Caught my 15 year old son wearing my thong

I’m a mom of 3 boys. One is 15, and the other 2 are 12 (they are twins). Saturday my oldest son had his door shut but not all the way. He had his music loud so I went to ask him to turn it down. When I went to open it I could see him through the small opening since it wasn’t fully shut and he was wearing one of my pink thongs!! I immediately walked away so shocked, and completely lost on how to handle the situation or if I should even do anything hoping it was a one time/phase thing. So today while he was out with his dad I snooped through his room which I normally never would do, but I considered the situation making it ok for me to invade his privacy. Under his bed in a shoe box I ended up finding 3 pairs of my thongs which I’m assuming he is wearing since I saw him wearing the pink one. I want to try to handle this without my husband knowing because he would flip out. Advice please!! Thanks.. concerned mom of a teen boy.

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Deergirl511

I think there are a couple good responses here but I think you are in for an awkward situation no matter what.
I can tell that you are a great mom but reaching out looking for advice and not freaking out raising the roof.

This i my suggestion and only a suggestion.

I wouldnt say anything in person to start.
I would take that pink thong of yours, which I'm assuming got cycled back into the laundry. Go buy a couple more in similar styles to what he was caught wearing and leave the tags on.
Take the 3 or so and place them in his underwear drawer when doing regular laundry. On top of the NEW underwear place a note that says
"Next time make sure your doors closed all the way. This is between you and me and I'm open to talk if you'd like. Love you always, mom"
Next, as long as the other boys dont go in his drawers leave it from there. If they do. Place a regular underwear on top of it. To somewhat hide it.
Then leave the ball in his court to make the next move and honor your word. Keep it between him and you and of course us on here. Haha cause we are awesome.

Couple things that i see solved... for now.

Your not embarrassing him in person with an ackward way to confront him. He would likely deny it anyways even though you seen him. Being 15 the fight would be on.
Next your secretly telling him that you seen him and that he wasnt careful enough not to get caught with the door. By giving him them as a gift( including the pink one of yours which im sure you wont want to wear again anyways) it will sent a message that your not going to flip the hell out if he does choose to come talk to you. Also, this will hopefully stop him from going through yiur things if he has his own. Realistically hes not going to stop wearing if he has hidden a few under his bed.
I think even if he never brings it up to you, the two of you will have a closer relationship. And yiu might be able to get him to do a few chores around the house without much argument.

Good luck

justanothername · 51-55, M

@Deergirl511 Best response :)

JackMasters · 56-60, M

@Deergirl511 I think this is the best answer so far. I think the note should invite a conversation but not demand it. And I think the mom should buy her son boy thongs and not female thongs. The ones made for boys are designed to hold the male genitalia. And it would probably make the boy feel better knowing that they make thongs for boys like him.

Deergirl511

@Deergirl511 @redheadmomof3 so how did it go?

redheadmomof3 · 36-40, F

@Deergirl511 hey! Very delayed response sorry. But I took your advice, and bought him 5 pairs and put them in the middle of the pile of laundry I did that day on his bed that way only he would see them. I did leave the tags on like you said just as a nonchalant way of letting him know I know. He never came to me about it, but I know he wears them. I decided to not tell his father and it’s just a secret I keep to myself. He must just find them comfortable because he has had a couple girlfriends since. I never find my thongs in his room anymore just the ones I bought for him, but every once in a while I will notice he is wearing one of mine still. I’ve just been letting it go and acting like I don’t know since it’s not often at all anymore.

Deergirl511

@redheadmomof3 thats a great update and Im glad I was able to help you. Sounds mostly positive to me. Im sure he has alot less attitude with you as well.

redheadmomof3 · 36-40, F

@Deergirl511 hey girl. So new update with my son. Those thongs I bought for him a while back did seem to stop him from wearing my thongs at the time but the other day he bent over and I could see one of my thongs sticking out of his jeans. This may sound bad but I kinda started spying on him getting dressed daily and sure enough every single day he is wearing one of my thongs even though he has his own. At this point he has been wearing my thongs for 2-3 years, and I’m just gonna continue acting like I think he wears his own, and just let him wear mine. Sometimes when I’m wearing leggings I catch him staring at my ass and I’m sure he can see my thong line through the leggings and I’m guessing at this point it’s some kind of turn on for him to be wearing my thongs. Idk. Nobody in the family still knows. Maybe he will eventually grow out of it but for now I’ve got a 17 year old son that I share my thongs with. lol

Deergirl511

@redheadmomof3 hey i needed a few to gather my thoughts. That is unfortunate. I really thought that he would leave your panties alone now that he has his own.

Might be time to step it up a bit or an awkward conversation with him. So this is what id suggest. As always just a suggestion and do what you feel is right.

Id go into his dresser when hes not home and take his panties that you got him and put then on top of everything else so the first thing he sees is them when he opens. And on top of them have another note. That says;

"I know that you have been wearing my panties! In fact I have seen you wearing them even. Remember I bought you your own so i would appreciate it it you would leave mine alone because you are stretching them. If you dont like the ones that you have let me know and we can get ones that you like. Love you, mom"

I would go that rute. Again your not embarrassing him but again your letting him know the cats out of the bag. He will stop at least for a month or more. Im guessing. And if you notice again. You can leave another note. "Caught again, maybe dad would like to talk to you"

That would be terrifying to him and would work for sure.

A more fun way to get him out of his shell to talk to you would be yo take him shopping. Dont tell him, just as going for something random at the mall together randomly walk into a intimate store and tell him to come with you. He will because hes interested and a way to look at items.
He'll want to stay close to you but act really shy. So go to the panties and start looking. You can even look at is sizes and jokingly ask him " do you like these" and see what he says. Or ask him " do you want anything" Im sure that he will say no even though he dying to want too. If so, id even go as far as picking some similar t ones hes been wearing of yours in his size with him there. Pay for them and then ask him to carry the bag out of the store. He might not do it. If not when you get to the car put it on his lap and jokingly say " can you please stop wearing mine"
It will be awkward and im sure nothings will be said. He probably wont deny it or say anything.
When you get home, just say " you should probably take those to your room and smile at him" just leave it there and see if he opens up.

Both of the suggestions will be scary but i think its time. You shouldn't have to share your underwear with your son. Lol

Your doing great with him and not freaking out. I dont know many who would.