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LAURAJAYNE1 · 26-30, F
My brothers are caned bare bottom.
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How old are they @LAURAJAYNE1
LAURAJAYNE1 · 26-30, F
19 and 21

ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
I was appropriately smacked as a child and so were my kids...not beaten, just a smack on the mouth or possibly on the ass when it was necessary (which wasn’t often at all)

I think the problems started for parents, when Dr. Spock came around, and then the kids started being told they have ‘rights’. Of course they always had rights, but the problems started when they were told they had rights.
“Wait, what? My parents can’t MAKE me do those things? I have the right to say no??? I can call the police on them?? Well, holy hell...!!!”

You would never have seen my kids acting the way these spoiled, entitled brats do nowadays, and they are both fine, we’ll adjusted, kind, caring adults now.
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
@Elevatorpitches Haha, not sure which part you're calling BS on, but hey, you are free to call it whatever you like.
Coldplay · 61-69, M
@ImpeccablyImperfect totally with you on this
@ImpeccablyImperfect I’m not a fan of hitting people to control them, I think it sets a bad precedent, but hitting someone in the mouth can cause injury. A smack on the tush is a bit less violent.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
There’s a time and a place for it. The problem is the kids have no fear of their parents. It’s impossible to teach your kids anything anymore because all the rules have changed on what’s acceptable in this world. I’m glad I’m past that stage because I have no desire to parent in today’s world. I don’t agree with a lot and I wouldn’t raise them to go along with any of it either. If the government wants to control parenting then they can feed these kids that wind up in juvenile and are destructive and lazy contributors to society.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
@graphite mine all the flew the coup. My youngest was 23 when he left but he was ready…we were ready too. 😂 It is hard though. I look at my grandson who’s only 18 months old and hope he doesn’t wind up being some brat I can’t stand. Time will tell with the way society is nowadays.
graphite · 61-69, M
@Keepitsimple I had an actual awful situation as a kid (not a manufactured, pretend one) and was on my own by my late-teens. I didn't want to be under anyone else's jurisdiction anymore.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
@graphite I was 18 when I moved out also. I do think that sometimes difficult situations make us grow up faster and make us more responsible also. I hope you are ok these days.
JayneA · 41-45, F
Yes I was and it hasn't done me any long term harm and I still respect my parents
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We can talk if you want @JayneA
Basically what it teaches is that if you’re bigger and stronger than someone you have the right to hit them to get them to do what you want. Makes concerns about video games “causing children to be violent” rather ironic.

Yes, I was hit, because that’s the way my parents were raised. They stopped when I was about 11.

When they became grandparents they actually apologized to us for having ever hit us and hoped that we wouldn’t continue the practice. None of us have.
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
I was smacked and beaten a lot.. abusively... I don't believe it ever helps or is necessary... a good parent will get the child to behave because the child understands why it's important.. bad parents smack and it doesn't make the child behave... just makes them resentful and more secretive
graphite · 61-69, M
@Adaydreambeliever Same here.
@Adaydreambeliever That's exactly what it did to me.
Harriet03 · 41-45, F
They turn out to be awful at spelling!!
MariaJ · 36-40, F
All the time
tindrummer · M
@MariaJ me too
graphite · 61-69, M
Should be rarely used. Unfortunately, it's often used daily. So we have kids terrified of their parents.
@graphite I was totally terrified of my parents from a very early age - from the time I was a baby. I even thought they were going to kill me in my sleep. My self-parenting and a lot of therapy, have helped me to forgive them and let go of my resentment of their behavior toward me. I may always have Complex PTSD from growing up under their "care," but I'm acquiring tools to cope with it.
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rottenrobi · 56-60, F
My view on this kind of parent is their narrow minded. There are many other ways to discipline a child that don't cause shame. I see it as a power trip.
TexChik · F
As part of a disciplinary action it’s ok .
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
Never necessary, only needed for bad parents who cannot instil respect and good behaviour by example and by speaking to their child in a way that makes sense. Only parents who have failed need to resort to smacking
graphite · 61-69, M
@Adaydreambeliever It's a child-rearing technique for stupid, lazy, sadistic parents who just want to make their children as little trouble as possible by beating them into submission.
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QuixoticSoul · 41-45, M
On SW? Gross fetishists.
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I was and it was scary.
wildbill83 · 41-45, M
If we implemented a few years of mandatory military service after highschool, would solve many problems...

