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I Have A Question For Guys

Say you lost your job and found yourself stuck at home for months despite dropping your CVS in different places. Would you mind being a house husband, doing the chores your wife would have done if roles were reversed?
MrBlueGuy Best Comment
Hmmm..that's a good question. I don't like being financially beholden to anyone..but, if I couldn't find work..I'd be the best damn house husband ever!

BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F
He should do house chores whether he had a job or not. Weird question.
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
@BittersweetPotato I totally agree but most guys I know don't do house chores. They act like they got a maid or their mama living with them 🙄.
BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F
@Hotchocolatezebra idk where you live but looks like it is a cultural thing. Those most guys arent for me.
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
@BittersweetPotato It seems it's a cultural thing.
I cannot speak for others, BUT..... I lost my corporate job right after 9-11. My wife had been working part-time at a school in order to "keep an eye on our son" (disabled). When I got laid off she saw an opportunity to go full-time and accepted. So, in essence we switched roles.

This allowed me to stay at home and focus on an idea I had to start an internet business AND take care of my son when he was not in school. So, I became a full-time "house-husband". Fast forward: the business took off and I have been a "house husband" for over 20 years now.

My spouse works hard in her job, so I make sure the dishes are done, the floors are vacuumed regularly and the laundry is done so that when she gets home she can just relax. Yes, she still looks for "things not done".... and I do think there might be a slight inkling of "jealousy" there.... but it works for us.

Of course, I can't see every guy being as flexible as I am.... so, "your mileage may vary".....
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
[[b]And the Husband of the Year goes tooooo... [/b]@Threepio] Wow you're the best husband ever. Your wife is lucky to have you in her life 😊.
BlueVeins · 22-25
I would be extremely depressed and not want to do anything, but I understand that that's a flaw of mine to be overcome, and would at least try to contribute.
Convivial · 26-30, F
It's a partnership isn't?
@Convivial It definitely [b]should[/b] be.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
I do all the chores anyway, even when I worked. Yet I have been alone for decades now.

What's the reward for living with anyone?
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
@Hotchocolatezebra there are different ways of learning things. And so no two people's experiences are the same.

Yet the way I handled it is different than most.

The following link is a list of girls and women throughout my life, that I both loved and cared about. Some I had to let them go. ANY of them I would gladly welcome back...

https://similarworlds.com/4729175-I-Want-To-Memorialize-People-I-Have-Lost/3493082-More-a-memorial-to-all-the-girls-that-have-effect

Some things you must let go, in order to get any single one of them back.
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
@DeWayfarer That's true. Let me read.
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
@DeWayfarer Wow the list is really long. I wonder how long my list will be when I reach your age 😅.
Ontheroad · M
I did it for a period of time... went from being jobless to working part-time from home to about six months later, going back to a full-time job. During that period my significant other was working and I did about 99% of the household chores.

Before and after that she and I more or less shared the household and kid duties... okay, she shared more than I did, but I did do nightly and weekend chores and kid stuff, plus I was almost always the cook.
TheOthetAcc · 36-40, M
I don't see why that would be an issue. I'd clean , do the laundry and cook your favorites including dessert all while donning an apron and nothing else underneath. And I want a kiss soon as you get home... I'm not prone to headaches if you know what I mean
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
@TheOthetAcc That would be nice. I'm a little concerned though cause I've never eaten food prepared by someone in their birthday suit and apron only 😂.
TheOthetAcc · 36-40, M
@Hotchocolatezebra Well I'm just trying to look good for my hardworking lady 😜
OldBrit · 61-69, M
I had one period of enforced unemployment when I did a load of decorating etc.

More recently ill health forced me to retire early so I took over shopping, cleaning etc as for years while I commuted, travelled, worked late etc she regularly did those tasks. I'm happy to do it. I would have to do it if I was on my own.
DMmeyourtits · 26-30, M
I would do it no questions asked. In fact I did a few years back. I moved to her country to live together, and before I found a job I made sure the house was always spotless and that she came home to a warm meal. I also often drove her to and from work.
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
@DMmeyourtits Awww how sweet. Are you two still together?
ElRengo · 70-79, M
As a couple is a team I would have no problem.
Besides, doing daily chores while also working is not at all alien to me, did it since young, when married, when single and specially as a long time "single dad".
JustScott · M
Yes, I could do that. I actually do some housework now.
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
I am retired now. But we wife and I both worked full time once the kids were in school and split the home duties. Now I still pull some grandparent pickups and manage the house as my wife canr any more. Its just not as hard as some make it lookm unless you want the place to look like a display the whole time. which ours never did..😷
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
@whowasthatmaskedman Some people just don't have the skill. You seem like you do 😉.
Of course I wouldn't mind, I'm a subbie.
WizardofOz · 26-30, M
I absolutely would be a house husband! And if I do something wrong, like break a dish or accidentally bleach her colored clothes, I expect her to pull my pants down and whip my tushy tan! While telling me how I'm a "bad boy" and mommy is whipping me for my own good!
LifeIsShort · 31-35, M
I did the chores regardless of my employment status when I lived alone.

