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Have you ever met some that was just too much for you?

Overly complicated and sensitive? Too intense? I am not being judgemental just curious. How did you deal with them?
Just when I was a teenager and didn't know how to deal with complicated situations. My best friend back then was suffering from anorexia and an abusive home and I moved to another city. Every day that we would talk it was about her struggles, and rightly so. I felt like I was fighting for something futile. At some point she was admitted to the hospital and had her phone taken away so the only way I could contact her would be to visit the city during the weekends that she could have visitors for some hours. I did that sometimes but it wasn't always possible. Then she would finally be out of the hospital and I was so relieved but when we talked after all this time she told me I should have at least been calling her mother to learn from her how she was all this time, which I didn't and it seemed like I wasn't there for her when all it would take was something so simple. I admit it was my mistake but after that we started growing apart. It was the distance, the studying and her continuing mental health issues and we got to a point where I stopped learning about what's going on in her life. To this day I'm hoping she went to study in university somewhere far away from her parents or that they broke up and I hope she doesn't struggle with poverty. The thing is that I never really dealt with it, just let it take its course and that says a lot about me.
PepsiColaP · 22-25, F
@HannibalAteMeOut you have incredible insight and are incredibly smart and mature. But caring too. Its pretty normal to shut down and distance yourself ,consciously or subconsciously,to protect yourself . I have had a friend who would regularly talk about suicide and struggled with eating disorders too. After a while it became unhealthy for me to deal with and i knew that i would only contribute to the illness by then so i had to distance myself . Sometimes its the best thing to do
@PepsiColaP I love you.
I guess it's pretty much the same whenever I hear how cynical healthcare workers are. But I think in many cases they are just protecting themselves.
PepsiColaP · 22-25, F
@HannibalAteMeOut yup. I think overtime it happens to people. And it is okay.
I've learned that many people expect too much from others, they are needy but not giving, people can be extremely selfish
@AthenaArena Lacking tolerance and ability to understand that some people might have different needs and that their worldview isn't the only one and especially not the only one right out there. One thing is feeling something and another how one reacts.
If everyone is bad, evil, too much this, too little that to them then maybe they should take into a consideration a chance that the problem might be in fact in them, not the others. 🤷‍♀️
NiftyWhite · 46-50, F
I dated this one guy who was really nice and actually really good in bed. But he was too much. He tried way too hard thinking he was doing a great job. He would work midnights and then right after work, show up to my house to bring me breakfast when I wasn’t prepared and wasn’t awake and certainly not in the mood to entertain. He took great offence that I didn’t wanna get together first thing in the morning. When I tried to explain why, he would tell me he deserved more than this. Sorry but I’m not a morning person! I don’t want you at my house at 7am!

He was also too emotional and would cry when I talked about my dead mother when he never even met her. He had a lot of mannerisms that were weird to me too. Then when I broke up with him he tried to act really tough about it and then call me back a month later to check in and rexplain that he just “deserved better”

Yeah we did not get back together that’s for sure.

Also his kids seemed like a handful and he told me one of his girls would try to challenge me. i was out if that was the first thing he said about his kids.
@NiftyWhite I can't stand people like this. They only do something for you so they could feel entitled to some special treatment and don't care one bit about what you really want. I understand it hurts when someone doesn't appreciate the effort you put in but calling someone ungrateful and getting angry at them for not appreciating something they didn't even ask for is pretty obnoxious.
My last boyfriend was like that. I tried at first to be accepting and supportive until I understood he was causing his own stress and causing me stress and it was for no reason. I couldn’t deal with. I am intense and sensitive but I’ve come to realize some people enjoy causing their own pain without realizing it.
@DarkAbyss Then he enjoyed causing pain to you, not himself.
@CrazyMusicLover Either way, it worked well for him haha I couldn’t be in that kind of relationship.
@DarkAbyss I wouldn't tolerate someone who would unload his bs on me and then showed annoyance with my emotions either.
Bigdumbnakedguy · 26-30, M
I like to think that I can talk and get along with anyone, all walks of life and different point of views.

I certainly found my limit.

A coworker. He seemed okay. Maybe a little awkward. I saw nothing of it, I can be shy to.

But once he started to talk about fantasies of torturing people in a such serious tone. Talking about if there was no laws he would take advantage of it. Trying to show a gore website. Like, some deep web shit.

