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For those who have never had children why or why not?

I made that decision long ago to be childless because I didn't think I could raise a child. I think I'm better as an uncle than I would be a father. Children deserve stability and a chance at a great life. I'm not stable and I could never give them what they deserve. That's why I decided against having children of my own.
AntisocialTroll · 51-55, F
I'm a product of the care system and had a crappy childhood so I wouldn't have the first idea how to be a parent never mind a good one.
I have had a scar across abdomen from a major surgery since I was 6 year old that still hurts. No way I would want to make it even worse with pregnancy. Not to mention other health issues like Hashimoto's, generally messed up hormonal system and very unstable mood. I still could have children but if I had an easy access to some method that would permanently defunct my reproductive system I wouldn't hesitate a second and go for it.
sciguy18 · M
I never made a conscious decision not to have children. I did discuss the matter with my last GF who said that she would not want to subject a child to me... I’ve been alone ever since.
deadteddy · F
I love kids, they usually like me. But I don’t have kids majorly for economic reasons at the moment. And also cause I haven’t found any man that I can see as being a decent father figure.
Scribbles · 31-35, F
At first, it was because I didn't want to be a single mom, and because I felt insecure about parenting when I was young. Now I'm not worried about any of that.

Now that I'm older, I'd like to have a child. I got married last year and my partner would like a child too. But I've struggled with miscarriages and kind of don't even want to try anymore. Idk. We may foster kids someday though. We've been interested in that. We have a group of friends who do that already.

And it's fine. We will just have to make more room for the family and friends we have and spoil them rotten and improve their lives. That's not such a terrible way to live. 🙂
Fluffybull · F
I don't like babies, I don't particularly like children, I don't want anyone dependant on me.
Matt85 · 36-40, M
FloorGenAdm · 46-50, M
Couldn't find my soul mate to make a life with.
meggie · 36-40, F
I like kids and they are drawn to me. But i love my careervand travel and independence. I just want to please myself.
Morrowind · 26-30, M
I’m not mentally well enough to raise children. I’m poor. And I don’t like kids
SkeetSkeet · 100+, F
I'm not in the mood to purposely fuck someones life up. Also I like to sleep.
No children for me. When I was younger it was mainly because I knew I was too immature to be a parent and as I got older I felt/feel that bringing a child into this screwed up world borders on child abuse. Chances are they will never have a happy and safe life.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
Wasn't a matter of not wanting kids. It usually does take two.

When no one wants to have kids with you, you just don't have them.

I'm not the type to be devious about it either. I'm a prime example of "Nice guys finish last'.
calicuz · 51-55, M
Sometimes it's more about if one can change their lifestyle to suit the child's needs. If you know you're not stable and can't become stable then that was a very wise choice on your part, and I give you your props.
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
Because there are already so many unloved and neglected children in our country. I prefer to use my resources to improve the lives of those already born.
alongalone · M
As a devout misanthrope having children would be utter wrecklessness
Newfound1 · M
If you couldn't give them a stable life then it was the right decision.
I can’t carry one.
uncalled4 · 51-55, M
Honestly, not feeling it.

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