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Caught my 15 year old son wearing my thong

I’m a mom of 3 boys. One is 15, and the other 2 are 12 (they are twins). Saturday my oldest son had his door shut but not all the way. He had his music loud so I went to ask him to turn it down. When I went to open it I could see him through the small opening since it wasn’t fully shut and he was wearing one of my pink thongs!! I immediately walked away so shocked, and completely lost on how to handle the situation or if I should even do anything hoping it was a one time/phase thing. So today while he was out with his dad I snooped through his room which I normally never would do, but I considered the situation making it ok for me to invade his privacy. Under his bed in a shoe box I ended up finding 3 pairs of my thongs which I’m assuming he is wearing since I saw him wearing the pink one. I want to try to handle this without my husband knowing because he would flip out. Advice please!! Thanks.. concerned mom of a teen boy.

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Jessmari · 41-45

You could always do nothing. When doing laundry send the same 4 back with with the rest of his clothes. He'll know that you know. Say nothing. Ball is in his court then.

I think husbands like yours would probably be fine being ignorant of the situation. Leave that up to your son if he feels the need to talk about it.

SilkandLace2 · 46-50, M

@Jessmari i think this is probably the easiest and simplest way, very very discreet while opening the door to talk about it if he will, very reasonable!! @redheadmomof3 i would have been mortified to be caught, but I'd have never left the door open!🤗🤗

Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M

@Jessmari Good advice

Deergirl511

I think there are a couple good responses here but I think you are in for an awkward situation no matter what.
I can tell that you are a great mom but reaching out looking for advice and not freaking out raising the roof.

This i my suggestion and only a suggestion.

I wouldnt say anything in person to start.
I would take that pink thong of yours, which I'm assuming got cycled back into the laundry. Go buy a couple more in similar styles to what he was caught wearing and leave the tags on.
Take the 3 or so and place them in his underwear drawer when doing regular laundry. On top of the NEW underwear place a note that says
"Next time make sure your doors closed all the way. This is between you and me and I'm open to talk if you'd like. Love you always, mom"
Next, as long as the other boys dont go in his drawers leave it from there. If they do. Place a regular underwear on top of it. To somewhat hide it.
Then leave the ball in his court to make the next move and honor your word. Keep it between him and you and of course us on here. Haha cause we are awesome.

Couple things that i see solved... for now.

Your not embarrassing him in person with an ackward way to confront him. He would likely deny it anyways even though you seen him. Being 15 the fight would be on.
Next your secretly telling him that you seen him and that he wasnt careful enough not to get caught with the door. By giving him them as a gift( including the pink one of yours which im sure you wont want to wear again anyways) it will sent a message that your not going to flip the hell out if he does choose to come talk to you. Also, this will hopefully stop him from going through yiur things if he has his own. Realistically hes not going to stop wearing if he has hidden a few under his bed.
I think even if he never brings it up to you, the two of you will have a closer relationship. And yiu might be able to get him to do a few chores around the house without much argument.

Good luck

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Deergirl511

@redheadmomof3 thats a great update and Im glad I was able to help you. Sounds mostly positive to me. Im sure he has alot less attitude with you as well.

redheadmomof3 · 36-40, F

@Deergirl511 hey girl. So new update with my son. Those thongs I bought for him a while back did seem to stop him from wearing my thongs at the time but the other day he bent over and I could see one of my thongs sticking out of his jeans. This may sound bad but I kinda started spying on him getting dressed daily and sure enough every single day he is wearing one of my thongs even though he has his own. At this point he has been wearing my thongs for 2-3 years, and I’m just gonna continue acting like I think he wears his own, and just let him wear mine. Sometimes when I’m wearing leggings I catch him staring at my ass and I’m sure he can see my thong line through the leggings and I’m guessing at this point it’s some kind of turn on for him to be wearing my thongs. Idk. Nobody in the family still knows. Maybe he will eventually grow out of it but for now I’ve got a 17 year old son that I share my thongs with. lol

Deergirl511

@redheadmomof3 hey i needed a few to gather my thoughts. That is unfortunate. I really thought that he would leave your panties alone now that he has his own.

