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How to get over when a suicide tragedy, happened within the family?

Yesterday, a bad news came through in my inbox. My sister told me, that my niece commited suicide by jumping off the building. She's only 20 years old. I can't get over it. I just keep on thinking about it. I am so scared because I have a pre-teen daughter who is very emotional. 🖤😭😢
Make it clear (and true) that your daughter can talk to you about [i]anything.[/i] Make it true by consciously controlling your reactions to what she says.

Yes, talk to her, but it's more important that she talks to you. Kids of that age are no longer parroting what their parents say and think and feel. They've got their own.

Let her know, above all, that she is precious and loved and [i]necessary [/i]and there is nothing she does or has done to her that will change that.
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
It is scary and it sucks big time to lose someone that young. It's understandable that you worry about your own daughter. So many young people are anxious and have suicidal thoughts.
All you can do is make sure you talk to her, ask the question, don't be afraid to talk about it, and to ask about it..
DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F
My uncles son hung himself in prison recently. My uncle is taking it super hard and has been drinking so much he keeps putting himself in the hospital. I don’t think there is an easy answer
Pfuzylogic · M
Your whole family would find good use of a grief counselor immediately. Whether it is from the community or the church.
toddr13 · 46-50, M
You can live with it, but remember, perhaps not get over it, but I would echo advice to talk to a trained professional. You can find a community grief counselor, psychologist, social worker, and see about joining a support group. Reach out for the light and help that you need, for there is no shame in admitting that you need someone to listen and give strategies to help you. I am so sorry for your loss.
😳 sorry.. just be sure your daughter knows you are there for her .. 🙁
Coralmist · 41-45, F
It's very scary and sad at first. My cousin took her life at 21, three years ago. I couldn't even wrap my mind around it...my mind Actually kept saying to myself, No, she's at the hospital.😕You just NEVER thought that would happen. But all we COULD do was celebrate her life and say the funny things she used to say, for then she's not gone, but always alive. My heart goes to you friend 🌸🌹💐
Crypitika · 36-40, M
You don't. My fiancee's son's father when their son was young. There's still days where she's sad and cries. And now that her son is the same age with depression, anxiety, and a baby on the way, and with her being pregnant as well is making all the memories come back.
Crypitika · 36-40, M
@Crypitika Too add, in your daughter's case try and be an arm lenghts away and let her know if she needs anything to let you know.
Frankie13 · 46-50, M
It’s a terrible thing. I have had many thoughts about it. And have been oh so close to achieving it tbh. And as I tell the few people in my life that I do talk with, I’d rather go now than take another breath. But I have people that depend on me and if I didn’t I’d say I’d go now. Tbh. Depression is a terrible terrible thing. Very difficult to get over. And there isn’t actually
Many people that understand it.
So stay strong for you daughter and just try somehow to understand that feelings towards life and death are different for different people
tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F
Super hug for you. 💙@Frankie13
BalmyNites · F
I am so sorry to hear your news. Please try to seek professional help, because you will be in a state of shock right now & the repercussions could persist for years, if not addressed now 💜
hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
Suicide is most painful to the ones left behind. I know from personal experience when my 20 year old son committed suicide 10 years ago
tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F
I have no words to describe what you must have been feeling. I can't imagine the feeling. It is just tragic. Sometimes, they just ignore depression. They think it is something dramatic and acting. 🥺@hippyjoe1955
Alexia · 26-30, F
Talk to her.
Be there to listen if she needs.
Sorry for your loss
smiler2012 · 56-60
{@tryingtobeok] sorry to here this that really is sad news about your niece 😪. if you are worried about your daughter sit down and talk to her . see what her problem is and if you can help
tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F
I have told her yesterday , that, if there is anything in her mind, she can tell me.@smiler2012
MrAverage1965 · 61-69, M
It's very difficult, have you talked to your daughter about her cousins death?
tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F
Yes I did. She did not look bothered about it.But I said to her, she can tell me anything if she wants to tell me anything what she feels.

I remember my niece as a little girl. She was 20 when she passed away, that's why I am so shocked. 🙏💙🥺

@MrAverage1965
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Stopmakingsense · 56-60, F
Score one for her team. Hateful and dead does seem fair, though.
SW-User
Ah man, that's so hard. Really sorry a bout that.
tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F
Thank you, to be honest, I am still in shock at the moment. ❤️‍🩹@SW-User
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
So sorry for your loss.
tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F
Thank you. 💙😭@iamonfire696

 
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