Is it a red flag if a woman in her late 20's or early 30's is very inexperienced?

no....in fact that's what makes her sexier in her later years

I would find that attractive in a man. Driven to succeed. Has goals. Knows what he wants and is working hard for it. Once that's accomplished and he puts all his energy then into a relationship... Kind of sexy when I think about it 😊

The opposite actually. I find most guys tend to like women with lower body counts. Its better to be 1 of 4 than 1 of 30

I don't think so
There's more to life than dating . Nothing wrong with wanting to better yourself . Nothing wrong with wanting to find wholeness in oneself and not looking for it in others ...in fact I find it very healthy !

Inexperienced in bed vs. inexperienced in how to be a good wife/partner are two totally different leagues of inexperience, mainly because one actually matters in relationships. Personally, I still don't get this whole idea about working on oneself pausing one's dating life. What exactly is one building at this point in time that they "work on" in a career such that it has something to do with a relationship and family? (Assuming it isn't time)

Has she been mentally, emotionally, maturity-wise unfit for a man because of school and career? What exactly changed by a school and career that would make her a better (more mentally, emotionally, mature) spouse and mom?

Because seeking a partner is a totally different aim than career/portfolio building and the two can only interfere with time. And careers don't help relationships work. (Unless that career is actually IN making relationships work [psychiatry, psychology, sociology, relationships, therapy, etc.]). So would it not make more sense to not mention financial careers when discussing dating and relationships and instead focus more on character growth and understanding human relationships and how to make a successful relationship? :o

I don’t see myself as a red flag tho. 🤔 wait am I?

I don't see it as a red flag that someone knew what they wanted and is now successful.

It's not a red flag, but does tell you something about her priorities

Not at all!! Shows she's focused on her self worth, career!

To me it is. She's only ever done things in her control and never ever had put her self out to be vulnerable which is the entire foundation of a relationship. To me it signals insecurity.

Also. If she meets a man who is well experienced and she's a shy Virgin and know zero about intimacy or a romantic relationship it might not be that appealing to him who's a man expecting a mature woman he's ready to settle down with.

I don't think she's doing anyone any favors by not exploring herself and the world and her body and what she likes and having romantic experiences.

It's just a sexist expired gender role thing that women should be virgin's or "have low body count" it's 2023. Women should be as experienced as men.

The risk for the Virgin woman to someday think "what if..." and get curious about the world and other people is also very big if she enters a serious relationship before she has had any previous experiences.

I think most adults want to meet another adult who's on the same wave length. Experience wise too.

You're suggesting she should concentrate on how to engage with others first and foremost, and not on her own life and goals. By working on herself and discovering who she is and what she wants will be beneficial to her and likely even help her choose her friends and lovers with more insight.

No, just different priorities

No it's not a red flag, but the question will then be how will she feel about doing it, and will she enjoy it? Or what will she enjoy or not enjoy.

Also what is she looking for or waiting for? And will you be wasting your time or will it be worth the wait, etc etc.

I don't know if I'd want to deal with learning all the rights and wrongs with someone. I did my time. Learnt my lessons. I don't think I want to be there to be someone else's learning block.

No, sounds like a green flag if anything. Focused on herself, didn't just bounce around hoping that hopping into someone's bed would lead to love. Yeah, biased, but that's a good thing.

Absolutely not. I think, it shows she has the courage and values.
I am in my late thirties and have zero experience.

No. Different people make different life choices. Doesn't mean anything is wrong.

Why should it be? As long as she is not driven by ambition into self-destructive obsession. You hint she does now want to meet someone.

I find it more fun as they find new ways and i teach them how to enjoy it more

No

Don't worry about RED FLAGS..so 1999 Oprah..just make yourself available

No. That's a smart lady. Men/dating can cause a lot of problems. It's wise to focus elsewhere.

I’ll go against the current. Yes it’s a yellow flag.
It could be a mental health issue. She could be emotionally unavailable. She will prefer hiring male escort to ups and down of an actual relationship.

I think most men like an experienced lover. If someone is not in tune with knowing how to please someone sexually that's not a preferred date....at least for me. That said if one really cares about someone else they should want to help teach their partner the sexual ropes. Often if a person goes a long long time and has not had sex....that is indicative of them just not wanting sex...and that is a red flag.

It’s ok to be unique and fabulous

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Not at all

No, she's probably extremely horny by now!

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Nah.

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I may mean that sex isn't that important to her, as one can do all that while working and going to school, no actual dating is required.

You again. Go away

Nah, I don't think so.
I dont generally judge someone based on how much or little experience they have with relationships, just compatibility.

Is it a red flag if a man is very inexperienced?
Or would you prefer someone's who's d!cked down a dozen women the past couple of years?

So long as she has interest now, it's all good.

Not at all.

Sweetie, girls were a total distraction for me at high school & Uni

I had my sports & studies, I never become interested until about 24

Hi

I see that as very positive, she focuses on her goals and goes after what she wants before settling down.