Might be time to step it up a bit or an awkward conversation with him. So this is what id suggest. As always just a suggestion and do what you feel is right.

Id go into his dresser when hes not home and take his panties that you got him and put then on top of everything else so the first thing he sees is them when he opens. And on top of them have another note. That says;

"I know that you have been wearing my panties! In fact I have seen you wearing them even. Remember I bought you your own so i would appreciate it it you would leave mine alone because you are stretching them. If you dont like the ones that you have let me know and we can get ones that you like. Love you, mom"

I would go that rute. Again your not embarrassing him but again your letting him know the cats out of the bag. He will stop at least for a month or more. Im guessing. And if you notice again. You can leave another note. "Caught again, maybe dad would like to talk to you"

That would be terrifying to him and would work for sure.

A more fun way to get him out of his shell to talk to you would be yo take him shopping. Dont tell him, just as going for something random at the mall together randomly walk into a intimate store and tell him to come with you. He will because hes interested and a way to look at items.
He'll want to stay close to you but act really shy. So go to the panties and start looking. You can even look at is sizes and jokingly ask him " do you like these" and see what he says. Or ask him " do you want anything" Im sure that he will say no even though he dying to want too. If so, id even go as far as picking some similar t ones hes been wearing of yours in his size with him there. Pay for them and then ask him to carry the bag out of the store. He might not do it. If not when you get to the car put it on his lap and jokingly say " can you please stop wearing mine"
It will be awkward and im sure nothings will be said. He probably wont deny it or say anything.
When you get home, just say " you should probably take those to your room and smile at him" just leave it there and see if he opens up.

Both of the suggestions will be scary but i think its time. You shouldn't have to share your underwear with your son. Lol

Your doing great with him and not freaking out. I dont know many who would.

Princessjen · 22-25, F

Just leave it alone he just expermenting not hurting anyone

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chrisCA · M

@Princessjen Maybe he should buy his own? 😅

Majorsite · 61-69, M

@chrisCA I support that idea !

Majorsite · 61-69, M

Despite what a lot of people think, Thongs are very comfortable, I Myself don't go for female thongs, But a lot of places sell some very good male ones, Some extremely sexy !

Krysclear · 31-35, F

So much experimentation with boys today. I’m glad that you’re not embarrassing him

Berti33 · 36-40, F

@Krysclear A loving mom won't embarrass her son..

angie8819 · 56-60, F

He's probably just curious or maybe some his friends has done the same thing and told him about it

pampersmom11 · 26-30, F

What a brave boy love and support him i bet its not easy to have such a secret.

ReneeT · 61-69, M

I would think that the best response would be to take the suggestion from Deergirl51 and buy two or three pair, leave the tags on them and write a little note, suggesting that if he wants to talk with you about it you are open to keep it your secret. That way he knows that you know, but that you are not going to make it too difficult for him to deal with his feelings.

AngelofFail · 26-30, F

is he wearing them or sniffing them lol

redheadmomof3 · 36-40, F

@AngelofFail sniffing them would make a little more sense to me I guess considering puberty and what not, but no I witnessed him wearing nothing but my pink thong and looking at his booty in the mirror with it on.

oldercanuck1 · 70-79, M

@redheadmomof3 he may just be experimenting ,,,seeing how his body looks like and maybe he wants a male thong ,,,

reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M

many adolescents go through some "experimenting" and if my mother had discovered and tried to communicate with me about my "experimentation" I would have been embarrassed for the reste of my life. are there things my mom doesn't know about things I did in my life? yes, and its best i take this to the grave. not that there is anything wrong with any of the things i did just that MY MOM doesn't need to know my kinks and fantasies. or see it the other way, think of some of the kinkiest stuff you did sexually, would you want to discuss these things with your son? or with your dad? same for him.

SW-User

Many thoughtful suggestions here. I would favour buying him a few of his own and say it might be better than borrowing yours. Maybe say you didn’t mean to snoop, just accidentally saw him.

Whether you do this in person or with a note is your choice - you know him best. Maybe give them still wrapped and say you bought a couple of things he might be needing … but not in front of the others!

