How would you react if you found out your partner or someone close for you, that seemed nice, was truly evil?

So you know when you date someone you spend your time getting to know the person and up until recent years people didn't really have the information about various types of manipulators, users, abusers whatever you want to call it.

I mean maybe I was naive but I know I went out in the hope that I would meet someone that pretty much wanted the same as me.

A loving lasting happy relationship, whereby they understood the road would get tough but was prepared to fight at my side with me not against me.

But you realise life is rather complicated. And for any number of reasons people change.
The only thing you can really hope is that when they Change whether it's though growth or a bad patch it doesn't turn on you.

But there's that saying "sometimes the people closest to you can end up hurting you the most."

You just have to decide if that hurt is something you are willing to put up with, or if it's the starting pattern of behaviours that are going to get worse.

So in the instance of me finding out they are evil, that goes against my morals and values so I don't think I could stay.

This may sound made up, but it's the absolute truth.
I was almost killed by someone I thought I loved. He tried to lure me into the woods by having another friend call me to tell me come pick him up.
Instinct kicked in & I immediately turned around and went back to the house to pack. I found boots that weren't his as well as giant plastic sheets.
I left and never went back.

Why is it that someone can be nice to another for years, but a few moments of frustration and lashing out defines their "true nature"?
Of course I would still love them and stay with them. I always have. Who doesn't get angry once in a while and say things they don't mean? I can't say the same though for those who I dared to voice MY concerns.

my first relation was with my mammo that time I was only 14 no idea about relation or bonding emotionally so soon that turn in to sexual and soon became wildly sexual as he started shared me with his mates also , I never feel really bad about that as I was truly enjoying my that wild days , although latter on I came to know by myself that how bad really they were treated me or what they exactly feel for me , I was first started feel opposite by my thinking at my 16th birthday when they never listen to me what they promise for , first ever in my mind I feel that despite I gave them my everything they really not in mood to fulfill my one promise , so from that day I started opposed them which I never did before and try to find my way for me but as the situation was not really good for me so i had to wait more than a year after I find my way I just get out of that relation

Bonds are complex. Perhaps if one looks at it like objectively? Are those bonds becoming more like shackels? Is it limiting oneself more than one wish? Is there honestly no goodness any more left? Has it gotten to be a nasty game of giving cover to evil? Personally, I won't stand to be bonded by the serial rapist or murderer. I knew once a woman who defended an uncle of hers who had been abusing her sexually since she was a teenager. I tried to argue to her that it was wrong, but she couldn't really see the evil because it was always cloaked in niceties

You can mindfuq youself into accepting anything. I think I may have been in a situation where a woman who I'd known well for many years and I'd known about her mean streak but it surprised me when she thought she could dominate me with her evil. I thought she knew better.

Looking back, I think she was trying to get me to hit her so she could keep her record going of 100% of her relationships have been physically abusive because the attempted emotional abuse came for the first time ever, minutes after I told her that I would never hit women or children, based on my exposure to it. I would never want anyone to think about me the way I used to think about my dad after he would beat my ass.

The more this mean lady tried to make me hit her, the more I reminded myself that she was trying to take that from me. Lol ..she slipped into that ugly mode once on a road trip. Nagging just to nag. Trying to emasculate me with words that we both knew weren't true.. she unbuckled her seatbelt, which she knew would piss me off (it gives cops a reason to pull you over) then she flipped open the mirror in the sun visor so she could see what she looks like while trying to ruin my day. She kept going, thinking I had no recourse.

Unbeknownst to her, I already had a plan for the next time she took off her seat belt. It was difficult trying to keep a straight face waiting for the right time to brakecheck her into the windshield 🤣😂 then reminded her to shut tf up and buckle tf up.

I don't know for sure, since that's never happened. I can only imagine how conflicting and emotionally agonizing that has to be, for those who've experienced it.

I can cut ties and still love. Love isnt actually the most important factor in a relationship though it is important.

Fear is the mind-killer.
Love fearlessly.
Leave fearlessly.
If you see something that doesn't jive with who you are as a person (assuming you possess that self-awareness), walking away shouldn't be too hard. Almost no one ever leaves because they want to go; it's usually out of a feeling of necessity.

It is hard to stop loving someone quickly but I would not stay with them if they're evil you have to get away

It's a process. You have to make a conscious effort to incorporate into your thinking, since it is a big change from where you were before....

No I ended it, they broke my spirit.

Leave

Move on.

No

What kinda evil? 😬😳

In a word... Ticked off. 😡

Help them move a body?

If it's my true friend I'll be evil with him or her.

No, in answer to both of your questions. What one needs to do is begin the detachment process to separate yourself from that evil person, a process that is basically the same as when someone begins their end of life journey and begins to detach emotionally from all of their family members and close friends. Then, have no contact with them and never look back.

Well they obviously lied about their true nature so id be pissed

😲!!!