I know how to talk to someone who is a bit a unhinged. But this was a lot. Thankfully, he quit a few weeks later.
OhIsMe · 36-40, M
There's a huge difference between sensitive and 'too sensitive' and I hate that some people have to worry that they're being 'too much' when they're actually just aware of the world and responding to it.

I dated someone for three years who would scream and threaten me if I spoke to a female friend. This on its own is not too sensitive because she had understandable reasons for being anxious about men leaving her, as her dad left to start a new life with another woman when she was young.

But

When the arguments had finished and we were able to talk things through, her solution was not to get some therapy, or confront her own jealousy and inability to trust, it was a negotiation on which female friends I could see, and how I should keep her informed of this. This is when it becomes too much. She did not want to change her own unreasonable responses to reasonable behaviour. She wanted to change the world to suit her unreasonable feelings and all this did was perpetuate the problem.
ginnyfromtheblock · 22-25, F
i fear i am this for other people
@ginnyfromtheblock I was thinking the same thoughts about me
Becks048 · F
I think everyone has their moments. Being sensitive. Reacting without thinking. I know I tend to, lol. But some just take to extremes. What I can't deal with is those with anger issues or poor poor pitiful me/ feel sorry for me syndrome. I tune them out
People used to explain they avoided me because I was "Too intense."

like excuse me my society has made passion a vice but thats fucked up.
Yes, but I have my moments too so I wouldn't be surprised if someone felt that way about me as well.
My old boss. It was like being in Dynasty the chav version most days
Well if something is wrong then u need to communicate with them. Tell them what wrong. Unless they too sensitive. If that the case then it kinda more difficult to navigate an approach. But communicating is the best advice even if its an uncomfortable situation it still the best overall answer
Isthisit · 36-40, F
@Darksideinthenight2 yes but what if they are too sensitive and turn you approaching them about in back onto you?
@Isthisit well i did mention if they too sensitive then any approach about addressing the issue would be difficult. If they too sensitive i kinda tend to not even bother. Like i go and tell them to loosen up bec not everything is about hurting them. It about how we all can improve. But yeah it difficult dealing with ppl like that tho
There are various people out there. I usually go quiet around everyone I don't know how to deal with. I had a phase when I was dealing with something internally and felt offended by things people normally brush off so I understand it's not easy.
Isthisit · 36-40, F
@CrazyMusicLover I go quiet too. I dont know how to deal with it.
It scared me off
Isthisit · 36-40, F
DevilCalling · 22-25, M
Yes, not any girlfriend but a friend....
Now i don't talk to them any more because i can't handle the crap!
Lushi · 36-40, F
@DevilCalling u still talk to me 🤣 my brother
DevilCalling · 22-25, M
rrraksamam · 31-35, M
No. I've met someone who was incredibly selfish and ignorant of the fact.

I can be sensitive and intense. I don't think I'm complicated. I like to keep things simple.
HikingMan · 51-55, M
I deal with him every day.
Always doing my best to control the urge to punch him in the face whenever I see him...,
In the mirror...

The bastard !
Wiseacre · F
Yeah...too picky! I dealt with it by seeing less of her!
Allelse · 31-35, M
Moved on with life.
Adstar · 56-60, M
You break contact with them..
Barebum61 · 61-69, M
Yes there always seems to be one in every group who thinks we’re all there to just accommodate their nonsense quietly. I think you just have to be straight with them.
PaleandPolluted · 31-35, F
Not in that way no. Met someone who threw tantrums at age 45 and did the whole, "I'm not coming on the internet again and I'm going to delete all the messages." Soo pathetic.
meggie · 36-40, F
My ex sister-in-law would ask you a question and then answer if for you. She would tell you how you thought and give unwanted advice on what we all should do.
Reflection2 · 36-40, M
Yes. I have met few like those. Worst part, all of them were males. Such type of males are so hard to handle.
Convivial · 26-30, F
Sometimes yes... And move on, not my job to educate them...
Well, I have always moved away and never speaks to them.
reubles · 41-45, M
I deal with them by keeping people like that out of my life
meJess · F
I just put the leftovers in the fridge
I think I'm often the one who's too much. I hate it 😔
Isthisit · 36-40, F
@Isthisit Move on to the next one
Isthisit · 36-40, F
@TheStarsareout next what? Person?
Whodunnit · 41-45, M
We thankfully split up
Buildingadoor · 26-30, F
I personally can’t fault someone who’s complicated, sensitive or intense

Sounds like a human being to me

People with with anger, jealousy, manipulative, severe insecurities/depression personalities etc are an actual issue.

 
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