ArishMell · 70-79, M

Hmmm. Potentially very embarrassing for all.

It is good though that you really care about how to handle this./

Looking at what others have said I'd agree with the gentle hinting that you know.

Such as a note on top of some new items that are for him, or one saying something like,

"You know you should not wear other people's clothes without asking to borrow them, but I've forgotten there are two NEW pairs still in their wrapping in my top drawer. Luv, Mum" .

.....

When I was in my 20s and the last of four to flee the nest, I found an old miniskirt once belonging to my sister. One day I forgot to hide it. It disappeared. No-one ever mentioned it, and to this day I never know to where it went, nor by whom.....

Indio1375 · 56-60, M

I wouldn't worry about it. Many guys wearing panties or thongs. Some of us have a curiosity about wearing womans panties.

PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M

I did that when I was around 13....it maybe just curiousity for him...it was for me. Not sure how to handle it but if it were me I probably would not make a big deal about it. I might at some point when alone with him just bring up that you went to his room to talk to him....his door was cracked and you saw him in it...then see how he reacts. Don't mention the shoebox.

Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M

I think an honest face to face conversation with him without getting annoyed and say you saw him and would like to know his side of the story
Be sure to give him time to reply, even if it takes days
Tell him it’s between you both and he can talk to you privately when he is ready
Gain his confidence

justanothername · 51-55, M

Be gentle, guys actually do wear thongs it’s just not common knowledge.

You could ask him if he is wearing them because he wants to wear them as regular underwear or because they are your thongs. He may just want to wear them as regular underwear but be too shy to tell you.

Iwantyourhotwife · 22-25

Why wouldn't you and your husband sit down and talk with him? There is a reason he's stealing your clothes and wearing them. And what an odd cloth to take such a particular interest in.

I am suspicious of all the responses pushing you to just blindly ignore or support this and not use any capacity to reason, share, talk, or teach your son anything as a parent, or even remotely think contrary to or challenge such interests or behaviors from your own son. The whole point of parents is for advice and protection. He should be closer to you than anyone else. He should receive other perspectives and a healthy pushback against his ideas so that he can learn to balance. And perhaps he can learn from you and your husband.

So I'd say you should talk with your husband and consider breaking past this cultural or social or whatever barrier of just acting like your child can do anything uncritically and without confrontation, even to the point of just taking your undergarments like this. I dunno what disempowered parents to talk to and help guide their children and one of the healthiest things I had growing up was pushback against my stupid ideas and emotional behaviors. It helps with regulation and maturity to think about what and why we do things for and to reason against other perspectives. We don't wanna live under/in a rock. Especially during teen years when humans are hormonally unstable and often confused at what and how they're feeling. I think this is a wonderful time to communicate with him as parents. Like, who else do you want raising your kids? 🤷🏾‍♂️

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Iwantyourhotwife · 22-25

@Majorsite I see. I guess to me, family does have something to do with this, as I think parents should have some input on this.

Also, a quite related question if you're willing to engage. What does exploring these sexual feelings mean? At that age, what thoughts about those feelings are being shaped, exactly?

Majorsite · 61-69, M

@Iwantyourhotwife Well, As a young man, In the woods near Our house We found magazines left by gay men, Pretty graphic, We were intrigued by them, But they never turned Me gay !

Jessmari · 41-45

@Iwantyourhotwife She indicated that the husband would not handle this situation very well. I'm just trying to help her avoid an unnecessary overblown family argument.

Tom610 · 61-69, M

I can definitely understand how you are feeling. But I am happy hearing that you don't want to embarrass him. Please think about what you were going through sexual when you were 15. What would you have wanted your mother to do if she caught you experimenting?

