Unfortunately i keep everything down inside and someone will try to get me to ' talk' to them. And things start just pouring out of me. Usually don't see much of them after that
@Bexsy Babe even my therapist makes me force-talk and its a whirlpool of a mess after.....so I get that well. I think my journal is still the best because I'll repeat it won't call me out on whatever I say. To hell with whoever reads it. It's a good read. I'm a good writer after all 🤭
@Rilyn maybe a journal is a good outlet. That way no sting of peoples reactions. I had started writing poems in a notebook so might just turn it into poems/slash journal since those were really my feelings anyway
I worked the other way. I try to find the answers to my question. And in the quest of these answers, I found some knowledge that made me come to a state of mind where I no more have questions or need to vent. Maybe it's spirituality, but whatever it is, it has helped me survive peacefully, with satisfaction and without any regrets.
@Rilyn That can really be a good way, but do you also feel to get some of your question answered? I had problem that I needed answers to the questions in my mind.
Even if you don't achieve your goal, I believe, getting a clear understanding of your objectives, and ensuring you are on the right track is sufficient to have more satisfied and calm mindset. At least it was like that for me.
But really, these are two of the smartest people I know and I put an unholy amount of work into learning why people do things that bother me or make me uncomfortable. Venting takes me 15 minutes and is healthy and I've done enough to learn why people act the way they do.
Time to time, I take all the thoughts wandering in my mind, analyse them, find out the source/causes of it. Then think about their positive & negative affects. Then consider their remedies or how they can be dispersed. Then move on with the lesson.
@Rilyn No, it work automatically by default now. The unnecessary thoughts are not processed and not stored in memory now. Now need not to even think about that. It becomes your nature after some time.
I have to be very careful about venting. When I focus on anything, I'm emitting a vibration which attracts more of that into my life. It's a law-of-attraction thing.
If I can vent to purge something, that can be fine, so long as I get the job done and let it go. But, if I vent for the function of practicing anger regarding what I'm venting about, that's not productive.