I am friends with a guy who was my friend's boyfriend. Every time I see him I still look at his crotch,

I think there is but for me if I've spent more than fifteen minutes with you then i'm a catch feelings.

I say no, but I can only speak for myself.
The only man I've ever been able to sustain a long-term platonic friendship with, is my brother-in-law. But he was my "bro" before he even met my sister and he's "family" now.

Y'know that friendzone that everybody says doesn't exist?
People don't seem to like it there.

I don't think so. It's natural they'll catch feelings all the time, especially the dude

I always had male friends. I’m a tomboy. Now I have no friends because they all got married and/or met women who didn’t believe men and women can be friends.

When there is friendship, there is a connection but no gender.

Gender only arises when focus gets shifted.

It takes knowing the difference with being in love with someone and loving someone, and not allowing oneself to get one confused with the other.

Men have more difficulty with that than women so, or at least that's what my experience tells me. A woman can love a man and have no desire for physical intimacy, but guys... yeah, too often they can't separate the deep feelings of loving a woman (as a friend) and wanting her physically.

So yes, being just friends can happen, but there is always the chance (on both sides).

[i]Only[/i] on the surface.
The opportunity just hasn't happened.

It's not black and white 100% though.

Let's say that you have a gay couple in the equation here... are you going to stop them from talking to people of the same gender that they are attracted to just in case "they catch feelings"???

I have guys that I am friends with, but I would never take things further than that with them because I respect my man too much - and some of them have wives of their own, too.

Yes, men and women can be just friends. But also, yes, there is always the possibility of one of them catching the feels. This can ruin the friendship, but it might simply be part of the friendship, or it could evolve into a wonderful relationship. It's complicated.

One of the reasons I had such bad luck in relationships when I was younger was because I sort of needed to know someone really well, as a friend, before I developed romantic feelings for her, and usually by then, she had already filed me away in the friend zone. Then a female friend of mine informed me that most women determine within a few minutes of meeting someone whether he's a candidate for being more than friends, and I realized I'd been doing things wrong all along (not that that wasn't pretty obvious).

Honestly, the most successful relationships I've had have been with women who decided for some reason that I was the guy and were going to make sure I was in on it no matter what, sometimes without me even realizing what was going on.

So, it's complicated.

Maybe if she is fat and horse faced ugly.

I wish I knew the answer to how to make that work.

Nope. A man or women just can't be friends.

Almost all of my friends are guys. Years ago though, my best friend was dating a guy and I always hung out with them. But she started screwing around on him and eventually dumped him, and then we started dating and got married 7 months later, about a week apart from my best friend marrying the guy she had dumped my husband for!

Can men and women be friends?

Yes, certainly.
I have a group of dear friends since decades, both women and men.

Or Is there always that chance that one of them might fall in love with the other?

It may happen and not so rare,
Some pairs of those friends are married to each other and remain friends with the other ones.
No contradiction.

They can, but in my experience there will most likely be some attraction from either side. I’ve had a lot of good female friends in the past, but there has always been feelings on either side, which is a shame because then you lose a good friend one way or another.

Most of my friends are girls, if I’m being totally honest I am attracted to a couple of them but the others I see as just really really good friends.

I am sure it is totally possible for a man and woman to be friends and nothing more. I worked with many woman over the years who I admired and considered my friends but I was never romantically or sexually interested in them.

I had a good friend for 6 years and one night it was all over as we ended up having sex. As she was married she said it was for the best. I miss our long chats and just someone to talk to

I want to say yes. But I'm too loveable. I'm too charming and funny for my own good. Sorry to disappoint you ladies, but the reubles is not boyfriend material

i have "just friends " with men. the more and more you get comfortable, it is easy to fall for someone

Yes it is possible….

But may not stay that way all the time.
One or both can develop feelings for the other.

Sure, I’d never consider any of my male friends as a potential partner or lover. They’re good people, but we’re incompatible when it comes to what’s needed for a relationship, which makes me not sexually or romantically attracted to them. I’m not shy. If I wanted to date them we would be. If he can’t respect that boundary then I end the friendship for both our sakes. A good friend doesn’t let someone torture themselves or you.

Men have two brains. The big brain gives you friend status. The small brain gives you fuck buddy status.

Yeah it's possible but there's always that little spark... 😛

Yes it can definitely happen, my best friend before I got married was female, we were introduced by my than married girlfriend, we became good friends she also had a boyfriend, eventually we both broke up with our partners but stayed friends with each other, we used to go out together and sometimes we would even sleep together but there was never any sex between us.

Depends on interrest, i can be friend too ...even best friend too..🤗

Yes yes yes they can. I've done this for years. It's helped me in so many ways--even in my relationships because I can get them to "interpret" what my gfs do--or if I'm messing up. I would not trade my women friends for anything.

It seems the major consensus from men is yes they can and from women no way.
I found that interesting. My take is yes, we can be friends with a woman and have it work.
I have women who are very beautiful, I enjoy their appearance but don't lust after them.

Yes, definitely.

I have friends. Some of them happen to be women.
I don't see them as being different than I see my men friends.
My being friends with someone has nothing to do with their sex.
There's no difference.

1. It depends on the person whom you can get attracted to. That is if you have developed a different type of feeling for them.
2. Do you already have someone else whom you were looking for.

Certainly can be my dearest friend is a woman we shared the same bed never a hint of anything but friendship

Why can’t they?
I don’t have a true boyfriend. I have boy friends and girl friends and we just hang out.

Yes very rarely , also it depends on how close the friendship is.

it depends really sometimes you don't fall in love with them sometimes you don't. 🤔

One of my dearest friends is a woman, so def yes. She’s lesbian though…

Yes, they can be "Just Friends," and they hopefully will love each other too.

I have a few female friends...not even thought of them in a relationship setting.

Yes, men and women can just be friends. There are plenty of examples of this.

Very much possible I’ve had many women friendships in my life.

Naturally difficult! Especially Men will fall in lust!😄

Of course it’s [b]possible[/b]. There are so many other variables than that they’re of the opposite sex. They may not be attracted to each other in that way. They may have partners that they value more.

Yes ,if both of them are not good looking 😎

Definitely. I’m friends with lots of women

Yeah if you're really unattractive!

jk

yeah, some of my best mates are women.