So I don't see a probelm doing house work.
LifeIsShort · 31-35, M
@Hotchocolatezebra🥲 I would.

But there was never someone I can call my woman. It's a long story.
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
@LifeIsShort Am I being nosey if I told you I'm curious now 😅.
LifeIsShort · 31-35, M
@Hotchocolatezebra Its alright, I have sent a message to you.
Jake966 · 56-60, M
I wouldn’t mind
Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M
As of yesterday i am retired. Signed the forms. Not married but have a gf. Watching the dog while she's at church. Have our own places. Always have to do my own chores. Will just have more time to do them now i guess.
Jonjdw · 46-50, M
If that was what was needed. Our kids are grown. But they still are home and now 4 grandchildren live here also. But that another story.
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
@Jonjdw Say the kids were still younger
Jonjdw · 46-50, M
@Hotchocolatezebra if that was needed. I would do it now if needed. We still have little ones at the house. My daughter can’t do it on her own. But like I said that is another story. If my wife had a way to make more than me I would switch with her.
JamesBugman · 56-60, T
I could certainly do that, and even more. I would even be a sissy for some random female if she was cute and kept me in chastity all the time and sometimes beat me. Its really a thing.
Julien · 36-40, M
I was a house husband for 3 years when my ex and I were living abroad. Not an issue for my cv , currently working in Europe things my be a little easier here v
I wouldn't mind [i]at all[/i] being a house husband. I enjoy being home. I live alone and do all the domestic chores, anyway.
exexec · 61-69, C
No problem. I had to do that when she had a serious medical issue years ago. Everybody survived my cooking.
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
@exexec You're the best 🤗.
mysoulsays · 36-40, M
I belive in doing what is just needed , after all it's my own house, why to shy away in my own house
cd4259 · 61-69, M
Have been a house husband in the past as well as other roles. Nothing at all wrong
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
@cd4259 Of course there's nothing wrong with it but some guys act like it's the end of the world when it comes to this. How long were you a house husband if you don't mind me asking.
Livingwell · 61-69, M
I did exactly that for a year during Covid. Cleaning and laundry won't do themselves.
ErecSchunn · 46-50, M
I did that for about 6 months during the 2010 housing crash. I didn’t mind it
Why would I mind being on vacation?
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
@NoThanksLeon Probably because you'll be financially dependent on a woman 😆.
@Hotchocolatezebra So? It's about time!
You seem to be hinting or suggesting that being financially dependent on a "woman" is shameful. Why?
Are women somehow below men?
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
@NoThanksLeon I'm not hinting anything. It's just that guys I know don't like being dependent on a woman.
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
My husband has like 4 jobs. Any of them can keep him busy
Mordechai · 31-35, M
I mean I usually do those anyway as well as work so probably.
blackarcher256 · 61-69, M
No, not at all. Been there, done that.
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
@blackarcher256 For how long?
blackarcher256 · 61-69, M
TrashCat · M
Welp...im gay so i wonder if this applies.
I have had both a house husband and have been a house husband.

I can't imagine being so fragile in your masculinity that you would be upset at being a homemaker.
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
@TrashCat I don't know much about how gays are like when it comes to this situation. Most guys would rather be the provider than be dependent on a woman.
TrashCat · M
@Hotchocolatezebra Men are men. IMHO gay men are more secure in their masculinity. 🤯
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
@TrashCat I see.
Bumbles · 51-55, M
Yes, I need to work and be a provider to feel worthy.
plasticpants02 · 61-69, M
of course. cant see why not.
I would give 110%. I know that I wouldn't be able to keep a house spotless without any help at all because I have limited mobility these days - but I would still try my best to do as much as I can do and a bit more besides.
NiteRaven93 · 26-30, M
Yes Of Course
wudifu · 46-50, M
I wouldnt mind
Doug28 · 26-30, M
I would mind
DDaverde · 56-60, M
Allelse · 36-40, M
No, but I wouldn't do the chores, I hate chores.
Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F
@Allelse You and most men 🙄.
Allelse · 36-40, M
@Hotchocolatezebra That's women's work, it says so in the bible.
ViciDraco · 36-40, M
If I wasn't working and I had a partner who was, I would definitely be doing three chores. I'm a bit slower at some being in a wheelchair, but I'd be doing my best to contribute.

I would further state that if we both worked, we would share in chores. The only time one partner should have the majority of chores is when they do not work and the other does. The chores are their contribution to working in that case.
samanthaX · 41-45, T
I would delight in being your house husband and doing as you wished ♥️♥️♥️
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