Say you lost your job and found yourself stuck at home for months despite dropping your CVS in different places. Would you mind being a house husband, doing the chores your wife would have done if roles were reversed?
Hmmm..that's a good question. I don't like being financially beholden to anyone..but, if I couldn't find work..I'd be the best damn house husband ever!
I cannot speak for others, BUT..... I lost my corporate job right after 9-11. My wife had been working part-time at a school in order to "keep an eye on our son" (disabled). When I got laid off she saw an opportunity to go full-time and accepted. So, in essence we switched roles.
This allowed me to stay at home and focus on an idea I had to start an internet business AND take care of my son when he was not in school. So, I became a full-time "house-husband". Fast forward: the business took off and I have been a "house husband" for over 20 years now.
My spouse works hard in her job, so I make sure the dishes are done, the floors are vacuumed regularly and the laundry is done so that when she gets home she can just relax. Yes, she still looks for "things not done".... and I do think there might be a slight inkling of "jealousy" there.... but it works for us.
Of course, I can't see every guy being as flexible as I am.... so, "your mileage may vary".....
I would be extremely depressed and not want to do anything, but I understand that that's a flaw of mine to be overcome, and would at least try to contribute.
@Hotchocolatezebra there are different ways of learning things. And so no two people's experiences are the same.
Yet the way I handled it is different than most.
The following link is a list of girls and women throughout my life, that I both loved and cared about. Some I had to let them go. ANY of them I would gladly welcome back...
I did it for a period of time... went from being jobless to working part-time from home to about six months later, going back to a full-time job. During that period my significant other was working and I did about 99% of the household chores.
Before and after that she and I more or less shared the household and kid duties... okay, she shared more than I did, but I did do nightly and weekend chores and kid stuff, plus I was almost always the cook.
I don't see why that would be an issue. I'd clean , do the laundry and cook your favorites including dessert all while donning an apron and nothing else underneath. And I want a kiss soon as you get home... I'm not prone to headaches if you know what I mean
@TheOthetAcc That would be nice. I'm a little concerned though cause I've never eaten food prepared by someone in their birthday suit and apron only 😂.
I had one period of enforced unemployment when I did a load of decorating etc.
More recently ill health forced me to retire early so I took over shopping, cleaning etc as for years while I commuted, travelled, worked late etc she regularly did those tasks. I'm happy to do it. I would have to do it if I was on my own.
I would do it no questions asked. In fact I did a few years back. I moved to her country to live together, and before I found a job I made sure the house was always spotless and that she came home to a warm meal. I also often drove her to and from work.
As a couple is a team I would have no problem. Besides, doing daily chores while also working is not at all alien to me, did it since young, when married, when single and specially as a long time "single dad".
I am retired now. But we wife and I both worked full time once the kids were in school and split the home duties. Now I still pull some grandparent pickups and manage the house as my wife canr any more. Its just not as hard as some make it lookm unless you want the place to look like a display the whole time. which ours never did..😷
I absolutely would be a house husband! And if I do something wrong, like break a dish or accidentally bleach her colored clothes, I expect her to pull my pants down and whip my tushy tan! While telling me how I'm a "bad boy" and mommy is whipping me for my own good!
As of yesterday i am retired. Signed the forms. Not married but have a gf. Watching the dog while she's at church. Have our own places. Always have to do my own chores. Will just have more time to do them now i guess.
@Hotchocolatezebra if that was needed. I would do it now if needed. We still have little ones at the house. My daughter can’t do it on her own. But like I said that is another story. If my wife had a way to make more than me I would switch with her.
I could certainly do that, and even more. I would even be a sissy for some random female if she was cute and kept me in chastity all the time and sometimes beat me. Its really a thing.
I was a house husband for 3 years when my ex and I were living abroad. Not an issue for my cv , currently working in Europe things my be a little easier here v
@cd4259 Of course there's nothing wrong with it but some guys act like it's the end of the world when it comes to this. How long were you a house husband if you don't mind me asking.
@Hotchocolatezebra So? It's about time! You seem to be hinting or suggesting that being financially dependent on a "woman" is shameful. Why? Are women somehow below men?
@TrashCat I don't know much about how gays are like when it comes to this situation. Most guys would rather be the provider than be dependent on a woman.
I would give 110%. I know that I wouldn't be able to keep a house spotless without any help at all because I have limited mobility these days - but I would still try my best to do as much as I can do and a bit more besides.
If I wasn't working and I had a partner who was, I would definitely be doing three chores. I'm a bit slower at some being in a wheelchair, but I'd be doing my best to contribute.
I would further state that if we both worked, we would share in chores. The only time one partner should have the majority of chores is when they do not work and the other does. The chores are their contribution to working in that case.