Has anyone had therapist that mainly listens to you/nods? My last two or three did this, and my...

The first therapist I went to literally just sat there doing nothing, I suppose waiting for me to talk? Didn't try to get me to talk, prompt me, engage whatsoever, just sat there staring at me. Little 10 year old me didn't understand what was going on, and was even shyer than current me, so we literally would just sit there staring at each other for an hour. Luckily, didn't go to her very long.

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Yes, I phoned crisis lines. They helped more. They're free and anonymous. You can get a new counsellor everytime and build up things to talk about at any time you feel like calling.
Also please run away from why you can't speak up and start doing so anyway. It's very important. Practice with the counsellor without telling them.
I think they're trained to nod and listen without causing you to do something.
Some of them are less helpful and
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goodlil666 · 51-55, M

Doesn't sound like they are really interested in help you or maybe not really qualified to be counseling anyone. I would think they would have questions and even suggestions of things you might try to improve your coping and management skills and ways to work through and free yourself from the chains that bind you. Are they helping you at all without any kind of input or feedback?

Adogslife · 61-69, M

It’s both of you.

Therapy isn’t just about speaking or listening. It requires that you have an action plan. Whatever the issue, you need goals to get from point A to point B and eventually the finish line.

Ask direct questions that focus on you getting better over time, but interim goals are critical to success.

Jamesy · 41-45, M

They're using you for a cash cow, keep your money 💰 in your pocket. For best advice go see a priest at a church ⛪️, preferably one thats noted for being a gas 🎒 bag chatter box 📦. Have you ever thought of joining a quoir with your singing voice you should do.

SinlessOnslaught · M

Do you directly ask them for their input? I think therapists are uncomfortable offering advice if it's not asked for. Like they think they'll offend you if they say something you disagree with.

OldBrit · 61-69, M

You need to ask about their "modality" and how they work. Many are deliberately not offering you their view and opinions as that's not how they work.

Magenta · F

Hmm doesn't seem like a very good "therapist", although I've never had one. Seems feedback is necessary otherwise it's like talking to yourself?

exchrist · 31-35

My therapists asks question now and again but mostly listens.

Domking · 61-69, M

That is very unprofessional

JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M

Is your therapist named Jack?

🤪

All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy (movie line reference)

But seriously, so sorry you are not getting the help you need.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

That isn’t very helpful, you aren’t paying her just to listen to you. You need her feedback so you can through the stuff you’re talking about.

Lilnonames · F

Never needed one. Only thought they just take your money