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Can you honestly forgive someone ?

Poll - Total Votes: 55

Yes

I can try to

Forgive, but never forget.

Forget, but never forgive

When hell freezes over

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To forgive takes love, to forget takes humility

- Mother teresa

I guess I'm not as loving and as humble as I think I am.

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thinkingoutloud · F Best Comment

I can.
I just have to get out of my ego and look at it from a higher perspective.
I definitely can.

Umile · 41-45, F

@thinkingoutloud 👏 👏 👏 You're better than most. Better than me in that. Commendable. #STRONG

thinkingoutloud · F

@Umile I'm not better. You're not worse. It's about understanding things from different perspectives. My perspective is a spiritual one. (Not religious). I see these experiences as my learning for growth and people as catalysts.
It stops becoming personal and I work on myself.

Thank you for BC. 🙏🏽

Umile · 41-45, F

@thinkingoutloud An open minded approach. Nice.

EarthlingWise

Forgiving is not my goal but I do forgive when I am able to understand. When you forgive a child you also try to explain to them why they misbehaved. This implies a meeting between the aggrieved party and the abuser, which is not always possible. Forgiving every foul deed makes no sense, we should make sure the crime is not repeated.

Umile · 41-45, F

@EarthlingWise I can understand that.

Rambler · M

I can forgive. I don't forget.

Umile · 41-45, F

@Rambler I can get on board with that. Keeping people in sights.

kodiac · 22-25, M

Forgiveness is a gift not everyone deserves. If you steal a dollar i can forgive ,if you steal my childhood no way in hell.

Umile · 41-45, F

@kodiac I can understand that.

SooperSarah

I'm not sure I agree with that quote. I think forgiveness is earned. Love has nothing to do with it.
I'm not going to forget. If protecting myself from future problems with someone means I lack humility, then so be it.

Umile · 41-45, F

@SooperSarah I can see your reasoning. Forgiveness is not easy. Distancing is key.

Badjujubee · 46-50, F

I have the capacity to forgive almost anyone… but never myself.

Umile · 41-45, F

@Badjujubee I can feel you on that. 🤗 But. I must say. You are the root of it all. You are the captain of your own Life. You have to kind to yourself. Can't sweat the small stuff.

angie8819 · 56-60, F

Yes otherwise it will eat away at you

Umile · 41-45, F

@angie8819 💯

Degbeme · 70-79, M

Forgive, but never forget.

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bijouxbroussard · F

@RenFur Forgiving, to me, means to be able to go forward without anger at the person. Even when I can do that, depending on what was done, of course, I [b]am[/b] on guard. I don’t give people multiple opportunities to hurt me.

RenFur · 70-79, M

@bijouxbroussard

Understood. Not a full pardon. Ever.

Umile · 41-45, F

@Degbeme Not the place I want to go, but always where I end up.

Sidewinder · 36-40, M

Some I can forgive more easily than others.

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Umile · 41-45, F

@Sidewinder smh, nmh. Nodding my head.

Sidewinder · 36-40, M

@Umile Thanks, I'll have to remember that one.

Umile · 41-45, F

@Sidewinder I don't know if i came up with it. It just made sense.

Reflection2 · 41-45, M

It depends. I may forgive and forget or I may never. A lot of factors, contribute to it.

Umile · 41-45, F

@Reflection2 💯

RenFur · 70-79, M

Yes. As long as we part ways. There's always someone else to start another charade.

Umile · 41-45, F

@RenFur Distance helps.

SW-User

Only if they apologize [i][b]sincerely[/b][/i].

Umile · 41-45, F

@SW-User #TRUE

AlchemyFox · 36-40, F

I really don't know how to forgive someone. I don't hold grudges but I also don't feel like I forgive when that would mean getting hurt again.

Umile · 41-45, F

@AlchemyFox Nmh. I can feel you on that.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

Depends on the severity of the transgression. I won't let it get in my way. Example: one of the few people I'd call an "enemy" happens to now be an inspector in town. He's cool with me and I am the same in return, but lots of stuff went down between us a long time ago.

Umile · 41-45, F

@uncalled4 Snap. Water under a bridge, aye ? I understand the feeling. Unresolved.

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Ferric67 · M

I forgive just about everything
I forget nothing
by default, I try to learn about everything there is to learn about

Umile · 41-45, F

@Ferric67 nmh

exexec · 61-69, C

I learned early in life that if I don't forgive, I hurt myself. Forgiveness has worked for me.

