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So I came out of my office to get some water and my worker asked me how things were going. I said things were fine but it was freezing in MY office. He says what are you talking about it's not cold in here you must be crazy. I said well it's cold...

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Barefooter25 · 46-50, M

I think some people just want an argument and can't leave well enough alone. 😕

Cigarguy · M

@Barefooter25 it's just annoying to me. I get he might not be cold but to argue that I'm not. He's young so maybe that is part of the issue lol

Barefooter25 · 46-50, M

@Cigarguy Believe me, being young has nothing to do with it. I have encountered people I used to work with over the years who are probably twice as old as your co-worker and they have the maturity level of an 11 year old brat.

Cigarguy · M

@Barefooter25 it was just the fact he called me crazy and said it definitely wasn't cold, how would he even know he didn't come into my office at all. I just need to not come out of my office anymore 😔

LilMissAnonyMOUSE · F Best Comment

Oh, yes...unfortunately, some do that and it's rude. It's this strange need they have to say something contrary to what you have just stated. While we can have differing opinions, I think when someone expresses something that to them is a fact ( such as what you said), I think it's just common courtesy not to contradict the person. He made it worse too by calling you crazy, which is crossing the line and offensive. Just chalk it up to ignorance and lack of knowledge of social norms and behavior, which is not an excuse because at his age, he should know them by now...but some are just rude and tactless.

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LilMissAnonyMOUSE · F

@Cigarguy Exactly. What he did is what's called gaslighting, defined as ''Manipulate (someone) using psychological methods into questioning their own sanity or powers of reasoning''. As if only his opinion was right and questions yours as if you don't have a clue or able to decide for yourself. Every time he asks you anything not job-related, just say '' Sorry, can't right now, I'm busy''...hopefully he'll eventually get the hint.

Thank you for giving me Best Comment☺

Cigarguy · M

@LilMissAnonyMOUSE yes and Kim saying I'm crazy was a bit hurtful because I do struggle with mental health issues and everyone at my office knows this.

No problem thank you for the very kind answer!

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Mamapolo2016 · F

Yes, some people just want to argue. I can’t tell you why because I don’t know.

Cigarguy · M

@Mamapolo2016 lol me either maybe he's just bored and was just looking to see if I would argue back more. I just went in my office and turned on my little heater and warmed up

Coralmist · 41-45, F

It's frustrating!! I think many people can't accept anything different from what THEY think or said. It's immature, rude and seems a form of narcissism.

Cigarguy · M

@Coralmist it's why I never talk politics or religion at work or even on here because I just don't want to argue with people. So I just keep quiet about all that. I guess now I've learned that I can't even tell somebody if I'm cold or hot LOL

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Cigarguy Exactly, I never bring up controversial things because I don't have the want for constant criticism or arguments. I don't mind a debate here or there, but on the whole I stick to very casual issues.
I've dealt with a malignant narcissist, my mom for years, and I just read in a book on narcissists, the psychologist author said you really can't talk about ANYTHING with a narcissist. They will cut down positive things, sad things, Anything. So it's sad sometimes I want to tell my mom something and I know I can't ..EVEN if positive. She still will find a way to reject or ridicule it. So I know what you mean on not even saying a regular thing 🙁

Cigarguy · M

@Coralmist I hate arguing with people. I tend to shut down and get very uncomfortable when someone starts disappearing with me on something. I also worry I'll have a outbursts and say something that will make the situation much worse. So I just find it easier to keep my head down, be quiet and stay out of those kind of conversations altogether.

eyeno · M

Yup, I've run across a few here.

4meAndyou · F

Caption: "Don't you dare try to tell me how I FEEL!!!"

Cigarguy · M

@4meAndyou so I most of been really chilled yesterday because I felt cold even at home. I mentioned it in front of Joel and instead of calling me crazy or arguing with me about how I feel he asked me if he could get me a blanket. Lol. So not everyone is rude like my coworker