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Have you ever met some that was just too much for you?

Overly complicated and sensitive? Too intense? I am not being judgemental just curious. How did you deal with them?
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
Just when I was a teenager and didn't know how to deal with complicated situations. My best friend back then was suffering from anorexia and an abusive home and I moved to another city. Every day that we would talk it was about her struggles, and rightly so. I felt like I was fighting for something futile. At some point she was admitted to the hospital and had her phone taken away so the only way I could contact her would be to visit the city during the weekends that she could have visitors for some hours. I did that sometimes but it wasn't always possible. Then she would finally be out of the hospital and I was so relieved but when we talked after all this time she told me I should have at least been calling her mother to learn from her how she was all this time, which I didn't and it seemed like I wasn't there for her when all it would take was something so simple. I admit it was my mistake but after that we started growing apart. It was the distance, the studying and her continuing mental health issues and we got to a point where I stopped learning about what's going on in her life. To this day I'm hoping she went to study in university somewhere far away from her parents or that they broke up and I hope she doesn't struggle with poverty. The thing is that I never really dealt with it, just let it take its course and that says a lot about me.
PepsiColaP · F
@HannibalAteMeOut you have incredible insight and are incredibly smart and mature. But caring too. Its pretty normal to shut down and distance yourself ,consciously or subconsciously,to protect yourself . I have had a friend who would regularly talk about suicide and struggled with eating disorders too. After a while it became unhealthy for me to deal with and i knew that i would only contribute to the illness by then so i had to distance myself . Sometimes its the best thing to do
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
@PepsiColaP I love you.
I guess it's pretty much the same whenever I hear how cynical healthcare workers are. But I think in many cases they are just protecting themselves.
PepsiColaP · F
@HannibalAteMeOut yup. I think overtime it happens to people. And it is okay.
NiftyWhite · 46-50, F
I dated this one guy who was really nice and actually really good in bed. But he was too much. He tried way too hard thinking he was doing a great job. He would work midnights and then right after work, show up to my house to bring me breakfast when I wasn’t prepared and wasn’t awake and certainly not in the mood to entertain. He took great offence that I didn’t wanna get together first thing in the morning. When I tried to explain why, he would tell me he deserved more than this. Sorry but I’m not a morning person! I don’t want you at my house at 7am!

He was also too emotional and would cry when I talked about my dead mother when he never even met her. He had a lot of mannerisms that were weird to me too. Then when I broke up with him he tried to act really tough about it and then call me back a month later to check in and rexplain that he just “deserved better”

Yeah we did not get back together that’s for sure.

Also his kids seemed like a handful and he told me one of his girls would try to challenge me. i was out if that was the first thing he said about his kids.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@NiftyWhite I can't stand people like this. They only do something for you so they could feel entitled to some special treatment and don't care one bit about what you really want. I understand it hurts when someone doesn't appreciate the effort you put in but calling someone ungrateful and getting angry at them for not appreciating something they didn't even ask for is pretty obnoxious.
Bignakedguy · 31-35, M
I like to think that I can talk and get along with anyone, all walks of life and different point of views.

I certainly found my limit.

A coworker. He seemed okay. Maybe a little awkward. I saw nothing of it, I can be shy to.

But once he started to talk about fantasies of torturing people in a such serious tone. Talking about if there was no laws he would take advantage of it. Trying to show a gore website. Like, some deep web shit.

I know how to talk to someone who is a bit a unhinged. But this was a lot. Thankfully, he quit a few weeks later.
My last boyfriend was like that. I tried at first to be accepting and supportive until I understood he was causing his own stress and causing me stress and it was for no reason. I couldn’t deal with. I am intense and sensitive but I’ve come to realize some people enjoy causing their own pain without realizing it.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@BrokenAbyss Then he enjoyed causing pain to you, not himself.
@CrazyMusicLover Either way, it worked well for him haha I couldn’t be in that kind of relationship.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@BrokenAbyss I wouldn't tolerate someone who would unload his bs on me and then showed annoyance with my emotions either.
OhIsMe · 36-40, M
There's a huge difference between sensitive and 'too sensitive' and I hate that some people have to worry that they're being 'too much' when they're actually just aware of the world and responding to it.

I dated someone for three years who would scream and threaten me if I spoke to a female friend. This on its own is not too sensitive because she had understandable reasons for being anxious about men leaving her, as her dad left to start a new life with another woman when she was young.


