Have you ever met some that was just too much for you?
Overly complicated and sensitive? Too intense? I am not being judgemental just curious. How did you deal with them?
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OhIsMe · 36-40, M
There's a huge difference between sensitive and 'too sensitive' and I hate that some people have to worry that they're being 'too much' when they're actually just aware of the world and responding to it.
I dated someone for three years who would scream and threaten me if I spoke to a female friend. This on its own is not too sensitive because she had understandable reasons for being anxious about men leaving her, as her dad left to start a new life with another woman when she was young.
But
When the arguments had finished and we were able to talk things through, her solution was not to get some therapy, or confront her own jealousy and inability to trust, it was a negotiation on which female friends I could see, and how I should keep her informed of this. This is when it becomes too much. She did not want to change her own unreasonable responses to reasonable behaviour. She wanted to change the world to suit her unreasonable feelings and all this did was perpetuate the problem.
I dated someone for three years who would scream and threaten me if I spoke to a female friend. This on its own is not too sensitive because she had understandable reasons for being anxious about men leaving her, as her dad left to start a new life with another woman when she was young.
But
When the arguments had finished and we were able to talk things through, her solution was not to get some therapy, or confront her own jealousy and inability to trust, it was a negotiation on which female friends I could see, and how I should keep her informed of this. This is when it becomes too much. She did not want to change her own unreasonable responses to reasonable behaviour. She wanted to change the world to suit her unreasonable feelings and all this did was perpetuate the problem.