@nedkelly That I can imagine. When our daughter died my wife could not understand that I had to go back to work.

@SW-User I am very sorry for your loss

@Morvoren That is so so sad. My wife could not have more after our daughter died. So I have no biological children either. Did your bf stay with you?

@SW-User Yes, we came through it together and we are married now.

@Morvoren That is lovely. And I’ve been married to my wife thirty two years too.

@taneegoan can I PM you?

@taneegoan Very sad to hear that. I am sure it is very tough :(

@taneegoan Very sorry to hear this friend, But you are not alone.

@SooperSarah strong

@Thevy29 omg. How did you do it? I'm sure it was painful. Did you ever feel burdened though?

@SWUser123 I was in the first year of a Chef Apprenticeship when my Uncle was diagnosed with cancer. He was the primary care giver for Grandma at the time and already had some support in place. I changed to Aged care and Enrolled nursing. Posed as one of the day time carers, since Grandma didn't recognise me. I helped out during the day till he got home from work.
The Next door neighbours gave me a room to board in, so I was always close at hand. Grandma had a stroke 2 years later and we couldn't manage her at home and had to place her in a facility. I got a part time job there too and Uncle visited daily. I moved in with Uncle and took care of the house. He was devastated when she passed away 3 years after that. And he died a year later in 2009.
I never felt burdened. It gave me purpose. When I left Highschool I couldn't find a job, ended up on the street too depressed to see a way forward. The Chef course was the first available option. And then uncle got his diagnoses and there was no other choice, they were family. You do what you can for family.

@WillaKissing I hope not, I have sons, they are my life. I pray to God that one day you find peace. And peace for your beloved son. 🙏

@Lilliesandlight You know when reunited in Heaven I know I will. But there will always be this living with his loss until that day that hurts. But I will be fine. Bless you and your son's.

@WillaKissing I'm very sorry to hear that 😓

@Gusman keep on the journey, not worth looking or going back to that way of life

@Kstrong i have it beaten for sure. Alcohol will not be my comfort ever again.

@Gusman proud of you sticking to your guns

@SunshineGirl yes, that’s another horrible one . In my case it was my mother many years ago.

@SW-User I hope you are doing well and welcome back

@nedkelly

Aw I’m good thanks ☺️

@SW-User 💯

@V00doo I'm glad she was able to come in 4 weeks. Something I can't imagine. I remember being pregnant and wanting to make it past 30 weeks as you're in a safer zone to deliver.... But nothing can prepare your heart ....

@Kstrong We were in trouble from 28wks. We held on

@V00doo I can imagine your heart holding the baby in for four more weeks!

@SW-User i am indeed. A lot of shit went down during all of that and its for the best that he knows none of it

@Torsten

Were you forced to take the red pill?

@PatKirby what does that mean?

@As0if dont tear up on my accord. Its made me who i am today, and its the reason zi've achieved everything that I have. We all come from different walks of life.

@SW-User True, I've been through some bad things myself and as you said - it all made me who I am today... But seeing all these sad comments... I'm just sensitive 🥺

@Ramon67 I have t shirt with that on it. Join the club.

@melissa001 Gosh

@SW-User its been extremely humblying for me. I wish it were different. The only thing i can do. I do my best to let go and cooperate. Ive never felt so scared. And the recheck/goback over/review faze is 3 times more daunting. Ive always done that triple check anyway. But now its exhausting.

@exchrist I'm sorry you are struggling ...Don't fight it just do what is best for you

@SW-User i was able to get to that place after 3 weeks intensive inpatient i even quit smoking drinking and every orher bad habit as a result being nearly 40 its very humbling.

@nedkelly i took a week of mental health leave

@Patriot96 all my respect for those that work in the ER, angels, thank you for dealing with the worst of the worst...

@Kstrong thank you

@smiler2012 that is very difficult. That news is a major shock.

@HootyTheNightOwl Never trust anyone who says you can trust them.

It’s difficult to trust anyone on here. So often you are taught what hurt is.

@SW-User I have a small group of people on here that I trust.

We had been talking for months prior to me reaching that point though - so it's not like I wake up one morning and say "Hey, I'm going to trust the entirety of SW today".

@HootyTheNightOwl Take care

@Isthisit how long have you been with the in-laws?