MrAverage1965 · 61-69, M

Do nothing, just let him get on doing whatever he wants as long as it's not harming anyone.

biandlargeny · 56-60, M

Buy him his own. Just leave it on his drawer

lovebeingasissy

That's a great ideal My Grandfather started buying me fem clothes @biandlargeny

biandlargeny · 56-60, M

@lovebeingasissy not necessarily female things. They make thong briefs for men too

Hassan · 22-25, M

Idk how open is your relationship,maybe it'd embarrass him.
I think he's watching too much porn , wanted to experience something and this was the closest thing he could do.
Maybe he wanted to see an a$$ idk , he's experimenting.
Is it worrying?
Maybe if he doesn't fulfill his desires. The best approach could be talking about the harm of pron and that sex isn't an individual thing you should do it with someone.
Maybe that'll encourage him.
From my experience, when I was his age I imagined alot of stuff that I wouldn't do now. It all evaporated when I quit porn.
I still have a wild fantasy, but one that would rock my partner (if I ever get any) instead of my alone time fantasy.
Alone time fantasy especially sexual one is dangerous,sex is the only thing that you can't do alone.
Or you'll turn into a creep

Teslin · M

That is a tough one. But, he is in the experimental stages of his young life.
One never knows, maybe he just wanted to see what a speedo felt like and this was the closest thing he could find?
I would just have a a 1 on 1 discussion with him to hear his story.

GerOttman · 61-69, M

Too late now but you should have just knocked loudly, opened the door and asked him to turn the music down a bit. Then walk back out and close the door. Try it next time maybe if the chance arises.

QCDog2659 · 61-69, M

Just mention to him about how boys his age are experimenting in an effort to discover who they are.

Stress your love for him; as well as such experimenting is a normal part of growing up.

Snuffy1957 · 61-69, M

Why do you think you need to do anything about it? There are way worse things he could be doing than wearing your underwear!

owned · 56-60, M

I wore my sister's thongs quite a few times, but never got caught.

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

please provide follow-up

Diotrephes · 70-79, M

It seems that he has a sexual attraction for you. That can become very dangerous.

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Krysclear · 31-35, F

@Bodymindsoul and even if he did, I would think that it would be just a phase

Bodymindsoul

@Krysclear yes it could nothin to be alarmed about i like thongs and when i started all i could get was womens thongs thats to Amazon i got a choice😁

SW-User

@Diotrephes More likely he is turned on by her underwear. Plus adolescent curiosity. My brother was similar at about that age.

tomtracy438 · 41-45, M

Good for him

Quimliqer · 70-79, M

Never an easy situation to handle, but you seem to have your feet firmly on the ground; time sit down and have a heart to heart talk about his desires. I wish you all the best!!🤗

CJNature · M

It is absolutely harmless. I tried on my sisters undies several times growing up. I would honestly pretend you didn’t see anything. Experimenting is normal. 😊

dannylawson · 61-69, M

hi i love what you said about you and your son i love to hear more if it is ok can you message me

Torsten · 36-40, M

@dannylawson thats weird as hell. Wanting to know more about her kid wearing underwear? really?

Bodymindsoul

He may just like that style and maybe he may grow thru it ..you know you can just let it go for now mom ..

Torsten · 36-40, M

maybe get him some of his own so that he stops taking yours 🤷‍♂️

SW-User

Caught my 15 year old son wearing my thong

@deadgerbil is this your mom?

deadgerbil · 26-30

@SW-User

SW-User

@deadgerbil sexiii 🥴

Beth35 · 36-40, F

Maybe he likes your underwear?

redheadmomof3 · 36-40, F

@Beth35 he definitely does

MissyChrissy · 18-21, F

1,5 years have passed. Update please?

WhereMySoul · FVIP

Check pm i sent you something 👀

hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M

He is exploring. Not a big deal at all.

lovebeingasissy

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When I was 16 years old

PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M

Lovely outfit Greatlifeinthesun

Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M

Hi, any updates?

TheOrionbeltseeker · 36-40, M

There is always an easy way to establish a conversation with him. First earn his confidence and then ask him directly. I am not an experienced guy so, take my opinion; but with a pinch of salt

ArtieKat · M

@redheadmomof3 I've come very late to this post - did you manage to resolve your dilemma?

redheadmomof3 · 36-40, F

@ArtieKat well I thought I had when I bought him his own thongs but after a couple weeks he was right back to wearing nothing but mine

JudyS · 51-55, F

@redheadmomof3 I don't think this is anything you need to worry about...he is just experimenting...just let him be...If you wanto to chat more about this, just send me a message...