't want to move. He mentioned that he doesn't picture himself moving away from the area he lives in now. If I were to get serious with this man, would that be a problem down the road. Would neither one of us be flexible in moving? Is this something I should get deeper in conversation with him first, go on more dates? How can I address this concern. I don't want to waste my time if neither one of us want to move, but then I

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Threepio

@Fifidog

@Threepio good idea how do you address it if it when it gets serious

That is the million dollar question..... and a lot of those dollars have to do with your definition of "serious".

You could:
-Compromise and you both move halfway towards each other...
-Continue to live where you live and he continues to live where he lives and you both commute an hour (and trade off perhaps) when you want to get together. (BTW: I think this is the best suggestion while you are in the "get to know each other" phase.... simply because I also believe in the "it takes 12-24 months to really get to know each other" adage). Another advantage is that with the cost of gas being what it is..... the 5 minute commute sure beats a 30 min-2 hour commute until you are SURE you have met "the one."

And there are many other choices as well so it is kind of mute until "it gets serious"......

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@Threepio when do you think you get to know someone well? When you spend lots of time together?

Threepio

@Fifidog As I mentioned ....

12-24 months.

Interestingly enough..... 24months is also the number quoted by many as the ideal amount of time you should have spent together before getting married.....

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@Threepio wow that’s good to know thanks!