I hate being fat, not only am i forced to spend the rest of my life alone whilst my friends start families, but i get called fat alot when i am out doing shopping, i am so sick of i've had it all my life xxx
I have always struggled with my weight. At the mid-level of my BMI I am still not thin enough for society’s standards, yet find my health struggles to maintain that weight.
Please don’t become me. Please don’t hate your body and see yourself as less of a person because of what you see in the mirror. You’re beauty goes far beyond your size.
Size shaming is the last acceptable public cruelty people can do so they run with it. They are ignorant…bottom line. It’s easy for someone to tell us to just work hard and lose weight. What they don’t understand sometimes is that constantly being stabbed with “helpful” criticism can actually make us feel more like a failure in our struggle.
Be you…your beautiful self. If you want to make a change, do it in your terms, not according to what others say or how they judge you. Be proud of every part of you.
@Pinkstarburst right on, do it for you. You'll be the one enduring it not those that pay judgement. Those types use anything or anybody to try to raise their own self esteem. And people who judge think they are just a little bit better than others. Personally I like curvy women. Not to be offensive but they gotta lot of heart and that's what makes the world go round to me.
If you are really tired of being fat, it will take you six months where you count each and every calorie, and your problem will be gone. There will come a day when you start seeing your own toes on the weighing scale.
@Jenny1234 I agree losing weight is good just do it for right reasons because the lady want 6o do it for herself What I don't agree with is female want to lose weight for men
Many men (like me) find fat women to be very attractive, and many fat women enjoy stable and loving relationships. If you’re approaching every potential partner with the attitude that you’re unattractive and they couldn’t possibly be interested in you, that will have an effect.
You don’t deserve to be insulted when you’re out shopping, but there’s not much you can do about that other than telling rude people to mind their own business.
There are many dating sites that cater to fat women, so you may want to look into that.
I know some of what you're going through because I've got fat over the last few years. I hate myself and I am struggling to do anything about it. But you should live who you are there's plenty out there for you.
A lot of times I hear how if a person doesn't want to be fat they can just choose not to be. This is my response to those people:
Really? Really?! If a person could help being fat they wouldn't be fat to begin with. Why would someone choose to be fat then complain about being fat if they could stop being fat in the first place? Also diets don't work. We now have a century of trial and error that shows calories in vs calories out is wrong. Also some thing that no one ever mentions is that if you do succeed with a diet you have to diet for the rest of your life to keep the weight off. And even then your body may decide to make you fat again anyway.
There is no need to stay alone. There are lots of men who love fat women. And there are lots of fat men who shouldn't complain about women being fat. Also important to realize that despite what you think, there are a lot of people out there who actually find personality much more important than superficial things as body size.
People who don't know you really should keep their opinions to themselves!
If it's only a few kilos then you can probably do something about it by eating less. It's not always easy though. It was easy for me a few years ago because of an unpleasant event in my life but it still took me a year of not eating much to go down from 85 kg to 75 kg, getting me just inside the NHS healthy weight range for my height and age. My 'trick' for keeping the weight down is to eat most of my meals from smaller than normal plates.
I wish you luck whatever you decide to do whether it is calorie restriction or telling the insulting busybodies to keep their opinions to themselves.
Determination is the key and not a lot have that with so much temptation these days! You need to find something that works for you not a crazy fad diet!
You are young enough to do something about it . You didn’t get fat over night, the same will be true of shedding it . It’s very possible to have a nice figure. Your doctor can put you on the right track .
I've been fat since I was born, so I know what you're talking about. I can't even imagine what it would be like to be thin, yet it's something I've always wanted. You're not alone. <3
It always makes me sad to know someone is unhappy with their life. Life is meant to be enjoyed. You have a pretty face, I'm sure that when you smile it lights up a room. You can change your body if that is truly your desire, it won't be easy. You've already found that out. You do mention having friends, keep them close and you will not be alone. My only advice would be to seek peace within and make small but steady change a persistent habit. Forgive mistakes but don't make them a habit. Most of all, care about and for yourself, your life has meaning and value to yourself and those around you!
@ChubbySienna Have been there and know very well how insensitive, condescending and outright disrespectful people can be towards people with a weight problem.
For many with weight issues, food is their drug of choice. Unlike illicit drugs and alcohol, you can't quit food. You can choose to change your relationship with it and work toward a healthier you, both mentally and physically. There are some great programs, websites and even phone apps out there to help. If I may offer some advice .. gets tougher to lose weight as you get older. The sooner you start, the better.
Ok i checked on your profile pics and i understand that being called fat when doing shopping and stuff do sucks..yet, i find you beautiful. And it's not that I am saying sth nice, i really do think you are beautiful. You have sth particular, your own kind of beauty. Society just likes us to fit within norms. I'd say.. remember who you are and be the unique you and those who matter will stick around!
Here's another comment, which may be related to what @Beautywithin said: It's not important what you eat; the only thing that matters is how much you eat (and drink, of course). Eat whatever you like, but stop after 1600 calories a day. Learn to live with a harmless feeling of being hungry in the evening.
I can relate to your experience some. When I was heavier it was incredible how perfect strangers felt comfortable to comment on my weight or appearance. I still don’t get what it is about a higher number on the scale that seems to invite insults from others. I don’t know your situation if you have any physical limitations or health issues that are hindering your ability to properly shed fat. For myself it was a matter of discipline. I had to choose every day to do my miles & eat healthy. I lost over 70lbs. But that wasn’t enough. I gained back some then a little more during my pregnancy. I realize now as I restart my journey to a healthier me that I need to focus on my mental health as well as my physical health. Losing weight is very much wrapped up in how we are feeling. If we feel bad we usually don’t want to move/ exercise & we often find comfort in junk food. Focusing on trying to think more positively & being kinder to ourselves can make all the difference. Treating ourselves with respect from what we consume to how we talk to ourselves. I wish you luck with accepting yourself now & hope you can reach a size you can find happiness at too. As far as other people mocking you or making swift judgments try not to take them too seriously. Small minds make small minded comments. Take care ❄️
There are a lot of men who prefer fat women. You just need to put yourself in a position where you can meet one. And I agree, the way fat women are treated is unacceptable. I've heard of strangers handing out diet brochures or even removing food from a fat woman's grocery cart.
Well i think you look gorgeous, those people who call you names are just shallow pigs,nothing wrong with the way you are at all,i chubby,i used to let it bother me ,but not now,i just tell the twats who call names to go and fuck them selves
awe I'm really sorry to hear that. </3 I would kick anybody's ass if they called anybody anything other than beautiful <3 you are so beautiful in my opinion <3 <3 and if anybody says otherwise then, well, they can just go fuck themselves <3 <3 <3
I can't fathom the mind that insults a stranger on the street. Why on Earth would anyone care? I could say something insulting about every second person I see on the street.
I’m fat and I don’t care anymore but I will do something about it if I really want to, I’m going to do home exercises from YouTube for at least 10 minutes, if I do it
@MonaReeves86 there is this amazing girl on youtube: sydney cummings. When i first started working out i watched her videos a lot and drppped weight fast, plus it is free
Have you seen a dietician/nutritionist? Have you spoke to your doctor and had all the appropriate blood work done to determine everything is functioning correctly?
My weight fluctuates due to meds so I understand. Make sure you track your food and exercise. It’s about balance. Good luck 💕