When the arguments had finished and we were able to talk things through, her solution was not to get some therapy, or confront her own jealousy and inability to trust, it was a negotiation on which female friends I could see, and how I should keep her informed of this. This is when it becomes too much. She did not want to change her own unreasonable responses to reasonable behaviour. She wanted to change the world to suit her unreasonable feelings and all this did was perpetuate the problem.
Daisyrose · F
Most people I meet are too much for me. I like a quiet life.
Convivial · 26-30, F
@Daisyrose not a bad way to be....
ginnyfromtheblock · 22-25, F
i fear i am this for other people
@ginnyfromtheblock I was thinking the same thoughts about me
I think everyone has their moments. Being sensitive. Reacting without thinking. I know I tend to, lol. But some just take to extremes. What I can't deal with is those with anger issues or poor poor pitiful me/ feel sorry for me syndrome. I tune them out
People used to explain they avoided me because I was "Too intense."

like excuse me my society has made passion a vice but thats fucked up.
Yes, but I have my moments too so I wouldn't be surprised if someone felt that way about me as well.
My old boss. It was like being in Dynasty the chav version most days
I was with one person several years ago who was overly sensitive about [i]many[/i] things. I think she was in a lot of psychological pain and was good at reacting to anything that challenged her inner demons. We weren't together for more than a few months. It's all I could take.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
There are various people out there. I usually go quiet around everyone I don't know how to deal with. I had a phase when I was dealing with something internally and felt offended by things people normally brush off so I understand it's not easy.
Isthisit · F
@CrazyMusicLover I go quiet too. I dont know how to deal with it.
Yes, there is many people like that and it’s too much to handle. As for me, I try my best not to show sensitivity. I’m shy but I try to handle that and after knowing people for a long time I lose the shyness .
AngelKrish · 26-30, M
Yes, not any girlfriend but a friend....
Now i don't talk to them any more because i can't handle the crap!
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rrraksamam · 31-35, M
No. I've met someone who was incredibly selfish and ignorant of the fact.

I can be sensitive and intense. I don't think I'm complicated. I like to keep things simple.
HikingMan · 51-55, M
I deal with him every day.
Always doing my best to control the urge to punch him in the face whenever I see him...,
In the mirror...

The bastard !
Wiseacre · F
Yeah...too picky! I dealt with it by seeing less of her!
lostinwoods · 36-40, M
My First GF.
She was over in every sense.
Adstar · 56-60, M
You break contact with them..
Allelse · 31-35, M
Moved on with life.
Yes there always seems to be one in every group who thinks we’re all there to just accommodate their nonsense quietly. I think you just have to be straight with them.
Barebum61 · 61-69, M
PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F
Not in that way no. Met someone who threw tantrums at age 45 and did the whole, "I'm not coming on the internet again and I'm going to delete all the messages." Soo pathetic.
meggie · 36-40, F
My ex sister-in-law would ask you a question and then answer if for you. She would tell you how you thought and give unwanted advice on what we all should do.
I've learned that many people expect too much from others, they are needy but not giving, people can be extremely selfish
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@AthenaArena Lacking tolerance and ability to understand that some people might have different needs and that their worldview isn't the only one and especially not the only one right out there. One thing is feeling something and another how one reacts.
If everyone is bad, evil, too much this, too little that to them then maybe they should take into a consideration a chance that the problem might be in fact in them, not the others. 🤷‍♀️
Darin99branch · 51-55, M
Definitely yes. I usually give it a good effort, then just let it drift away if it comes to it. No big splashy announcement. Quietly drift.
snofan · M
Yes I have. I don't judge them for who they are, but for my own well being I move on. Don't need them in my life unless they have to be there.
Reflection2 · 36-40, M
Yes. I have met few like those. Worst part, all of them were males. Such type of males are so hard to handle.
Most times, I lock myself up and shun dealing with myself.

Simple as that!
Well, I have always moved away and never speaks to them.
Convivial · 26-30, F
Sometimes yes... And move on, not my job to educate them...
reubles · 41-45, M
I deal with them by keeping people like that out of my life
Dino11 · M
When that occurs, a good heart to heart talk usually suffices.
bhatjc · 46-50, M
Called the cops on them. Didn't want to deal with that drama
I think I'm often the one who's too much. I hate it 😔
meJess · F
I just put the leftovers in the fridge
Isthisit · F
TheStarsareout · 56-60, M
@Isthisit Move on to the next one
Isthisit · F
@TheStarsareout next what? Person?
Whodunnit · M
We thankfully split up
assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
That's me.
It scared me off
Isthisit · F
I have a family member like that, unfortunately. We’re unable to be close, and there’s a lack of trust because of that.
bhatjc · 46-50, M
@bijouxbroussard Sorry to hear that
I personally can’t fault someone who’s complicated, sensitive or intense

Sounds like a human being to me

People with with anger, jealousy, manipulative, severe insecurities/depression personalities etc are an actual issue.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
I usually give all of myself and try to be sensitive to what the other person needs. I don’t even expect the same in return.

Maybe I should because I let people treat me like crap and just leave when they have had enough. That’s always a great feeling.
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Isthisit · F
@Darksideinthenight2 yes but what if they are too sensitive and turn you approaching them about in back onto you?
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