So you know when you date someone you spend your time getting to know the person and up until recent years people didn't really have the information about various types of manipulators, users, abusers whatever you want to call it.
I mean maybe I was naive but I know I went out in the hope that I would meet someone that pretty much wanted the same as me.
A loving lasting happy relationship, whereby they understood the road would get tough but was prepared to fight at my side with me not against me.
But you realise life is rather complicated. And for any number of reasons people change.
The only thing you can really hope is that when they Change whether it's though growth or a bad patch it doesn't turn on you.
But there's that saying "sometimes the people closest to you can end up hurting you the most."
You just have to decide if that hurt is something you are willing to put up with, or if it's the starting pattern of behaviours that are going to get worse.
So in the instance of me finding out they are evil, that goes against my morals and values so I don't think I could stay.