but who knows, kids are so used used to being coddled and such these days, many of the snowflakes would probably slit their own wrists in BCT to avoid being taught any discipline/responsibility... 🤔
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Can you message me please @smileylovesgaming
walabby · M
Sometimes necessary but generally way overused.
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1olderguy20 · 61-69, M
@1pebbles how ]and to what age
1pebbles · 56-60, F
@1olderguy20 with a paddle on my bare bottom until I turned 13
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There's a LOT of kids out there that could use a LOT more smacking.
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Do you think so @anythingoes477
@SW-User When was the last time you were in Walmart....or trying...TRYING to have a nice enjoyable dinner someplace with a friend? You have to ask????
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Not sure why @anythingoes477
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@graphite Late 90s into mid-late 2000s here. It's left such a bad mark on me that anyone daring to strike my backside is immediately met with retaliation.
graphite · 61-69, M
@SW-User It's all in the past, I hope.
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@graphite I no longer have contact with those people who abused me, so it's in the past but the scars still remain.
Doctrble · 51-55, M
I believe there is a time and place. Not always in public.
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Never had to do it with my kid.

Seems like a pretty weak-minded tactic. If you try and control your kid with the hand, they aren't learning anything and neither did you in life.
MrAverage1965 · 61-69, M
I was smacked growing up and hated it.
My own children were never smacked and grew up just fine.
If you take time to talk with your children they will learn how to behave without smacking.
tindrummer · M
I was - a lot and I've posted about it.
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It's wrong

I was
PrincessAwesome · 22-25, F
It's ok if it's just on the butt.
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@BiasForAction Thank you.
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My parents did it and it evolved into being just an outlet for their anger where they'd hit you for any reason when they were angry. It was like they couldn't control the ferocity and just let loose. They said it was for our own good but kids aren't stupid and can see what's going on. Ultimately it backfired because my sibling who have kids could never trust them to leave their kids alone with them. So my parent never had personal time with their grand kids and were very upset about not being trusted.
graphite · 61-69, M
@SW-User What comes around goes around. If my parents had lived long enough, I might not have trusted them with my kids, either.
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@graphite I don’t think some adults think at the time that one day their kids will be adults and in the position of power and will remember how they were treated.
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No I wasn't smacked, I was beaten.
Uncfred · 61-69, M
The law takes away the parental rights to judge.
I had the belt as a young lad, yet smacked my sons leg once in his life.
All I can see is that we have both grown up OK.
Uncfred · 61-69, M
@BohemianBabe Of course we need laws, but there is a line between discipline and brutality, that line has moved a lot in my lifetime.
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Uncfred · 61-69, M
@BohemianBabe My original comment just points out that however brought up, it does not make a lot of difference.
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plungesponge · 41-45, M
Corporal punishment is an effective tool in shaping a young mind, but if it's applied without a deep sense of fairness, the child often grows to hate the parent.
@plungesponge In truth, it doesn't keep the child from loving his parents, it keeps him from loving himself.
plungesponge · 41-45, M
@PhoenixPhail Nah, that's too simplistic of a view. I did say it had to be used with a deep sense of fairness. If the child knowingly violated their own principles, they find the love of themselves and their true values when they are back on track.
@plungesponge I'll agree to disagree.
gregloa · 61-69, M
If I ever tried to get away with the things this spoiled brat generation now gets away with I’d have been beaten within an inch of my life and well deserved!!!!!!!!!
spjennifer · 61-69, T
Depends on how and when it's used, corporal punishment is outlawed in many places now but if used infrequently, often just the possibility of it happening is enough to counter the behaviour its punishing. If it's used on a regular basis, the child becomes immune to it and it's no longer seen as the ultimate last resort for punishing poor behaviour. We used to get the strap a lot at school which was a joke, at home was no joke.
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Bobdale · 56-60, M
Smacking is okay if deserved Yep
MissyChrissy · 18-21, F
I still am, Miss.
Like to talk about in private.
JayneA · 41-45, F
Yes regularly by both parents
Subsumedpat · 36-40, M
I was and people should not.
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GovanDUNNY · M
A few times when I deserved it, but never beaten.

 
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