Fluffybull · F

Some things you can't forgive but you can not talk about it and move on.

Umile · 41-45, F

@Fluffybull (((HUGGS))))

Nitedoc · 51-55, M

No. I wish I could. It's probably my biggest flaw.

FrogManSometimesLooksBothWays · M

@Nitedoc That's not a flaw.

Umile · 41-45, F

@Nitedoc 💯 me,too.

MsRose · F

In most cases I think so. But it may depend on the scenario itself.

Umile · 41-45, F

@MsRose True

nedkelly · 61-69, M

NO

I will hold a grudge forever

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

@nedkelly what’s the point though?

nedkelly · 61-69, M

@Jenny1234 Just my personal believe

Umile · 41-45, F

@nedkelly fist bump

Patriot96 · 56-60, C

I have forgiven some but i do not forget

Umile · 41-45, F

@Patriot96 💯

AccursedAlexander3 · 31-35, M

Doubt it, and why should I?

Umile · 41-45, F

@AccursedAlexander3 shoot

Spoiledbrat · F

When you forgive you forget.

Umile · 41-45, F

@Spoiledbrat Supposed to be like that.

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

Yes

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Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

@Umile forgiveness will help to increase one’s vibration level

Umile · 41-45, F

@Jenny1234 is that right ?

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

@Umile yes

jess12 · 26-30, F

Depends on what they did

Umile · 41-45, F

@jess12 nmh

Casheyane · F

It takes time.

Umile · 41-45, F

@Casheyane #TRUTH 🙏

pillowprincess · F

To be able to forgive means that they sincerely have reached a point where they regret their previous doings. To forget barely means to be able to move on for yourself, without having to give them any further thoughts.

FrogManSometimesLooksBothWays · M

No.

Umile · 41-45, F

@FrogManSometimesLooksBothWays i understand

MarineBob · 56-60, M

Umile · 41-45, F

@MarineBob i understand

WonderGirl · 36-40

It depends on what they have done. It's almost impossible for me to forgive a cheater. I have learned in my life once a cheater always a cheater. It's a trust issue.

Spoiledbrat · F

I've forgiven before but I've also held grudges.

bijouxbroussard · F

First, it depends on what was done. I can forgive, but even then I’m careful going forward.

Umile · 41-45, F

@bijouxbroussard 💯

RoxClymer · 41-45, M

depends on the situation and person

GohantheThird · M

Depends on what they did

TheLordOfHell · 41-45

Forgive your enemies, but remember their names!

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InOtterWords · F

I thonk what you can do is let go of the hurt and anger youvhave towards them

I see that as a negative emotion that is damaging only to your well being. Letting go of that is more important than forgiveness.

Nihiless

In an attempt to work alongside them yes and to stop it from consuming me - but I never forget.

Umile · 41-45, F

@Nihiless 💯

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

I forgive but I never forget

LordShadowfire · M

She's a fine one to talk. She intentionally kept people poor and miserable to make herself look better.

Umile · 41-45, F

@LordShadowfire Ooooh. I feel like thats blasphemy.

LordShadowfire · M

@Umile https://medium.com/lessons-from-history/the-dark-side-of-mother-teresa-b8b9f93df835

Hanginginthere · 31-35, M

Forgive yes, forget well that depends on the severity of the offense

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Hanginginthere · 31-35, M

@LordShadowfire that’s why I said depends on how severe it is

LordShadowfire · M

@Hanginginthere Actually, it doesn't. Here's an example of a mild one that I wouldn't forget. Say I told someone to meet me at a certain location, and they spaced it. I'm not going to be mad at them forever, or even for the rest of the day, but the next time I tell them to meet me somewhere, I'll send them a reminder. That's because I haven't forgotten that sometimes this person is absent-minded. Forgive, don't forget. That doesn't mean being a dick about it, because that would mean I haven't forgiven.

Hanginginthere · 31-35, M

@LordShadowfire man you are annoying. You’re like the brother I wish I never had 🙄

NativePortlander1970 ·

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Umile · 41-45, F

@NativePortlander1970 im afraid to watch this yo

NativePortlander1970 ·

@Umile Many people don't want to watch it.

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Umile · 41-45, F

@BittersweetPotato I can understand how you would feel that way.

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